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Hi! This one is for the Mods. You guys are wonderful and you do a great job of running this site smoothly. And a big hug all around to you guys. And, yes, I salute you all who have the integrity and the compassion... and the patience! I can only

I've found that when I have posted advice on questions that is considered "contraversial" by other posters (based on their reactions) my rating goes down. It's happened a few times now and I feel that this is unfair. Could it not be possible to make

I agree, this would be more convenient! For both answering and reading questions. Adolescent questions get repetitive and I can only take so much of the "love sick puppy teenager" discussions.

An improvement to the site should include viewing discussions by age categories. I do not want to read posts from 14 year olds, and it would be nice to be able to select an age category I prefer to read.

Glad i found this now maybe i can do it right

I really like this site it helps me out a lot thanks and i will recommand it to others.

I meant Mal, sorry for that typo!

bitterblue, My PM worked when I sent you the message... but then it is disabled again. The same explanation... I guess I could wait till tomorrow... But I truly do apologise for the delay... to everyone of my friends and those I couldn't cont

I love this site, it makes me feel comfortable knowing actual REAL teenagers/people in general are answering my questions! I get great advice from reading other people's Q&As. Keep up the great work! ~Ayame

Heey, im a teenager and usually we are not allowed to register to sites like this but it is nice to just get some help every once in a while on embarrasing relationship problems that we dont want to tell our parents about!!!!!!

Hi Andrew, you made a great job, this is an amazing site! Thank you a lot! All my best!

hey,this is tasha aka hooker08.thanks for the invite.i look forward to asking and answering questions.

Hi mal thanks for the welcome. Yes you can call me that if you all like. My real name is on my profile though.

I don't think you can change your account name once you've selected it. You'd have to delete your account and start over again.

That's great, Im new and havent yet got the hang of things! Thank you :)

Why am I here Andrew! Andrew I don't know how I got here to your web page But I found alot of questions that I hope to get answer too. I was reading here on alot of possitive feedback was given, So I thought I give this site a try! You do have some

I was web surfing and i found this site. It has really eased me alot in dealing with the problems my boyfriend & I are having, We get an unbiased opinion. Thank you for having a site so wonderful

The posts are all categorized based on a set of standard categories. On the home page, in the rightmost column, you will find the category list. Those are the only categories. Moderators choose all categories that they think apply to a question

Hi Andrew, I'm so glad I found this site, if I hadn't I would be in such a state. It's so comforting to ask and answer questions with other people who are in the same boat. I look forward to going on this site with my problems because evryone is so

Actually, Confuzzled012, I was notified (at the top of my page) about a follow up to a question I'd answered. Clicking on 'followups' i can read the first half of the OP's follow up, but if i click on the post or 'read in full' the lass' follow up

If you have a question the better place to post is http://www.dearcupid.org more people will see it Instead of the forums page

you'll probably get more answers posting in the main column instead of the forum. :)

you are more than welcome. Im pretty new here myself. :)

thats how i feel too. Forget the ratings and go with the follow ups. Not to change your voice but to know if you are helping anyone...and those thank you follow ups just make my day like no ratings ever could. Its just an interesting aside. :)

I got 2 emails stating I got responses for my question but they were never posted on the site.

Nah I was just reading around to find that someone left because the maintnance of the site was perfect and i've spoken to tohers privately and they seem to have a lot to complain about and i was jus growing tired of it. I'm a -I don't like peas but

I agree!!! It's so great that there is something like this. I think that affairs of the heart/relationships/sex etc can drive you a little crazy - they can also drive your friends crazy so sometimes you just need some outside help!!!! Great

I take a lot more notice of the rating the question askers have given me rather than 'all users'. That's the rating that matters most, and you're not doing too badly at all on that score Samantha - 8.62 from all users and 9.04 from the question

This site is a stroke of genius. It is perfectly designed to enable people to help other people. As a programmer myself, I respect your presentational approach, simple and practical. The content is what people are here for and you've provided a

my name is becca, i will certainly add you on facebook, i used to have a lot of problems with my life and now i want to help others on theirs, thats all from me except this is the best ever site i have been on, enough from me i would like to know

hi i would lky to say thank for welcoming to the site i find this interesting to me as i can see of poeple they have same sitaution that i have and i ho pe i wll enjoy it

If it's relevant to the question and helpful then there's no problem, so on that basis, go ahead if you think it will help! Phil

Tell me about it, I wish I never had to come with work but unfortuneatly the bills wont pay themselves lol. It is but it would be nice to see who is online, if you get what I mean. xx

I was going to suggest that you write an article too. :-) I think it would be really helpful for people, and readily available for them to look at.

