Lanie_110, posted
over a year ago
Hi,
Ok..i am a 27 yr old mom with a 5 yr old. I was married at the age of 22, to a man that cheated on me all the time. Before that i have always had a boyfriend cheat on me.
Well now i am in a relationship that has lasted four years, and he had me check his messages on facebook for something specific, and i snooped. ( yes wrong i know)
Well i saw that him and his buddy were writting back and forth, and the buddy was talking about females ( he is single) and then i saw that my boyfriend had put on there that he had a woman on the side for the past year.
Well, i freaked! He told me that he was only joking and that he wasnt cheating on me.
Well insecurities set in..and a part of me knew that he was telling the truth, and a part of me was scared that maybe he wasnt.
So i had left a message on facebook for this girl that he had mentioned ( which by the way, she had also added me as a friend a while ago) and she replied back to me that there was nothing going on, and that i had to believe him!!!.
I called him and was honest with him, and told him about the message that i had left her.
He said that he wasnt mad, but i know that he is upset, because i didnt trust him, which really..he should be.
I mean, i dont know why i didnt just trust him, thinking back on it, he is here all the time, and when he isnt he calls me to say goodnight or just to see how i am doing.
I am afraid that i really screwed this up, i dont know how to get over this jelousy and insecurities that i have.
And i am scared to death of losing someone that has never done anything to make me think that he is cheating.
Any advice?
Posted on 9 August 2007 @ 5:6 (London time) - permalink
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