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my boyfriend wont go down on me anymore

sir3n, posted over a year ago

my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs. the 1st couple of months we were together he had gone down on me, although it only lasted a few times. i had never encouraged him to as i beleive it wasnt of real importance. although lately i feel that the sex weve been having is getting very mechanical, and that its not intimate or exciting anymore. ive asked him why he doesnt go down on me anymore like he used to, and his reply was that he doesnt like to. it doesnt seem fair, as i always give him oral sex.

as i can see that he feels uncomfortable talking bout the topic,i havent bothered to ask him again. he had also promised me there was nothing wrong with me. apart from the bad sex, we have a very good relationship. he shows his affections in all other ways.

i know i shouldnt keep pursueing him in doing somthing he doesnt like, although because he hasnt given me a straight answer, im starting to get fustrated and perceiving him as selfish. :(

Posted on 15 September 2007 @ 15:54 (London time) - permalink
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AngryMonkey, posted over a year ago

Well... I for one like giving it, but my wife on the other hand either doesn't like how I do it or just doesn't like it in general. One in a million I guess. I even shave a few hours before and make sure all is well on my end. After doing it for her, I'll make a quick jaunt to the restroom to gargle as the taste seems to throw her off.

Occasionally she will do oral on me, but it's rare and apparently not enjoyable.

I'd suggest stop doing oral on him. This is one guys opinion, but turn about is fair play as far as I'm concerned.

The only thing I could think of is that lack of grooming (for both parties) could make it less enjoyable to the giver...

Just my .02.

Posted on 16 September 2007 @ 3:54 (London time) - permalink
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Emmajane, posted over a year ago

Ad a girl, I have to say that the biggest turn-off for a guy is to go down on his girl and find that she smells a bit through lack of hygene. This may not be the problem however I suggest it's the most common reason guys don't like to do it.

Have a good bath and wash thoroughly there, (Bath together if you like, and washing can be part of the foreplay) and when you've finished, use some nice lube with a mild scent, so you cannot possibly be accused of smelling.

I hope I've not offended you by suggesting this.

Posted on 29 September 2007 @ 19:41 (London time) - permalink
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Pinkbees09, posted over a year ago

Maybe he just doesn't feel comfy doing that to you, some guys like it and others don't. But your doing a good thing by not forcing him to talk about it.

I wouldn't say that he's being selfish persay but that did cross my mind when I read this

Posted on 6 October 2007 @ 18:47 (London time) - permalink
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tux, posted over a year ago

Personally I love to give. shaven or not down there. though not every guy likes to give just as not every girl likes to receive.

Posted on 6 November 2007 @ 4:3 (London time) - permalink
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hello1, posted over a year ago

Dont do it for him, simple. It's unfair and makes me laugh how many girls say this yet don't do anything about it.

Posted on 2 December 2007 @ 14:38 (London time) - permalink
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jamiexox, posted over a year ago

Y should he take away something that you love and enjoy just because he doesnt like it... i dont think that is fair.. we all dont like doing certain things in the sex department but you put on a brave face and work away.. i would probably confront him about it again!!! just to see excatly why he wont do it anymore.. incase as has been said above hygiene reasons or for not being well groomed.. cause these are all easy fixed.. there is such thing as a latex sheet that is used by girls and fells while performing oral sex on femals.. this is like a another skin which you put ove rthe vagina.. it wont feel as if it is there to you.. but to a fella it helps take their mind off the fact that he is acutally down round that region performing oral sex.

My boyfriend went through a wee blip where he just didnt want sex anymore.. oral sex was good enough for him.. i got my vibrator left it on the bed.. clearly for him to see to think that i had used it.. little did he know that i hadnt lets just say that all changed.. i know there isnt an oral sex alternative.. but i hope you can resolve this problem.

j xxx

Posted on 9 December 2007 @ 19:37 (London time) - permalink
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Azure1, posted over a year ago

sir3n

I can top that one.

I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 17 years.

it's amazing how things just fall apart.

we were just really good friends for 3 years before our first time in 1994.

we lived in the same house in seperate rooms and one night i wrote, (Roam If You Want To) on a piece of paper .

I put it on her pillow and about 10 minutes later She rocked my world for nearly 2 hrs.

then about 2 years ago, things suddenly turned off.

There has been 0 between us since March 03 2006.

It's like everytime i even talk about Sex she tells me that she has No interest anymore and she can't understand why anyone would want something stuck between their legs. ???????.

I've tried everything.

Another thing i Hate hearing are these words....

I have no idea what it is, I'm just going through something, BUT, It's not you, it's me.

As i said, it's been 2 years now and 0.

And i have to say that, Having sex with myself and the occasional Porno are really getting Boring.

Our relationships sound almost identical, it's scary.

Also, To Angry Monkey

You say that you have the #1 in a Million, well, I have #2.

Posted on 26 March 2008 @ 8:11 (London time) - permalink
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16yroldman, posted over a year ago

Wash it wel and make sure your shaven, it might just be me might i find my toung feels horrible if it brushes against pubes and it sounds weird but air it out for a few mins lol hold ur lips open it will make it feel looser

Also make sure theres no tissue or anything stuck to it XD

Posted on 12 August 2008 @ 11:5 (London time) - permalink
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