engaged forever!

Hi. I noticed no one had posted here so thought I'd start off. My partner and I got together in summer 2003, he was really into me and everything and asked me to marry him after only a couple of weeks. He was so happy that he didn't even care that his footie team was losing! We got the engagement rings Boxing Day that year then we had a party 6 months later. I thought he really wanted to get married but now we have been together almost 3 years and since the party, there has been no indication of him actually wanting to marry me! Still, 3 years isn't very long, my sister got engaged when she was 18, she's still engaged to him... she'll be 32 this year! Anyone else been engaged for a long time? Any plans of actually getting married? Does being engaged really mean anything?

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 0:17 (London time) - permalink
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hi, iv been with my man for over 2 years and we are not intrested in getting engaged yet or anything like that, have you spoken to your partner about this? maybe there is a reason for such a long wait , maybe money is a issue or maybe he just does not feel ready to make that type of commitment

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 0:26 (London time) - permalink
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Well yes, money is a big issue. I'm not too fussed about getting married myself. It just seems weird that there appear to be loads of people getting engaged and staying engaged instead of actually getting married. As for my sister, she did want to get married and money isn't too much of a problem for them but now they've been together for so long, I think they're just used to it! Their son doesn't want them to get married(he's 13)because a couple of his friends parents were really happy together and then got married and it all went downhil, now they're divorced!

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 19:50 (London time) - permalink
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I have been with my fella for 6 and half years. We have been engaged for 2 and half and plan to get married next May. Yes money is a big issue and once you start planning your wedding its a big enough strain on any relationship. How do you think i found my way on to this website!!!

Posted on 9 May 2006 @ 18:34 (London time) - permalink
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I got engaged when i was 16,Im now 19 and planning to get marrid at 21. so that will (SHOULD) be march '08, but everytime i mention saving for the wedding, or looking to see whats available abroad, he jus shrugs his shoulders and bury's his head back down in his computer. dont think engagment means a thing. Personally i think the only reason my fella's put this ring on my finger is to claim me as his. Until the papers are signed, engament means nothing girls.

Posted on 30 May 2006 @ 20:38 (London time) - permalink
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May I add that even if you're married, marriage means very little in today's common society. Seems like the rare handful are indeed very rare, and best of everything to them hopefully. As for the rest of the population, getting engaged at such an early age is most likely by impulse - something like the 'heat of the moment' type of emotions making people do things that they may not follow through in the long run.

Posted on 30 May 2006 @ 21:39 (London time) - permalink
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I have been engaged for a very short time, I plan on getting married before the year is up. I met my fiance only about 6 months ago. I have a very different mindset. There is more info about this stuff at this a href='http://www.abazias.com/faqs/faqs.asp'site/a. It is very informative and can help you when the time is right.

Posted on 5 September 2007 @ 17:50 (London time) - permalink
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yeah you right. Marriage is beginning to be very meaning less. People don't seem to be taking this serious anymore and its really getting to me. The divorce rate it really increasing! its unbelievable!

Posted on 3 October 2007 @ 11:36 (London time) - permalink
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I believe Marriage can be very meaningful. It can be meaningful to the two lucky individuals who enter into it. It's only as meaningful as the people who are joined view it.

Posted on 4 October 2007 @ 4:0 (London time) - permalink
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I've been dating my boyfriend since 2003. In the beginning we talked about marriage in general and now we never talk about it, except for once a year when I bring it up. He just stays silent and pretends he doesn't understand what i'm talking about. I'm about 8 years older than him and in these past five years I've seen my friends get married, give birth, buy houses, some get divorced, but the main thing is something is happening in their relationship. I'm starting to feel stuck in some weird relationship purgatory. I love my boyfriend, but am slowly starting to understand that although he cares about me he is probably never going to get around to asking me to marry him and I don't feel comfortable asking him.

Posted on 1 March 2008 @ 11:15 (London time) - permalink
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