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Thanks, Irish. I've been doing so over the past half hour or so and on a few other sites also. Of what I've read a slight majority seem to think that it's a great idea at the time but that it can often have a negative emotional affect on one or both

Oh friend, I hear you! Found your post as am in almost exactly the same boat and spent my break on google. It's tough and very confusing. In my case she is also my star employee (and flippin' gorgeous). I've had to travel with her a few times an

FOREVER I mean

And with regard to feeling "less able" than other guys... She was an escorts... You know how many willies she has sampled? How many times she tells me about the wonderful sex she had with that guy or the other guy. And her three previous boyf

And what do you think the answer is? YOu have established that she has purposedly ignored your messages and you are wondering what you want to do? Maybe stalk her? Go on with your life and regain your self-esteem, you deserve better. Unless y

I think it's ok if it's with a person you pay for sex, perhaps in a special occasion (new year's eve or job promotion?). And you don't see him/her anymore after that.

I think you should sit him down and in a calm manner tell him exactly how u feel let it all roll out and don't let him talk until youv finished ... see how that goes but also remind him of your innocent make friend that u didn't see because he

Since there is an 87 in your name, I am going to guess that you are 22 years old. That is the age that I got married the first time. We had been going together for about 2 years. I don't think that we really knew each other properly yet. We were

I guess the question is, Did he actually cheat or was it all talk. Only you can decide if you should forgive him or not. Obviously you care about him. Are you a forgiving person or will you hold it against him forever. If your gonna fight about it

I know exactly what your talking about. I dont know how to fix it but i do know that you need to find a way. i do the exact same thing. Im married and it still hasnt gone away it has made things worse. We are married you would think that would make

This is... very odd. I would say that the best way to explain this is that maybe something happened in his past, that made him be skittish with the texts. It also might just be that he isn't that much into texting lol, sounds outrageous, but there

I'd suggest you copy and paste this and ask the question on the main site. The forum is where the aunts hang out and talk rubbish. Click on the 'Ask for help' link on the homepage.

And YES, I have talked about this to her extensively and all it does is REALLY pisses her off... AND elicits zero change in the behavior. Also... there will be times when we're together, just sitting outside having a beer and I'll be talking

thats agreeable!

me and my bf are living at my mums house with my brother and his pregnant gf! im not sure if im leading myself astray or if im right. but we are together all day except at nite when i think he is going into my mums room. i thought he may have been

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This message is a reply to your original post, I'm putting it here incase you miss it: You should have mentioned all this in your first post then you would have got more replies to support you. It just won't work, you can't look into a guys eyes

I'm sure you have heard the expression: "You can not buy love". What she is doing right now is avoiding things she USED to do, and which she apperently felt backfired on her. She was doing stuff for and with them ( that she most likely didn't want

Dear Reader, I've been married for 9 years I have a 3 yr old son. Here's my story... We met young (18) married fast and in the beginning I had lost of issue such as name calling it was never physical but still not good. She brought these is

Perhaps Tisha is in the right demographic group and I am in the wrong one, but I think that most people who both my wife and I know have been at least once divorced. Her and I were both previously married and divorced. One of our best friends

Hello everyone, I need some help I have been married for almost 8 years I have 5 children and one due any day. Me and my husband have had lots of problems, always fighting never in front of the children but its constant. I have been thinking

i actually think he was asking me to finger ma self in front of da webcam here is da convo u guys tell me plz tyvm me: XD him: armageddon ARMAGEDDON - WITH EVERY BEAT MY HEART HURTS SO BAD says: ok wat would u do if i was jerking off now

So to the OP. You are considering staying with your wife bacause fiancially that is easier then living with a divorcee with no job and bad credit? (who's divorce you were partly to blame for) Where is the love? I have no idea why your wife w

It sounds like you have some serious unresolved issues stemming from your past relationships. Did you not seek therapy or counseling of some kind afterwards? Do you think perhaps you jumped into a relationship far before you were healed and ready to

hey there, it does dound a bit weird, the only solution is to actually chat to him, tell him how you feel, dont argue and take it from there. You might be surprised with the answer?

