Irritable bowel...?
Q. My boyfriend has had this problem since he was a baby! It all started when he was 9 months old, he was rushed to hospital and operated on, there was a cyst on his bowel and a twisted gut! He is now 28 years old and 4 years ago this problem has came ...
A. 11 October 2011: If your bf has some form of Crohn's disease or ulcerative colitis then the symptoms can be very severe- one of my best friends has suffered from the latter for many years and it is completely debilitating. She has had extensive surgery on top of all ... (read in full...)
How do I stop letting him get his way?
Q. Long story short: i (stupidly) slept with this guy and i lost my virginity to him (he doesn't know that). After i slept with him he said he wasn't looking for anything serious but because i liked him i agreed to sleep with him anyway. This goes on ...
A. 10 October 2011: Block his number or don't answer when he calls you. If you don't speak to him chances are you won't give in when he starts flirting/looking for sex. He can't get his way with you if you stand up for yourself and stop letting him treat you like ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think the law not allowing 16 year olds an younger to have sex will stop anyone?
Q. Just want to clarify, I don't want to have sex. I just think its unrealistic. Do you think it'll stop anyone? No one will call the police. Especially if their both underage. I know why its there and all, but I also know a pregnant eighth grader. T...
A. 7 October 2011: I think, as others have pointed out here, that you need to look at it from a slightly different angle.
An age of consent is a signal to those over that age limit that they should not be having sex with a minor. Thereby, it is a criminal offence ... (read in full...)
Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?
Q. Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex ...
A. 7 October 2011: But OP if he doesn't make you excited why do you want him to give you another chance? You can't just settle for someone whom you know doesn't really excite you, but deal with it because you know you can have someone else on the side to keep your ... (read in full...)
Help! Advice? Am I driving my daughter away? Am I being too controlling?
Q. My daughter will be 21 on her next birthday. She is a high achiever but also could be a handful at times. From the ages from 16 to 18 she was out a lot, yes she was doing her A levels, part time job and cared for her horse. She also did go out with...
A. 5 October 2011: Hi OP
I think it is natural that you not only want the best from your daughter, but also want to have her around as you enjoy spending time with her and are probably dreading the day she moves out.
However, having read your post, I think yo... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is shooting blanks
Q. Hey guys I need a little help... Me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for 3 months now and wev still not got pregnant Im 21 and already have 2 kids from a previous relationship and my boyfriends 30 and doesnt have any kids Iv been pr...
A. 30 September 2011: If you are really concerned, have you thought about going to a private fertility clinic? You will be able to get an appointment at fairly short notice I would think. Your GP has to stipulate 12 months but if you are happy to pay then you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for not doing it more often or when he asks for oral sex?
Q. hi, my boyfriend and i are both 26 and have been together for four years. We seem to have the same repetitive arguement all the time regarding performing oral sex on him. The thing is i really dont like doing it, so i dont do it often. maybe lik...
A. 26 September 2011: I personally am of the view that no-one should have to do something they really don't want to when it comes to sex. If you really don't like it then I don't think you should do it.
The other side of that coin is don't expect him to give you oral... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 22 September 2011: So with your sister there to watch over you and your boyfriend, you think if the pair of you sneak off on your own for some time she isn't going to get suspicious and come and see what you are up to? I would imagine the reason she is there to watch ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed...but went looking for a second-hand ring!
Q. So my boyfriend proposed to me the other day. All was going well until he started searching for an engagement ring. We were talking on the phone and he said "Here's one I think you'll like" and sent me a picture of the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. ...
A. 21 September 2011: Luckily when my OH proposed he took me shopping and we chose a ring "together." Luckily the one I liked, he liked too, so we were all happy. I was pleased that he liked my choice, but I was also delighted that I was with him when we made a choice. I ... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: Thanks for the update OP
Here are my feelings on the matter. I definitely agree with most of the posters here who vote against the car option.
I would also say, however, that if you and your sister are left alone together in the house, I am ... (read in full...)
I always make fun of girlfriend's class and stuffs...How should I get rid of this habit?
Q. Dear Cupid, I always make fun of my girlfriend’s class and her middle class dressing and stuffs . Actually she is from middle class and I am from extremely rich family and we are in a relationship for the last four years and will make it off...
