My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 3 February 2010: Now that you have explained a bit more, perhaps its time to create a crisis in the marriage. You could do this by moving out for 2 weeks not to divorce but just to shock both of you into remembering what's important. Continue your duties with the ... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 3 February 2010: Now that you have explained a bit more, perhaps its time to create a crisis in the marriage. You could do this by moving out for 2 weeks not to divorce but just to shock both of you into remembering what's important. Continue your duties with the ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to have an orgasm.
Q. How can i cum or orgasm when i masterbate without sticking my finger / anything else in my vagina ?...
A. 3 February 2010: read a racy novel and squeeze your legs together. ... (read in full...)
Her sexual desire has gone, help me find it again...
Q. my wife has really gone off sex and seems somewhat distant. ever since we got back together after she cheated on me nearly 2 yrs ago our love life has been slowly sliding sideways. she does tell me that she loves me more than anything and she doesnt ...
A. 3 February 2010: In that case depending on her age maybe she is starting to go through menopause. Maybe a visit to her doctor and a blood test could give you some answers. And 5 lazy kids? I have 3 and I hardly do a thing. They do most of their housework. If ... (read in full...)
The Etiquette of Casual Sex!?
Q. I would appreciate only responses from people who are not going to offer their own moral judgements on the following situation... Recently, I experimented with one of the 'casual dating websites' - no really seriously at first, but then I start...
A. 3 February 2010: Casual means that you only contact each other when you are making a date for your next sexual encounter. There are no calls to see how you are or any hi emails. Just stony silence until one of you makes a booty call. Most people doing casuals are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I get along great... but I kissed my ex, do I tell him and risk losing him?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been dating a guy for about 4 months and it is pretty serious. We are planning on living together. The guy is sweet, caring, everything a girl can ask for. But the thing is i have kissed my ex-boyfriend and I'm debating if i sho...
A. 3 February 2010: Never kiss and tell. He can use it against you for months and even go on a cheating binge just to even up the score. He will never know unless you bleat it. If your ex says something its his jealous word against yours. If you had slept with your ... (read in full...)
Her sexual desire has gone, help me find it again...
Q. my wife has really gone off sex and seems somewhat distant. ever since we got back together after she cheated on me nearly 2 yrs ago our love life has been slowly sliding sideways. she does tell me that she loves me more than anything and she doesnt ...
A. 3 February 2010: Since you were using sex as security, I'm wondering if you made sex feel like she owed you an apology for cheating. Is it possible that she slept with you as an obligation where you were mostly satisfied and she went along with it to make up for ... (read in full...)
Dating a different race...
Q. Okay, so here's my problem. I'm 16 and have always been attracted to all races, it's never been an issue until recently. I'm white, and have become really close friends with this guy.. who's black, we're very flirty with each other. I like him and ...
A. 3 February 2010: Maybe just desensitize your dad to the idea by having the guy over to the house with others in group so your dad can get to see how wonderful he is. Your dad doesn't have to know he is your boyfriend right away. Maybe by the time he finds out, he ... (read in full...)
What to wear when having sex for the first time...?
Q. hello! as im sure you know, its valentines day coming up and me and my partner will be having sex for the first time! i know i want to do it so please dont tell me to make sure im ready as ive already been through all of this in my head and i am ...
A. 2 February 2010: keep wet wipes in your bag to freshen up your bits. And a spare pair of knickers. ... (read in full...)
I don't think, I can forgive to my husband for his sexual let down.
Q. I don't think, I can forgive to my husband for his sexual let down. He totally cooled out a few years ago, and has problems with psychological erectile dysfunction. I mean he is healthy, but not able to hold an erection. But no diabetes or anything ...
A. 2 February 2010: You obviously feel a lot of resentment towards your husband. You probably feel that he has withdrawn emotionally from you which is ofcourse totally not fair on you. Yes, not all marriages can be saved but you need to think things through before you ... (read in full...)
His parents won't let me see him...
Q. Ok. i have met this guy on the internet because it's really hard to find someone who wants a relationship. well the thing is im 19 and he is 16 and no matter what i do, his parents intervene they say tht he is a minor an ill call the police on you ...
A. 2 February 2010: Its best for you to go back to the dating site and choose someone over 18 and independent. I think you are being unnecessarily persistent with someone who is unavailable. Just let him go and move on... (read in full...)
His parents won't let me see him...
Q. Ok. i have met this guy on the internet because it's really hard to find someone who wants a relationship. well the thing is im 19 and he is 16 and no matter what i do, his parents intervene they say tht he is a minor an ill call the police on you ...
A. 2 February 2010: Its best for you to go back to the dating site and choose someone over 18 and independent. I think you are being unnecessarily persistent with someone who is unavailable. Just let him go and move on... (read in full...)
Am I just their cook and cleaner?