yeah i would flip if i saw something like this in my bf's phone. i actually did see something reffering to another girl and his guy friend.i flipped but he said it was nothing i guess u have to trust your instincts

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yeah im really leaning towards living myself i dont feel its appropriate.its almost like he cares more about keeping that relationship then keeping his family,the thought of u sharing stuff with another woman freaks me out nvm him digging into her

Its true idea. I think so i´ll do the same. I think so with next relationship i´ll be much more carefully. But not all guys are like this. i had the same problem with my exfiancei. It was for very hard for me to believe,something like this can

Alright so i was in highscool 2 years ago. Senior year all is nice popular doing mma keeping in shape. I find this girl she was 16 i was 18 we became friends. After months we decided to start a relationship. Everything was going nice took her to

I love my boyfriend but lately I'm confused about us. He's a sweet nice guy but will have childish little fits because he is so sensitive. For example, and yes I know it is stupid, last night I kept pulling the blanket on the bed and he eventually

Dude why the hell are you still with him?? He cheated on you! Ok my boyfriend cheated on me too LOL. Were now engaged. Just look at the situation like this he told you about it =) That takes guts. This will take some time to get over. Im still not

What he is doing is called deflection. He's blaming you for his own idiotic actions. Basically saying it's YOUR own fault he's taking dirty to her. He can't seem to own his own crap. My question to you is, what do you WANT to do? You know it's not

Communication is key. Oh, the time my husband I wasted not communication with each other, it was sheer stupidity. A wise woman asked me, when I told her about the blah in my marriage, do you do for him what you want him to do for you? And I though

What you have with this guy is absolutely toxic. It's not a friendship and it's not a relationship. It's sort of sounding like undefined fuck-buddies. He's cheating on his girlfriend - with you. Not really fair on her, nor you. He lies to

well, don't know how long ago did you left this post. I have to tell you something though. That would be better, from my point of vew, if you propose her in Russia. So, IT will be a reason for her to move to USA. She will know that you will be her

To clear some things up as to other reasons why i broke it fof the first time. I took some rumors to serious. We also hit a huge bump when I explained to her, Im joining the marines soon and will start USMC Boot Camp by Mid July. Sory if any of that

Love is built on friendship, good frienship is very special. Chemistry is important but not everything. Building a physical relationship with someone (partner, spouse) is not easy; it needs a sense of honesty, self revelation, commitment to the

I would send him down the road!! As tough as it is....if he's doing this now, he will do it in the future....let him go and have all of the women he wants...Trust me, older men say the exact same thing....So, it's a habit that is very hard to

I have a serious problem with the fact that you already told him once that this bothers you, and he did it again anyway....Where is the respect for your needs here???? when you care about someone, you take THEIR NEEDS into consideration....It sounds

Hi Hun, You may have more answers if you post your question on the questions page at Dear Cupid - this is the forums section of the site. If I were in your shoes, I would speak to your boyfriend about going over and meeting with his ex, just to b

Anyway starting right from the start was ages ago, in April I think when we were in the park and we were stealing each others phones and wrestling them off each other (in a nice way) I had his phone and we were carrying on, but when I went into

i'm not getting any feed back so I am signing off....

So this case sounds classic, but since it seems people on here are knowledgable about relationships, I kind of need some positive feedback. My boyfriend (hate saying fiance, such a fancy word) recently told me approximately a week ago that he

yes I remember this question, the same words and the husband also added his point something about flip flops moved by the pool and so on this was answered a few weeks ago

Jealousy....not good. It came between me and my ex-husband when we first started dating, and when we were well into our first couple of years of marriage. He was so good looking and turned women's {and men's LOL!} heads wherever he went, inst

Behave!!! You randy git!! : )

Hi, just noticed this post here. Did you post it on the main page? You'll get lots more responses there. You're going to need to schedule 'the talk' with him and lay out what has been troubling you in this relationship. Try to do it in a calm, no

I agree - go with your gut instinct. Even if they deny it - they probably are up to something. I had this feeling after 20 years of marriage. He swore blind that there wasn't anyone. Then I found out he had been talking to another woman on

I think you can if you both want it. I have been married for 20 years and hubby went through a midlife crisis and said he wanted out. Nothing happened he still loved me, just had this feeling to escape and turned to another woman to confide in.