A. 21 September 2011: It seems like you are more bothered about making your gf aware of how much richer than her you are, than about caring for your gf's feelings. I am sure that every time you make a "joke" about these things she thinks you are a complete idiot and is ... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: If there is any risk whatsoever that your sister could walk in on you then I would strongly recommend you don't do it with her around/in the house. Is your sister older or younger than you?... (read in full...)
He forgot my birthday and I am going to forget his. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I've been this guy for about 4yrs. The past year has been nonstop fighting between us because he's constantly screwing up but for some reason, I always stay. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore, and most of the time, I absolutely can't stand him ...
A. 20 September 2011: Your bf has planned to go away for the birthday weekend, and you're not going to see each other. It sounds to me that he doesn't seem to care whether you wish him happy birthday/buy a gift or not if that is the case. He's made alternative plans ... (read in full...)
Why did I bleed after sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. I have had sex before, but haven't for more than a year, and the guy was smaller than my boyfriend and didn't go as deep or for as long. The next day, I was bleeding, kind o...
A. 18 September 2011: It's probably nothing to be concerned about, but you should get a medical opinion. Check this site (from the UK) which is what the health service over here recommends
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/977.aspx?CategoryID=118&SubCategoryID=121... (read in full...)
Nobody knows that a lot of my academic partner's work is done for him by me!
Q. How much should you give up for your partner's career? My fiance is an academic. He's at a conference right now. He was out until 4.30am drinking, and he'll be tired and grumpy when he comes home. He won't get any work done today, which mea...
A. 16 September 2011: Hey OP
I know a little about medicine as a second qualification. Perhaps you already know, but there are several institutions around the UK that will take any degree in lieu of A-levels or a degree in the sciences? PLus there are accelera... (read in full...)
My mother is emotionally and physically abusive
Q. Ok I am aware this doesnt really have anything to do with love but I really really need advice here or input of some sort so if you could all please read and help me id be soo grateful. So here it goes...I have an awful relationship wit...
A. 16 September 2011: I appreciate that you are very keen to move out of your mother's house and start enjoying your life, and that is understandable. It strike me, however, that you need to look at this situation in a very pragmatic light, and think about how you can ... (read in full...)
Nobody knows that a lot of my academic partner's work is done for him by me!
Q. How much should you give up for your partner's career? My fiance is an academic. He's at a conference right now. He was out until 4.30am drinking, and he'll be tired and grumpy when he comes home. He won't get any work done today, which mea...
A. 14 September 2011: This is a really bad situation and you should stop it now. If he is getting the credit for your writing then not only is he unfairly gaining the praise of his peers, but you should also be acknowledged for what you are contributing.
I personal... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 8 September 2011: OP I think there is a bigger issue here; if you have a compromised immune system and you need to take special care of your health, then surely seeing a guy who is also seeing other women- and exposing himself to whatever bugs/diseases they are ... (read in full...)
How do I ask fiance's dad and uncle to walk me down the aisle?
Q. Hello all. My fiance and I have been engaged for a few weeks now. I hope for a wedding in a year or so, after we're done with important events / work, etc.. My fiance's not very close with his dad. His father walked out on him, and has only ...
A. 8 September 2011: Of course I don't know anything about your personal circumstances, but I was just wondering whether your own family might be expecting you to ask someone from your side to walk you down the aisle?
As for your fiance's uncle and father, I personal... (read in full...)
Don't want to do anything stupid. Should I tell my "friend" that I like his girlfriend, but I'm not going to act on my feelings?
Q. so im in love with my "friend's" girlfriend and have been since february. I just want to be with her so much and everytime i speak or talk to her i just want to kiss her. we are quite good friends and talk very often. we text and facebook. i told...
A. 5 September 2011: Don't say anything. I don't see what you hope to gain by telling your friend. Just because you say you won't act on your feelings he will probably be suspicious of your contact with his girlfriend as he knows how you feel about her, and already has ... (read in full...)
Mum has outstayed her welcome but she has nowhere else to go!
Q. my 79 year old mum has got a fear of living on her own and spending nights on her own. she is fit and well for her age, she does not even look 79, she is not like a frail old lady. when i had my baby and got a house of my own and moved out she mo...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi OP
I'm afraid I don't have the time to read over all this right now so perhaps this has already been said but is there any chance you could share a room with your mum if she comes to stay rather than your son having to? I know this doesn't ... (read in full...)
Problems with marrying my boyfriend.....how do we get around this?
