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anonymous
writes:Hi. Please help me with my problem.I was dumped a few months ago by my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years, and I've found it very difficult to cope with.Recently, I have met a new girl. She's very nice. But there are a few things about her that makes me hesitant to see if we could have something.For one thing, she's 16 and I am 19. For another, she smokes and I don't. And to be honest, she has a few problems in her life. She doesn't seem to be from the same loving family background that I'm from. Knowing that she doesn't get on great with her family concerns me.Part of me finds her attractive, she is cute! But the horrible thing is that I'm worried that the only part of me that is attracted to her is the part of me that knows that I haven't had sex for about 7 months!.. It could also be that I'm over thinking this.So, there are a few things holding me back, but I wanted to ask for your opinions first. What do you think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): The 16yr old is too young for you. Around here you could be arrested for statutory rape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your answers. I will take what you said onboard. I can see that you are probably right when you say I sounded a little judgemental. I had a history of that some years ago, and I hoped that would change. Maybe now is the perfect time for me to change that.
In the mean time, I'll see how things go. Nothing is to say anything will happen anyway, so I'm probably thinking on things too much. In any case, thank you for your advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): It sounds to me like you are judging her without really getting to know her. I don't get along with my family that well, and it's hard on a relationship, i know. But so what? It's her family, she cant change it. And at the end of the day it's her you'd be with not the family. As far as the age difference, 3 yrs isn't that much. And even if you started dating if things don't work out, well, they dont work out. But I think you should give her a shot.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (1 November 2007):
 Geez mate, you are being a little bit judgemental about her aren't you? She can't pick her family, they are her family.
Just go with the flow, enjoy her company and try not to judge who she is and where she comes from. If you grow to love someone it doesnt matter who they are or where they are from, its irrelevant.
Alternatively you could meet a private school girl from a rich family who will control you and her family will think you are unworthy of her. You dont want that do you?
Hang out, have a blast and have fun for crying out loud.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Hello
I think you are being a bit picky, you really need to step back a bit, if she does not get on with her parents fine, some family never get on this is the way of the world, do not think that she deserves to be loved by you especially as she has a few problems, all she may need is fore you to hold her , cuddle her and tell her every thing is going to be alright, you should wait for her to make the first move do not put pressure on her and try to be loving and caring with her, i think you should chill out and give this girl a chance, you must be attracted to each other or why would you both had been attracted to each other in the first place, go on give her a chance she may turn out to be the one you have always been looking for dont hurt this girl OK.
i wish you both well and good luck.
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