Q. I have been with this man for three years taking care of his teenage son, cooking, cleaning, helping feed and so on, with the understanding when he turned eighteen this man and i would be alone. now i find he's going to be underfoot till who knows ...
A. 2 February 2010: At 51 you should be relaxing and enjoying life with all of the kids now out of the house. Basically you are a free maid who also pays bills. Firstly, stop paying bills or making any financial contribution. Just come up with a story about someone ... (read in full...)
I am very confused and not able to forget her past.
Q. I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...
A. 2 February 2010: The thing is though, there is obviously a certain expectation or standard you set that made her believe that the only way to keep you is to claim she was a virgin. It sounds like she felt pressured to live up to this ideal. She lied to keep you ... (read in full...)
Does he mean it when he says he never wants to get married again?
Q. PLease help! I went on a date with a man that is twice divorced and 50 years old. His first wife cheated on him and the second wife took him for everything financialy. We met the other day for a casual meeting. He is nice and funny. He was with a ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think this guy gave you your answer right there. Especially saying it within earshot of you, that's a huge hint and you should take it. Once a man gets to this age he will probably never change his mind. They get really stubborn and set in their ... (read in full...)
We met online and out of the blue he asked me a question I didnt want to answer
Q. I've met this guy online,we have engaged in nice conversations so far via messaging and we talked a few times on skype.The last time we talked he randomly asked me If I thought of him.I didn't know what to say.Of course I had thought about him but I ...
A. 2 February 2010: Ofcourse the answer should be yes if you are I interested in him. Or you ask him tell me first if you think of me. Its not like if you say yes then he will dump you. Boost his ego a little. ... (read in full...)
What do men think about a woman moving in with them?
Q. What do men truly think about a woman moving in with them? Does it reduce "the chase"? Does it reduce the chances of asking her to marry you? Do men see it as "Why buy the cow when you're already getting the milk for free"? would you...
A. 2 February 2010: In my personal experience, when you move in with a guy you have to let him know your expectations before doing so. Eg. I'm only moving in if this is going somewhere.
The chase is not about playing hard to get and other childish stuff. The chas... (read in full...)
My mother is making life so difficult for me and I'm 26!
Q. My mother is making things really difficult for me. I've been with my BF for almost 6 months...it's my first serious relationship. He's a great guy and treats me well. I also live with my parents as I bought a property with them last year. I ...
A. 2 February 2010: Just to add... I also had intimidating parents who have been known to throw a punch on occasion if I didn't tow the line. But the truth is their bark is worse than their bite. If you dont do as she says what really can she do to you at the end of ... (read in full...)
My mother is making life so difficult for me and I'm 26!
Q. My mother is making things really difficult for me. I've been with my BF for almost 6 months...it's my first serious relationship. He's a great guy and treats me well. I also live with my parents as I bought a property with them last year. I ...
A. 2 February 2010: Just to add... I also had intimidating parents who have been known to throw a punch on occasion if I didn't tow the line. But the truth is their bark is worse than their bite. If you dont do as she says what really can she do to you at the end of ... (read in full...)
My mother is making life so difficult for me and I'm 26!
Q. My mother is making things really difficult for me. I've been with my BF for almost 6 months...it's my first serious relationship. He's a great guy and treats me well. I also live with my parents as I bought a property with them last year. I ...
A. 2 February 2010: You are absolutely right to want your space and be able to do as you please. At 26 was she still single and living with her parents under lock and key? At the same time you have to see that she is acting this way because she is worried that you may ... (read in full...)
I am very confused and not able to forget her past.
Q. I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think you should delay your marriage to her for a while. If there were any marriage plans put them on hold for now until you iron this out. Starting a marriage with betrayal as your foundation is a recipe for disaster but it can be overcome if ... (read in full...)
Was it rape or attempted rape?
Q. Is this rape or attempted rape? I'm 18 years old now and when this first started i was 17 almost 18. Well my mom wanted me to get a job. so she asks her friend who i didn't really care for about letting me work for him. she has known this guy s...
A. 2 February 2010: Why can't you tell your mother? Tell her and if she doesn't believe you then ask her to hide out and watch his behavior so she can see it for herself. What do you think you are doing allowing this to carry on? Speak up today.... (read in full...)
How do you know if a man is stingy?
Q. Hello people, How do you know if a man is stingy? I mean i had a date with a man i met on line. I prepared myself very well and wore the best i have. But i was shocked when i found out what he wore, he wore daddy jeans or baggy jeans a terrible...
A. 2 February 2010: My boyfriend is a millionaire but he uses an old Nokia with a faded keypad that doesn't even have email or MMS. His phone is a non issue; people with fancy phones are probably in debt buying them for the next 2 years. But I am inclined to agree ... (read in full...)
I find young girls attractive, but I want to maybe seek help.