Q. how can i get married to my boyfriend? he is from iraq and only has a home office id card which cannot be used as id for marriage at the registrar office. he has been in this country 4 years and is awaiting his passport, he has been waiting about 6 ...
A. 2 September 2011: I assume he has been awarded British citizenship if he is applying for a passport? Having said that as far as I was aware you had to have lived here for at least 5 years if you are not married to a British national in order to qualify for this (a ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want to spend every weekend with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Here is my issue. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years, and i feel there has always been an issue with his friends being very important to him. He works shifts so sometimes I dont get to see him much at weekends. It's not that he spends ...
A. 1 September 2011: Hi OP
For me this is a tough one. I have to say from experience that I can understand just how you feel. I always wanted to spend more time with my ex than he did with me. On the other hand, I knew perfectly well that he was not being unreason... (read in full...)
I get emotional when I hear about child abuse.
Q. Im 28 and a mother of a beautiful 16 month old baby boy. Every night before I fall alsleep i cry for all the beautiful little kids out there who are not cared for or are victims of child abuse. I cannot get my head round the fact that there are ...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi OP
You seem like a very caring and compassionate woman and mother. Why don't you channel your emotion into doing something positive in the fight against child abuse if you really want to try and help or make a difference. This is much more con... (read in full...)
Finding a unique name for a baby boy
Q. Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...
A. 29 August 2011: Ascanius... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and I've been harrasing her by e-mail
Q. Okay there is this teacher that I am like really obsessed with and I harass her lot on email sending her stuff saying I love her I'm not a lesbian or anything it's just every time I see her at school I just think she's everything. I know it's ...
A. 29 August 2011: What's your question? You clearly know what you have been doing is wrong. Please leave this woman alone as you could cause serious trouble for her.
When you say you love her, are you talking about in a daughter-parent type way? Do you have pro... (read in full...)
My friend flirts with my crush
Q. I am really conflicted over a situation I'm in. I regard myself as someone who's genuine and has a good moral compass. Recently I met someone in a professional sense that I developed a crush on over time. This chap is married with children. I ...
A. 29 August 2011: It seems to me like she is only doing it to get a reaction out of you. Presumably she also knows he is married. If she is trying to make you jealous then it seems she has succeeded. However, considering that you have a good moral compass as you say, ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my wife about her hygiene without offending her?
Q. Hi, My wife's let herself go of late. By this I mean she could shower more and cuold shave more often. How do I bring this up? There have been times when getting intimate has been tough due to smell. I always ensure she orgasms and really en...
A. 29 August 2011: I reckon whatever you say will offend her just by the very nature of what you have to say. However, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't tell her, and I don't think you should be put off by this if you have a valid concern, which it seems that you ... (read in full...)
How can I play hard to get with my steady boyfriend?
Q. Every guy and girl says they 'don't want to play games' but I've been learning more and more that everything is a game, ESPECIALLY relationships, and the moment you stop playing - you lose. Anyway, how do I do it successfully? Play hard to get...
A. 29 August 2011: Well if you want to play hard to get then do exactly that. Ignore his calls, cancel plans you've made with him and don't keep in contact. I guess the aim is that he then takes the initiative and tries to make more of an effort or chases you around ... (read in full...)
Tricked by a man - again!
Q. What is going on with me ? I have just been totally tricked yet again.I have had my fair share of life lessons regarding relationships but seem more naive than I have ever been. I met a guy who I thought really liked me .he seemed so genuine and we ...
A. 23 August 2011: What did he do to trick you? I agree, more info needed!... (read in full...)
My boyfriends interfering mum is a nightmare!
Q. Well, I've got a little problem. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and we have a 7 month old son who we just adore. Everything is going fantastic with us, he's my best friend, I know we are going to be together forever. But the ...
A. 23 August 2011: How much longer is the house going to take? Maybe you, your bf and the baby should move out and get a short-term rental somewhere until it's done if it's really that bad. Then you can enjoy being a new mum and won't need to worry about any ... (read in full...)
I want to try to be a vegetarian. Any advice?
Q. Hi. I'm considering becoming a vegetarian. There are many reasons behind this, but I need some advice. I'm an animal-lover and a bit of an environmentalist. I don't like our general lifestyle either. I know that people have always relied on meat a...
A. 22 August 2011: I used to be vegetarian for quite few years and I didn't find it problematic; there were lots of things I wanted to eat but didn't because I had taken the decision not to eat meat.