The moderators can't win! If questions aren't posted quickly enough people complain that it takes forever for their question to appear. Now, because questions are being posted faster, people are complaining that their question isn't staying top of

I've never looked at a Mars Bar in quite the same way since . . . . !

Where do all the articles go? shouldn't they be sticky? (e.g. stay there) - i mean isn't that the point of them? Star.x.

Hi is it just me, but does the unanswered questions page, not show the age of the posters....? shouldn't it be the same...? Star.x.

my wife keeps rejecting me 2 the point of me feeling uncomfortable in my household!..its 2 the point that I'm looking outside my house for companionship! I'm a good man!...but I hav a huge sex drive!..like2xs a day!..I always believe ur woman should

my wife keeps rejecting me 2 the point of me feeling uncomfortable in my household!..its 2 the point that I'm looking outside my house for companionship! I'm a good man!...but I hav a huge sex drive!..like2xs a day!..I always believe ur woman should

cheers - makes sense- just a bit of annoying like watching something out of sequence. Live within the limits of the system....always. Star.

Would it be possible to messages in mail displayed as a conversation - very annoying to have to flick be several screens to find the previous mails... thanks Star.

hi - under the your column page you have an index bit just below the profile stuff - you know it shows the pages you have answered and total number of messages. it would be useful if this was also at the bottom of the page, you are looking

Would it be possible to have a page on here with useful contact information by country for things like Rape advice centre, Childline etc. I have no idea what these would be called in America, Australia etc. It would be a lot easier to point Q's

Just wondering if there is somehow a KB of permanent messages could be kept - e.g. Satindesire's article on virginity. It would be useful if they were held somewhere prominent and then readers might go there first rather than posting. i know ther

Hi can you create an icon so that when its saved as a book mark it looks better than a blank one... Thanks Star.

You can also always post an update on your question and in there clarify/modify the original question.

Definitely point taken and in total agreement here! Some of the info, like ages, gets left out and we wind up giving the wrong advice. I also have tripped up by answering without looking at the sex of the poster (like telling them to use two form

that happend to me to.

Some kind of hour & minute reference would be great. As far as the time-zone stuff, I thought that might be the easiest to accomplish. In each account, add a selector for your local time-zone ...like GMT +6 (for me personally)... then, when a

Morning All, Yep, I've gotten one about 5 weeks ago and just got another this week, always in incredibly broken English. You seem interesting, I wish to be friends, please contact me on my e-mail, blah, blah blah. Is it the programming that bloc

YAY!!! : )

Please can someone recover this post that was deleted. The title began with "He's ranting..." or something like that. I can't remember much more, but just want to see it out of curiosity. No idea why it got deleted though.

Done some more improvements to our anti-spam technology here which I think will make a big improvement Just thought I'd post so you know I'm still alive and working behind the scenes improving things :-))) Andrew

I am all of a sudden having a problem with the appearance of the forum pages. I also have a new computer, so it might be a problem with some setting in my browser or my firewall or whatever. This happens with both internet explorer and Mozilla

There may be some speed improvements this new database server is at least 4x as powerful as the last one. Does look a little nipper.

Forgot the main point of posting this! In the meantime some of the site stats such as questions asked plus the most active recent aunts, have been disabled Andrew

Always moving forward andrew

Hi The main (not personal) followup page http://www.dearcupid.org/followups Was having problems speed wise and erroring. I have tweaked the database access routine that returns this and it looks a lot quicker now. If you see any problems

Hello. It's been awhile since I have been around.. due to reasons relating to things I care not tom discuss anymore because they are behind me.. But I love those new rejection reasons. :) They are great. Though I ran across maybe one reason that

Sorry for all the spam that's appearing in the forum at the moment... people seem to think it's ok to post about all sorts of commercial garbage in here. It's not. I remove it all and ban the people from ever posting here again. If you ever spo

Pete good idea and good reminder it has been on my list to add a disclaimer since day 0! Thanks Andrew

WoW! That's great news. xxxxxxxx

Performance is fine to keep the quality of the site what information is relevant to include in the user profile to put on the column?

