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fuse, posted over a year ago

Why does my husband choose masturbating to porn rather than having sex with me? This really bothers my spirit. It makes me feel less than a womman and very unattractive. Although guys find me attractive I am baffled with my husband's actions. He stored nude pictures of women in his cellular phone and did not have one picture of me stored inside the phone. He looks at other women in lust. It's so confusing to me we have only been married for three what should I expect for years to come? I know there is no way for me to compete with the women in his mind. That is impossible and I have no idea when he is thinking of these images and it has caused me to have so much built up resentment towards him.

Posted on 18 December 2006 @ 2:9 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

This belongs on the main site, as the forum is more for discussion and debating. To answer your question, in short, I believe you don't really need to try to understand, despite whatever you may feel for the relationship itself. Simply, if this marriage has grown to be less than ideal for you, you can file for a divorce. The discussion on porn has been so widely talked about here on DC that it's quite tiring for a lot to repeatedly say things over and over again. If you're interested in reading those to satisfy a curiosity, here is a link:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/want-to-share-some-research-on-the-effects.html

Otherwise, you really don't need to stay in this relationship. Find someone else that can treat you the way you want to be treated.

Posted on 16 January 2007 @ 10:38 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Okay, that was weird... 4 WEEKS AGO?!?! How did I get here? [ponders thoughtfully] Did I travel back in time briefly? I could have sworn I saw another post here that triggered my response... [ponders] Uncanny... o_O

Posted on 16 January 2007 @ 10:39 (London time) - permalink
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Nikita, posted over a year ago

Martini, if you've travelled back in time then so have I cos I thought i saw another post here too just a minute ago and now its gone. I havent even been drinking either....

Posted on 16 January 2007 @ 10:52 (London time) - permalink
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DearCupid, posted over a year ago

I deleted one.

Posted on 16 January 2007 @ 12:1 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Ah yes of course... That makes sense now... 8]

Posted on 16 January 2007 @ 13:4 (London time) - permalink
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baybee_shiv_x, posted over a year ago

taslk ot him abpout it, buy some really sexy revealing clothes a maids outfit or a slutty nurse and get agressive ! show him what hees missing!

Posted on 22 January 2007 @ 22:9 (London time) - permalink
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welp, posted over a year ago

Here, maybe this will help

"Show me the most beautiful woman in the world, and I'll show you a man who can get sick of her"

It's wrong for him to ignore you sexually, but you aren't going to get him to stop masturbating... Us guys NEED diversity. It will do you no good to think that he compares you to porn chicks, he doesn't. He thinks of those women as a place to put his penis. He thinks of their sexuality as a boost to his masculinity. If you feel comfortable to bring it up directly, you should tell him that his porno is fine, but that he should see you as a sexual being as well... and that he's got to please HIS woman first!

Don't take this as me telling you to just get over his lusting (that's not going to happen, I know, I've got my own jealousy issues...and they're tought to deal with!)

Posted on 3 April 2007 @ 6:6 (London time) - permalink
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spiffjackson, posted over a year ago

try to get into the porn with him. That might change things a bit.

Posted on 3 April 2007 @ 21:34 (London time) - permalink
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