However, as I have got older my ideas have changed a bit. For me, ... (read in full...)
Has he figured out my surprise? How can I cover it up?
Q. hey guys i need some help quick..so please any ideas quickly.. my bf is an auditor for a hotel company and goes away to 5* hotels every week. This week i joined him and it was amazinngg... before i left home i had taken loadsa candles, flower ...
A. 22 August 2011: I wouldn't worry too much. If you said you were saving it for "later", he might not think it was for today. I doubt he has sussed your plan, to be honest, so I'm not sure there is anything to cover up anyway. ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or is there a chance he likes me?
Q. I work in a shop and for the last 5 months a guy (paul)has made a point of coming on my checkout every time I work. he tells me how gorgeous i am and how lucky my boyfriend is. my boyfriend finished with me 2 months ago - I told paul that I'm no ...
A. 22 August 2011: It sounds like he's using you. Certainly you are far more interested in him if you are calling him while you're abroad. Get rid of him and either have a break or find someone who is interested in more than just sex.... (read in full...)
I want a baby but my dad would be really angry with me
Q. I need some advice. Im an 18 year old women and although i know its still quite young me and my boyfriend of 14 months are so desperate for a family. I would love to have a baby i know how difficult it would be but im sure we would cope. He has a 2 ...
A. 22 August 2011: OP your boyfriend's ex sounds awful from what you say, but then I would ask why you want to get yourself even further caught up in this situation by bringing yet another child into the equation. I can see why your dad would be angry if you gave up ... (read in full...)
I think about him all the time. can I really stay in love with someone so far away and who cannot speak my language?
Q. I go on holiday every year to the same place as me and my family have friends over there. This year when we was with the friends i met someone who was related to the friend and we all had a good time. The guy liked me from the start and towards the ...
A. 20 August 2011: Are you making an effort to learn his language? These things work both ways. ... (read in full...)
My Mom has upset me. Should I just pack up and go back to where my real home is ?
Q. Help. I'm depressed and can't talk to my mum about it because she's the cause. She tore apart our family and moved me states away from my brother who's now living with my dad. Me and my mum have moved to 2 different states before a year's time. I ha...
A. 20 August 2011: Sounds to me like you should head home to your dad and your brother.
Both you and your mum are grown adults; this means you need to make the best decision for YOU, and also that your mum is old enough to deal with the consequences. In this cas... (read in full...)
Did I say the wrong thing and break this up? Or is his reaction the problem?
Q. i met this guy on plenty of fish coming up to a year in september we havent met yet but we do talk all the time via txt or phone, We have been meaning to meet but for various reasons, different jobs and place we live, it never seem to happen, ...
A. 20 August 2011: I don't think you should really feel bad- I think he has seriously over-reacted.
Not only that but I think it's really nasty that he should say you can f**k off if you don't believe him; to me that is really aggressive and rude. I wouldn't... (read in full...)
I thought I was pregnant and needed some empathy from DC but I didn't get it!
Q. Dear cupid, you have done an excellent job and I am happy to be connected to this page. However, when I enquired if I could be pregnant(anonymous, 30 yo, fingered,?preganant),I needed an answer with some empathy. Your response was correct but ...
A. 19 August 2011: Hi OP
I can't remember your original post, but I am sorry if you were hurt by any replies which you may have received.
Not knowing your question but reading your description here, I think the problem could be that questions like yours seem ... (read in full...)
Is it an insult to be called "posh"?
Q. Would you consider it an insult to be called " posh " ?. I am well mannered, intelligent, kind and caring, and i usually dress smartly. So, i think that's why this person called me " posh " once. I also don't usually swear , unless i'm really angry, ...
A. 17 August 2011: Don't worry about it. I have had that a few times and in my case people think I talk "posh" because I am not living where I was brought up and hence have a different accent from most people round here.
Don't worry about it. You sound like a n... (read in full...)
Texting a guy who already has a girlfriend.....is this wrong?
Q. I know this may seem obvious and I'm sure most of you will right away say it is wrong and I shouldnt be texting him, but let me give you the full story and please reserve your judgement until then! I met a guy on Saturday night whilst out with ...
A. 17 August 2011: I'm not convinced you can be such good mates as you hardly know each other. You've only met once. If you wanted to make friends with him I would think it is better to get together face to face, with this guy's gf and maybe some other people ... (read in full...)
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