Whilst I am the first to say that you have to be happy in a relationship, you have not mentioned that you do not love your wife. You are a very lucky man to have a wife who has tolerated what you have put her through. Think about the shoe on the

i HAVE FELT WHAT YOU ARE FEELING. DID IT WORK OUT FOR YOU?

I feel very lonley in my relashionship. its been five years since we met. At first it was great to have "space" now that same space feels like an empty hole. I wanna have more time together. He says im negative and im not happy with what I have. H

I am going through that right now with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. I do give him everything. A hot meal every night, do things he enjoys, show him I am more attracted to him than ever, and he just doesn't have it there for me anymore. I do voice

I gotinvolved with a co worker lost my wife my family and job. Yes I am with her still but its been hell dont do it

Hello there, Just wanted to let you and anyone who reads this post know that I've posted your problem on the main site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/after-a-fight-he-stormed-out-of-the.html

hi ppl my name is hydea and my bf cory thinks i like his used to be homie but i dont i like him and he likes me its just i have low self of stem and i cant speak my mind to him to tell him how i really feel about him and i tell his used to be friend

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Simple. Tell him, that you are perfectly healthy enough. If you can deal with a twelve year old, you can deal with another kid. If he needs more money, tell him to promoted or get another job! There are plenty of kids that wouldn't mind a

I think this is a common problem. The trouble, in my opinion, is that the drive difference is not as noticeable in the beginning. The relationship is knew, exciting and sexually charged. As time goes on, the routine sets in as well as life's o

hey there girl....i can understand ur frustration and confusion. i think as females it hurts us all to think that the men we love may be fantasizing of other women. i've been w/my bf of 2 yrs....and i know he has pics of him and his ex's on his c

Ive been dating my b/f for over a month now and we've been having some issues. I see him maybe once a week, he doesnt call to cancel plans (he just doesnt show up and leaves me worried), and a lot of times he would rather play video games till 4 in

I really don't think you need any advice on this topic. She's already done the worst thing. Don't buy into this lunacy.

No, you shouldn't be worried, you should be a man. Her needing space is her way of telling you that she's not exclusive with you without being straight up with you. She could have met another guy that's exciting and fun and she's keeping you on

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Hi, I have never heard of bith control for cramps. Birth control is birth control it's not 100%. I have been in the medical field for 8yr and know patients that is on the pill and pregnant. If you don't feel good about it dont do it.

I am 23 yrs old, and have been with my boyfriend for five years! That's right five years. We have a beautiful son together, Torin. We have always had our up and downs but who hasn't right? My problem is...his sisters and his mom! I make sure

well im sorry to say but he seems like he likes his women abit to much,sorry to be so harsh sugar. You need to warn him if you find anymore texts that are like the one you found your finished.

the question i have to ask you is,are you sleeping with him? If you are then thats why hes coming round he doesnt want a gf but he wants someone to have sex with dump him and move on.

Hi This is the forum (chatty bit) of the site, you'll get more answers if you ask as a question http://www.dearcupid.org/ask just copy and paste it there Thanks Andrew (site guy)

Think that counselling might be a good idea. We have two kids, so I am keen not to have to divorce her. Thanks for your quick and kind reply.

Is it possible to be in love with a woman without coming across as a needy person? How do you define the line between "need" and "want" in a relationship? I love being with her and I love holding her in my arms, but she feels too needed when I e

Is it possible to be in love with a woman without coming across as a needy person? How do you define the line between "need" and "want" in a relationship? I love being with her and I love holding her in my arms, but she feels too needed when I e

If you post this in the main Screen of Dear Cupid, under ask a question, you will get far more replies as more people will see it. x

You got to have friends, both males and females... and as long as you're not cheating on her and don't do anything that may cause permanent damage to yourself, you have nothing to regret. Maybe she just feels insecure at the moment but I hope she

you'll get more help if you post this on the main site

Please post this on the main site, you'll have a better chance of being seen and helped there: http://www.dearcupid.org/ask

im 42 and have been in this up and down so called relationship with my boyfriend for years, hes 52 and as always lived with his mum, which is the problem, shes old now and he feels responsible for caring for her, shes nver excepted me or any other