Q. I don't know where to start.. I'll explain it to the best I can. Please be kind and understanding with your replies. It IS normal for a guy to find girls attractive from when they can start to create a child. (Puberty). It is just society...
A. 2 February 2010: You are treading on dangerous ground; sorry to bring everybody back to earth. Yes, children may BEGIN to undergo puberty to prepare their bodies for procreation in the future. But physical maturity (which takes 4 to 5 years) is only a small part ... (read in full...)
If I loose 20 pounds and he's suddenly all romantic, do I accept him, or slap him?
Q. I've been married for over 20 years and have 2 lovely sons, 16 and 19. The oldest is away at college, the youngest a High School Junior. He drives 30 min to school. He's not into sports, has a few friends, but mostly goes to school, to work and ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think this is one of those situations where there is his version, your version and then there is the truth. If he is not being abusive and cheating or anything like that, then your relationship is worth saving. You may benefit from a marriage ... (read in full...)
Gay moments...
Q. First thing first, i'm complely straight, i love girls yet i seem to to have what i call "gay moments" meaning i catch myself staring at a guy, Is there something wrong with me?...
A. 2 February 2010: Looking in admiration or even envy is completely normal and probably close to 100% of people do this. But if you feel a fleeting attraction for guys then you might want to google the Kinsey scale. This theory by Dr Kinsey basically states that ... (read in full...)
Any words of wisdom on how I can make my life better?
Q. A lot has happened in my life lately, i lost my father 6 months ago, my boyfriend dumped me three weeks ago for someone else and is now wanting me back, which is hard as i still have feelings for him, and i am having trouble paying off my debts (my ...
A. 2 February 2010: With my problems, what helped me was reading The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I think you can get a copy from the library or second hand for $4 including shipping on Amazon. You cant change your circumstances but you can change your attitude. And it ... (read in full...)
Should I just be patient for a little while longer?
Q. I have a friend that has been around for 22 years. We have dated strongly for 3 years, split up then both of us married other people. Since our divorces, we have dated strongly off and on for several months at a time. Now I am invited to be his ...
A. 2 February 2010: Tell him in a sexy, friendly, non threatening way that if this relationship is not going anywhere then you dont know if you want to continue it. Women often make the mistake of being afraid to give an ultimatum, but there is a way you do it without ... (read in full...)
I always thought I'd be her first... why did she do this to me???
Q. Well, this one is compicated. I'm in love with this girl. We've been inseperable since we were ten, and when we were maybe 15 she said she loved me too. Just recently, however, I went away for a while (not jail, overseas) and when I came back she ...
A. 2 February 2010: you wanted to be her first; my question is: was she going to be your first? I assume you are also a virgin and were saving yourself for her too??... (read in full...)
What does one do with themselves, when they realize their life plan and biggest hope will never happen?
Q. Well, I'll try to make this short, but I always wanted to have kids. Or I should say I thought that I'd have kids by now. But I don't and I doubt that I will find someone before I am infertile, to be biologically honest. I recently got out...
A. 2 February 2010: have you tried asking him how he would feel about giving you a child? Maybe he would agree. If fertility is a problem then research IVF.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think your husband is right that you are acting weird.. I suspect a mental illness in this case. Just read her posts and tell me she has all her marbles..... (read in full...)
Good songs about unrequited love?
Q. Does anyone know of any really good love songs i can listen to about an unrequited love. thanks ...
A. 1 February 2010: which genre?... (read in full...)
My husband tells me I have nothing to be insecure about, yet I am very insecure. Please help.
Q. Hi,im 22 years old and i have 2 kids and a wonderful husband,my life is very nice god has really blessed me and i should be very happy but lately I really hate myself I hate my face I hate my body and i just feel really ugly for some reason even ...
A. 1 February 2010: Read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I wasted my 20's being insecure like this. Now in my mid 30's I've woken up and taken control and its great!... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 1 February 2010: Try wooing her again; some ideas: fix stuff around the house, do the dishes, dont leave your clothes lying on the floor for her to pick up, start dinner and set the table instead of waiting for her to serve you like a slave, buy her something sexy. ... (read in full...)
I am supposed to get married in 2 1/2 months but I just got my sister in law pregnant!
Q. hi im master splinter . in about 2 and a half months im getting married BUT THERE IS ONE THING i need to get of my chest its my sister inlaw to be well about 2 weeks ago my girlfriend went into hospital to give birth to our 2 child . i was there at ...
A. 1 February 2010: I agree with everybody. But here is my advice: seriously consider a termination. Unfortunately its not your final decision but you need to do this properly. Then tell your girlfriend now that you dont want the wedding for now and you would like to ... (read in full...)
Another cheating husband! Now I have trust issues!