Hi guys Thanks for letting me know! I've looked into this and fixed it, it wasn't due to the database move as such but because of another performance tweak I did subsequently... which should have speeded up a good few pages on the site (fol

I found the link to that, if anyone is interested in just seeing it. Around the 12th listing, from the top. Was neat to see that. http://comment.independent.co.uk/commentators/article2640824.ece Wonderful to see the site get on their list of

Excellent, great to get that feedback Pete. My monitoring stats here are also looking positive too :-) Was getting frustrated at how sluggish the site was it feels nicer to use now to me. A.

haha Okay, Andrew! Knowing my luck, I'd crash the site!! I'll just do a few here and there throughout the day then.

I will do what is best for the site - anyway. Thanks Sexybum for explaining the role of Community.

Hi I made an update to the site today. Non-registered users asking a question get a "secret code" that they can use to find the question they've asked and check whether it has been published. This has numerous benefits - much better expe

Thanks for the feedback Wendy :-) The latest answers page is a touch sluggish I'll have a look at that next! Andrew

Some really interesting, thoughtful articles. I just wanted to say thanks and keep them coming! Andrew

Mods, Please note a new feature that shows you what percentage of questions you have approved and rejected over the previous 7 days and how that compares to target. I think this should prove helpful, as always any feedback send me a private mai

Hi everyone! Just a heads-up that the articles section is now very much LIVE and a-live, all new articles will go through the usual moderation process and automatically appear on the site... Mods, you will be alerted when a "question" is actually

Excellent! Not sure what the bulk of the post meant... but the ampsersand replacment is a life saver!! lol :o)

Hi I've got a couple of gremlins in the server the past 24hrs if you see the site down can you email andrew AT dearcupid.org with the exact time (and your time-zone) and symptoms. Thanks :-) I'm getting a new super-duper server insta

Hi Wendy S...l...o...w...l...y I've setup the facility for people to submit their own articles instead, really as an experiment. Click on "articles" to read more. But I've yet to fully integrate this into the site fully... hopefully this

Peter!! lol I want to, but I'm camera shy! I think it's a really good idea, though Andrew, and a bit more personal than just text (although text is beneficial in many other ways!). Maybe I'll try it out at some point, though. (...But Pete has

Hey Wendyg...thanks for the congrats! Shiny?..I wonder if it's the reflection of that big, garish rock on my finger! lol :D Just kidding of course..it's dainty and lovely but when one is happy they do exude a glow, I suppose? Thanks again, Wendy

At the request of AskEve, I've introduced a new category - "trust issues". Please flag any questions that involve issues of trust with this category :-)

I think that you go to "file" & then "import" to add them all to iTunes. I wish I knew more. Anyone else know???

You can't... but it only shows last 250 so won't get full ever. A.

This bug should now be fixed. The "x new" followups thing clears as soon as you hit the followups page. If it shows "2 new" those will be the latest two (i.e. the two at the top). I'll try and improve this. Thanks to everyone who gave f

Oops thought it was on answers too will try and fix that in the next rollout! Well spotted :-) A

Martini, here are those oh-so-cute pictures! http://mfrost.typepad.com/cute_overload/2006/12/i_really_hope_y.html ^_^ if you click on the picture in the link, then you get to see an even larger image of it! eee!

Well you could try putting an ad On myspace and then adding a photo! Its looking rather bland!!! Lol ;o)

A good way for the writer to avoid making spelling errors is to activate the "spell check this field"-option in the Firefox browser.

Hi I've made a tweak to caching on the homepage to improve performance... it has improved performance but let me know if you see any oddities Thanks! A.