Hello, I do not think you are rushing it at all. I think it is a very healthy relationship. I had a long distanced relationship with my boyfriend and we moved in with one another...he and I lived 3000 miles away! There are certain people brought

By the way...last night when I spoke to him, I told him that he is never affectionate anymore...I said I do not feel like you're attracted to me...well today he started saying I love you more...and then at the end of the night said "Am I doing a

dnt text...if u value ur relationship GO TO HIM, coz u knw wen ur apart afta a fyt he cn start thnkn bout all the things tht bn goin wrong in ur relationship...and it also sounds from da whole him usualy walkn away thng tht hes not an argumentative

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Thanks for the advice - nice to know they are so many other ppl out there going throught the same thing i am:( My aim is to give in to the jelousy and get my relationship back on track. I know its not going to happen ova night and that it will

we broke up in 2002 and he moved back in 2004, to help with our kids and be there for them,its worse now than it was when we were a couple. I don't know what to do. There's alot more to it. Any suggestions?

Hi funky You'll get more responses posting this on the main site... click the "ask a question" link at the top of the page there. Andrew

Hi Orchid, It's my personal belief and i could be wrong but i think anyone who is saying things such as hinting at marriage so quickly into the actual relationship is probably someone who is fickle with their emotions. It difficult to gauge this

I have a quiestion that has had me feeling like a big slump and it hurts deep down inside i reall dont know what to think or do. everytime she leaves the house or just when shes not here when shes at school or anywhere i feel like im getting chea

how about taking her out, showwing her that you really do love her, and have a good chat how you feel about her :)

WELL THIS IS CALLED INSECURITIE, I ONCE SUFFERED WITH TOO, WELL MY FELLER WAS WITH HIS EX 21YEARS AND THEY NEARLY HAD A BABY SHE GOT RID OF IT BECAUSE SHE HAD CYCISTIC FIBROSIST WHICH IS PAST THROUGH THE JEANS,THEN THEY SPLIT UP SO HE SLEPT WITH

Ive been seeing my partner for six months. Although we have a very open relationship and I am greatful he has told me about his past I find it difficult to deal with. He has had several 'flings' or relationships with people I work with (alt

I was in the same same situation with my ex a few years ago, she was completely in love with me and I felt so guilty. I did tell her and we worked things through. Eventually, my feelings did come back until we eventually grew apart again. Now I am

I believe it is only ever okay to have a limited contact with ex's especially when your in a new relationship and ESPECIALLY if your new parnter is uncomfortable with it. Ex's are ex's for a reason. If the relationship ended on mutual terms I think

I agree you definatyely have a good enough reason to be paraniod here, I think your girlfriend is unhappy within your relationship and the two of you need to sit down and have a big heart to heart and be completely honest with each other you should

It sounds like your husband is being unfaithfull in one way or another, he knows you are uncomfortable with the time he spends with this woman yet he continues to do it. I also had the same problem with my partner and it split us up a few times and

I think you should count your blessings and move forward. He has given you so many hints that he is not going to be there for you with all that you are going through. The signals you are getting from him don't remotely point to love. I know that

you really messed up! and if he doesnt love you and your child why is he still here,? give him time, get rid of your old contacts if love him you will. carnt you understand why this guy carnt trust you you left your husband to be with him but also

i no its always easy to help others and give out the advice, i would of said hang in there for a while but as u say its been over a year now and hes still treatin u the same, he could just be usin u hun for the s--, he might not but i would get rid

He is obviously interested in you and is 'testing you out'. But he is doing it in an increasingly creepy way, and I would certainly question his morals. Discussing you with the builders is SO out of order, and you have every right to be furious

Hi there, I hope that I can be of some assisstance?. I read your article and everytime I was reading your responses to his actions, I felt myself wanting to pull you away out of the situation you are in with this step-brother. You are all a

hello make him prove to you that he has given the booze n drugs up first because you dont want to get hurt again then if you feel it is the right thing to do get back with him if not say no.