Q. Dear cupid Please take your time and give me your views. I am married and have been with my husband for 30yrs,I found out that he was having an affair with a girl 20yrs younger (also married)I was devastated as i never dreamed that he would cheat a...
A. 1 February 2010: Baddogbj has answered it perfectly. I was a victim of cheating and went back. My ex husband made theatrical declarations of his love for me, apologised, rolled on the floor in despair, threatened to kill himself if I left him, begged and I believed ... (read in full...)
I am worried my partner won't like my breasts.
Q. my breast are loose and big will my partner not like it becoz he is younger than me?...
A. 1 February 2010: If you are confident he won't care. Men would rather have a confident sexy woman than a young boring one. Just pretend you are a goddess and be uninhibited and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Help I have a Frigid Husband
Q. I have been married for over 8 years, 7 of which have been totally void of love, sex and affection. I became pregnant 7 years ago and all attention was switched to my daughter. I am very angry with him for destroying my life as I have continued t...
A. 1 February 2010: You should consider a separation. Sometimes a shock can be the trigger to get people talking. Just agree to a 2 week separation where each of you decide if your relationship is worth saving. Or if you can afford it, take a holiday off by yourself ... (read in full...)
How do I win my wife back and keep our little family together?
Q. i just recently found out that my wife is having an affair. this is a guy she worked with 10 years ago. he now lives in las vegas. i over heard her tell him that she loves him. we live in va. they were together last weekend when she was supposed to ...
A. 1 February 2010: This is an ideal time to go for couples' counseling. Surely you can convince her to at least agree to this. Maybe she has been feeling unloved and taken for granted for years.. So marriage counseling might be a way for her to come out and say ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife not instigate sex?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 16 years. Sex has been a roller coaster. We have three beautiful children that are fantastic. "Susan", my wife, has been a nurse for 16 years. I've been in construction for about the same. My issue with "Susan" is ...
A. 1 February 2010: Try look up your local marriage enrichment courses. These are couples' classes that take place maybe 2 evenings a week for 6 weeks; often churches offer these for free but you can inquire about secular courses that you pay a small fee for. During ... (read in full...)
I feel I have been pushed into child access arrangements
Q. Me and my long tearm boyfriend split up this week. We have a 2 month old baby and we both agreed that, he would have are daughter for 3 day at his home and 1 night. This means that I would be takeing care of her for 4 days and 6 nights. Their is ...
A. 1 February 2010: Wow this post has taken off! To the mother: I think you truly know your baby daddy more than we could and you insist that he has already proven himself so far. So since you have made a decision, just monitor as closely as possible and watch the ... (read in full...)
I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?
Q. How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad ...
A. 31 January 2010: Also try rule out a few things: do you drink or smoke? Weed? Are you overweight (waist more than 35 inches)? Too much red meat/ cholesterol/ hydrogenated fats/ Take out? How is your blood pressure and blood sugar? If you are perfect in all the ... (read in full...)
Bad relationship with my husbands kids! How can I change things?
Q. Several years ago I got involved with an older, married man. At the time I thought it was simply a short fling, but it developed into a relationship that eventually led to him leaving his wife. I do not feel the need to go into the 'gritty' ...
A. 31 January 2010: When I first read this message I was about to type a reply that would for sure get me banned from the site. Having taken a deep breath, I thought I would tell you what a family friend did that worked miracles, although something tells me you won't ... (read in full...)
I feel I have been pushed into child access arrangements
Q. Me and my long tearm boyfriend split up this week. We have a 2 month old baby and we both agreed that, he would have are daughter for 3 day at his home and 1 night. This means that I would be takeing care of her for 4 days and 6 nights. Their is ...
A. 30 January 2010: Celiaaletta: my message was directed at the mother who posted the question, not at you. So no need for "double standard" accusations. You are clearly not a mother and my comment was directed to someone who had actually experienced motherhood my ... (read in full...)
I feel I have been pushed into child access arrangements
Q. Me and my long tearm boyfriend split up this week. We have a 2 month old baby and we both agreed that, he would have are daughter for 3 day at his home and 1 night. This means that I would be takeing care of her for 4 days and 6 nights. Their is ...
A. 30 January 2010: It is a bad idea to pack off your child for a night away at this young age. Who are you doing this for? Your baby or the father? A baby's routine should not be interrupted for the first 6 months to 1 year of life. Stability is key to a well ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 28 January 2010: Wait a minute; are we being Punk'd? Or maybe in high school?? Do you think us adults are here to play this game with you? You seriously need to grow up because when your husband finds out it won't be so funny. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 23 January 2010: Child, just go through the posts here and read about the mistresses who have been waiting forever, some 20 years for the man to leave his wife; they hardly ever do. Have you ever stopped to think of what the poor wife is going through while you are ... (read in full...)
| *ngzw's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ngzw has
added them and they have added *ngzw!
|