Two minor changes: * URLs (web addresses, starting http://) in answers are now linked (with "nofollow" for anyone who knows what it means) * email addresses are automatically blocked If anyone spots problems, drop me a PM. Andrew

I could also be a moderator, I have experience for forums (especially since I own one) but I'm sure I can figure my way around how to moderate dear cupid style! (And I'm good at headlines.)

Pervy people are everywhere on the interent and everywhere in the world. If pervs pm you, you simply don't reply to it. Simple. I've never come across any pervs on hi5. That's like saying I'm not going to America because of the crime rate. There's

Actuallly I think every little helps! Sometimes I go looking for a question that appeared a couple of days previous and cant find it for love nor money! So I think it would be useful.. Also I get what Martini is saying, often I get that too

Hi I'm moving the DearCupid database to a new database server sometime in the next couple of days so the site will be offline for an hour or two during that time. I'm aware that the site is sometimes slightly sluggish and this should help reso

Nice! I know that I've wanted to go back to find similar questions to suggest readers look at, but sometimes had trouble finding them. This will be really helpful for everyone. Great new feature, Andrew. :)

Last 250 question rejections and last 250 answer rejections... plus quick edit links. Please check them out now and again see if anything has slipped through the net and been wrongly rejected :-)))

yep with the sushi you snotted out the other day......... lol xx

Hi Pete I considered that but I didn't want to make it too easy... if that makes sense. Although on reflection not sure that was a valid reason. A.

Yes. Sometimes when I look at the questions, there are a few from the same poster. But one will say, "I am a 22 year old man and never had a gf", the other will say, "I am almost 19, but my 3 gfs are all cheating". These appear to be legitimate

Heya Now that you've put that point of view I actually find myself agreeing with you..... My making moderators more visible could provoke a reaction and it would also 'tame' teh site ina way that could spoil it..... Yeah now I think about it I thi

I just don't see the point of this. We can already see who posted the question, except for anonymous posts. If you would object to replying to a particular person, then just dont respond to their questions.

Yes I think it will add value. But how to deal with people who don't want to reveal their age rarge... - Force them to reveal it, meaning there might be less posts - Make it optional - Make one option in the menu "Don't show my age" I

Well since I've been here I've thought Irish, Pete and DrPsych are amongst the top aunts, so I'd say it's accurate :)

Private mail me with any suspect questions and I'll look into it. A.

= average number of minutes it takes to publish each approved question. (does not include rejections) Ideally we would like to see the trend going down... that needs me to recruit more mods any new volunteers are welcome, PM me! :-)) A

Mods - please disapprove any questions that are not legible! Thanks :-) A

Happy Shappy Birthday Dear Cupid. May there be many more to come!

I like it, quite handy to know. Thank Andrew

Hi everyone The current system has a filter that strips out the majority of bad ratings. The new filter is much smarter but more work intensive, it looks at the ratings for each user individually and works out what is good and what is bad. Th

Hi David It logs all reports to a database......... at the moment I don't actually do anything with it but in the future the reports will get incorporated into the management interface and moderators will be able to delete threads/

Hi I tweaked the header... it was too busy and confusing. I also added a search box to the header. Any comments let me know. If you're logged out latest stats are displayed at the very top, too. Ciao A

Pete - seriously, keep asking! Wendy - I'll try and add a more detailed question by question report too. The accepted/rejection may be useful to see if you are on track with the average of about 10% of questions rejected.

tux - if you see a question/answer you think shouldn't have been approved best thing to do is drop me a private mail A.

Egads.. signed in tonight and it said there was 20 questions awaiting.. *gasp* and 9 answers.. though it didnt feel like it.. though afterwards I went into the forum and went back and there were 8 more q's and a few more a's.. :) are there fewer

I think they are good.. because it also can give some merit to who's giving the advice.. I mean if person has all negative then it's problaly a bigger sign to take it with more of a grain of salt. though can be misleading if they have not been

If only I got more mail in my inbox here :( *gasp* just playing.. but yay! for when I do have enough to bulk delete.. not that I do..cuz I have like 2300 emails in my yahoo.. a lot of junk.. but I'm bad at not deleting things..

hey pete. Yes I'm well, waaaay to busy with work at the moment to post her much, but I visit when I can. Very glad to hear you are ok bonym :) I never did finish the suggestd design I was doing for 'common issues' section. I do intend to, bu

Cupid, I want that sweet smile too!!! lol xxx

Hi everyone (especially mods) Webform spam should take a nosedive, because forms are now rejected unless the person reads and follows some simple instructions on them. This is the first update of the feedback that came out of the recent "what

The answer box is now bigger. Sorry for the delay, been neglecting DC a little! A.