i seem to have communication problems with my bf and i dont know what to ask him or how to ask him things we have been together for almost 6 months so please help

Hi, I tend to agree with Lillaum above, I have many married and single friends who I go on holidays with and it can be a perfectly happy arrangement. Trust is the byword here - are you jealous of what she may get up to on holiday? Are her frie

im havin the exact same problem with my boyfriend - altho its alot more complicated than yours! i met him when i was 13 and im 25 now - we were toghether for 2years but he was very unaffectionate i loved him with all my heart and thought that we

You should be a 100% sure before you end a long standing relationship. If your suspisions are not correct than that could jeopardize your relationship.

Ask your girlfriend if it would be appropriate to try new sexual things (i.e. threesomes, role playing, or mixing it up with a few toys or costumes). You sound like you obviously love her and ultimately want to be with her in the end. Do not mess

I think you already know what to do. You should be with the one you want to be with. You should tell the other girl straight up what the truth is. If you don't, the truth will come around and bite you in the butt.

I used to live in Puerto RIco. My wife is from there. By the way, that won't solve anything. Whatever you do, don't go and "just do it and get it over with" The word JUST is a strange one. That seems to be a word used to minimize or rationalize

well i am in the same thing but my boyfriend keeps stopping out all the time and i dont now wat to do i am so depresed with everything i am so close to leaving him but i love him too much but i dont thnk he loves me what can i do please help

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what was said to you?

You should post this on the main site

I had been seeing a guy for a few months when we broke up on the basis that we both had issues outside of the relationship that we needed to deal with. We decided to stay friends but the first time we met up again (1 week later) we ended up getting

It must be hard for you to be the one left at home - and this is perhaps the root of the problem? From a male point of view (and I can only guess!) - he wants to come home and relax after work and enjoy your company, but perhaps you need more from

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Hi there, I wasn't sure if this was the best place to post this, and I didn't wnat to change the topic of the other person's question here, but I was hoping to find some advice for my problem...I was engaged before with this Muslim Egyptian guy ,

I feel so bad for you, not only is she going through the stress, but you are too with all the added responsibilties. I hope everything works out for you both. My best wishes to you and your wife.

See my post "My problem - Hall sex" At least, you do not have financial considerations or children (whose welfare is of paramount importance) in your problem. It sounds - and this may be incorrect - that he is unwilling to make a commitment. A

Hey guys i posted this question on the main site but figured i'd post it here too... I just wanted some advice on what to write inside my boyfriends birthday card.His birthday was in january but i didnt get him nothin so i figured i'd get him a ca

Sorry it took me so long to reply back, I have been working some really crazy shifts. Anyway, Thank you for your advice. It still lays in the back of my head how I can justify taking my kids out of a home that they have now gotten use to? Earl is

the last two girl friends i have had i have just been played i don't know y has someone put a sign on my back "play me "

all i can see is his play in the game of u allways want what u can't have it bull s#*# but alot all ppls do it

Most of my exs have come off the net and I have to echo Irish and Smeedle here. Dichotomy between words and actions is never a good sign in any context but it is especially bad in an online context cause often word is all you have to go on...

you both want different things, you want a relationship that has love making in it, with both of you giving and recieving pleasure, he wants sex when he can be bothered and then it is just one sided. You aint compatable so ditch him and move it on,

Thats the type of loving relationship i want. but you dont always get what you want.

JustBlonde..so sorry you are enduring this pain. No woman should have to deal with that but it happens all the time. While I understand he has been hurt and has baggage, we have all been hurt. But there comes a time we stop nursing our wounds and

Yesterday just out of the blue i had called my bf and yelled were over and hung up.An hour or so later i called him back and said sorry and asked if he would go back out with me.He said sure.But now i want him to feel comfortable again and not

Dont answer this question no more!My bf can go f*** himself!!!

Im glad you are kind of getting somewhere with your boyfriend, you might not think you are but you are.. Days have passed and you are still together that is what has to keep you going and keep you strong if you are choosing this direction to