Thank you for coming back.... lol It has been busy this last week! Hope you went somewhere nice. Wendy x

Thats a great idea Andrew, I think that would work I also thought you may want to do this, why not have a tab with all the list of agony aunts who have a profile picture and profile info so people new to the site can have a look at all the aunts and

Okay cheers Andrew, I do indeed always want more you are right LOL... but if a girl dont ask..... lol But well, you do know how much I can whittle on... you sure you dont want to reduce that to only a 100 that can still be viewed ROFL!! :

Thanks Yos look forward to it! A

He who has just one he can call a true friend is lucky... Dat righ' Cupid??

thanks

This is basically all down to those pesky ampersands... AVOID WHEREVER YOU CAN!!! There is a software problem that I am gradually working through. But until it's fixed avoid the squiggly ands and just write "and"........ Cheers ANDre

Hey Andy, You really have been busy! Awesome ideas for the new sites! There are so many people in the big wide world that you have/are helping so much because of your amazingly brilliant entrepreneurial skills! xxx

Hi everyone I just made a big update to how the site works that allows one account to operate between all the dearcupid "family" of sites. This means you just have the one login details to remember. There may be some bugs in the system if yo

It only affected DearCupid (me!) Hannieseds Martini WendyG All missing / delayed PM's should be back in your mailbox. Sorry to everyone who PM'd me for the delay... Andrew

Forgot to add: Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrggggghghghghahg!!! PS. if you see any "oddities" it's because I'm doing quite a bit of work behind the scenes to get the new sites up and running and integrated smoothly so PLEASE EMAIL ME with a

Hey I've rolled out two new "sister" sites to DearCupid: www.piggybanked.com - personal finance advice www.careerglove.com - jobs/career advice More to come! It will be interesting to see how they grow. Andrew

Hi Yos, Just the standard registration form would be used which you can see http://www.dearcupid.org/register.aspx Users are asked to verify their email but this only affects if they are sent emails (e.g. alerts that they may select).

Lots of work going on behind scences! So far so good and the site is looking excellent! Good work Cupid! :o)

Best to make sure you are sober before you tune into this site, although it is more fun after loads of red wine, or was it that you did not have your glasses on.

Hi moderators Please only log in to the moderator section when you get the red box on the dearcupid site telling you that there are questions pending. I'm going to make some changes shortly to avoid people logging in one-on-top-of-th

Just a co-incidence martini :-) Ratings are only recorded when the ratings links are clicked on... and then they are calculated once/day with all sorts of jiggery-pokery to try and stop people gaming the system. For fun I'll post the unadult

I agree with Irish, its best to use your own Judgement, and the thing with IP addresses they can change anyway, what I mean by that is, I access this site from 3 different computers, home work, laptop etc.. and Im guessing that others can too, so

Hi willywombat Not sure what you mean? Send me a private mail describing exactly what happens and I'll try to sort it out :-) A

Hi everyone Copy and paste this into your browsers http://www.dearcupid.org/stats To see some detailed site stats Any feedback or observations post here. As you can see we are approving more questions as a %age of those asked nowad

Hi GL I've dropped you a PM Andrew

Hi, I would LLOOVVEE to be a moderator! I have probably been with you for about 4/ months now and love reading and answering problems - so I think I fit the bill!

Hi Dazzer Yeah I'm keeping my eye on it... Don't think it's a huge problem yet but I'm keeping an eye on it. Reality is that better answers will appear when people ask questions in the right place so hopefully that will drive things. If anyo

I was really lucky in the dark ages when I was a teenager as I did not even get one spot, now I get really dry flakey skin but only when stressed and only on my forehead, oh the naughtynessss!! the peskyness and the horribleness!! I think my dry