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Can marriage counselors give bad advice?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. Can some marriage counsellors not be good advisors? Me and my other half had a on line zoom meeting with one. This counsellor was young and in her thirties. I asked a few questions but they got ignored. To me she seemed to be more concerned a...A. 16 May 2024: Of course they can!
Especially experts that belong to younger generations. That is my experience.
I teach languages at a university. My colleagues and I are shocked by new students, their lack of interest in subjects, lack of work... There are prec... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 16 May 2024: To a female anonymous - please remember that being a high achiever is academic. You can read many books and remember many things, you can pass exams and get qualifications. But it is logical and intelligence that helps us make wise decisions not ... (read in full...)
Men on dating sites make me feel bad about myelf
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. Putting a profile on date sites for casual/ friendship on sites such as Free dating, Plenty of fish, completely free dating. Receive some messages. They asked for a photo then I put one on. I never hear from some of them again. Some will want to ...A. 16 May 2024: Guys are usually just after free sex on dating sites. They want to see what you look like so they can decide if you are young, sexy, busty etc to fit what they seek. I find it arrogant. It is as if they are God's gift to women and you must be ... (read in full...)
Can marriage counselors give bad advice?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. Can some marriage counsellors not be good advisors? Me and my other half had a on line zoom meeting with one. This counsellor was young and in her thirties. I asked a few questions but they got ignored. To me she seemed to be more concerned a...A. 16 May 2024: Why do you assume an older counsellor has more experience? i am a full time therapist and I know people who have been on this planet longer than me who would make terrible therapists. There are good young ones and terrible young ones. This young one ... (read in full...)
Is my physician losing respect for me?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. For the past 6 months I’ve been seeing a physician for some issues I’ve been having- he came highly recommended by a couple of friends who have been seeing him for several years. He’s an older gentleman and all his reviews are excellent. ...A. 16 May 2024: Either continue to pay him for his time and sitting around in his waiting room or stop going. Simple. Why make such a big issue and nit pick about every little thing? Get a life.... (read in full...)
Was this cheating?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. I met a man from a sex site but I am married. I do feel bad for what I have done. This man gave me oral but he did not penetrate me. It is still classed as having sex since he was not inside me and is it still a form of cheating. ...A. 16 May 2024: Another mentally ill woman. Please seek a good therapist.... (read in full...)
Men on dating sites make me feel bad about myelf
Answered by Honeypie + on 16 May 2024.
 Q. Putting a profile on date sites for casual/ friendship on sites such as Free dating, Plenty of fish, completely free dating. Receive some messages. They asked for a photo then I put one on. I never hear from some of them again. Some will want to ...A. 16 May 2024: Here is the thing, OP
If they "expect" a page 3 beauty, wish them good luck.
You can't control HOW they react to your photo or how shallow they are. Think of it this way, OP - the bad ones seem to be weeding themselves out.
I'm sure if one... (read in full...)
Can marriage counselors give bad advice?
Answered by Honeypie + on 16 May 2024.
Q. Can some marriage counsellors not be good advisors? Me and my other half had a on line zoom meeting with one. This counsellor was young and in her thirties. I asked a few questions but they got ignored. To me she seemed to be more concerned a...A. 16 May 2024: Of course, a counselor can give "bad" advice.
I think a counselor who CHOOSES to not listen to both and see both sides and understand both sides of things are not really wanting to do the "work" they are supposed to.
Try another counselo... (read in full...)
Was this cheating?
Answered by Honeypie + on 16 May 2024.
Q. I met a man from a sex site but I am married. I do feel bad for what I have done. This man gave me oral but he did not penetrate me. It is still classed as having sex since he was not inside me and is it still a form of cheating. ...A. 16 May 2024: If you are married and perform sexual acts on another man or this other man (than your husband) perform sexual acts on you, then YES you are in fact cheating.
You are TOO old to not know this.
... (read in full...)
Can marriage counselors give bad advice?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. Can some marriage counsellors not be good advisors? Me and my other half had a on line zoom meeting with one. This counsellor was young and in her thirties. I asked a few questions but they got ignored. To me she seemed to be more concerned a...A. 16 May 2024: Some counsellors are awful. Younger counsellors can be inexperienced. Another issue is that, depending on who is paying (seriously), counsellors can see them as the 'main' client and focus on them. It's not just counsellors who do this - anyone ... (read in full...)
Men on dating sites make me feel bad about myelf
Answered by kenny + on 16 May 2024.
 Q. Putting a profile on date sites for casual/ friendship on sites such as Free dating, Plenty of fish, completely free dating. Receive some messages. They asked for a photo then I put one on. I never hear from some of them again. Some will want to ...A. 16 May 2024: I think that with internet dating you really have to take it all with a pinch of salt, You really will receive a mixed bag of results some positive and some negative.
I have friends that have had some success story's from online dating that hav... (read in full...)
Is my physician losing respect for me?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. For the past 6 months I’ve been seeing a physician for some issues I’ve been having- he came highly recommended by a couple of friends who have been seeing him for several years. He’s an older gentleman and all his reviews are excellent. ...A. 16 May 2024: I don't know what is on his mind but doctors are also humans so I venture and say maybe he is interested in you in other ways . only you can judge through his behavior.... (read in full...)
Was this cheating?
Answered by anonymous on 16 May 2024.
Q. I met a man from a sex site but I am married. I do feel bad for what I have done. This man gave me oral but he did not penetrate me. It is still classed as having sex since he was not inside me and is it still a form of cheating. ...A. 16 May 2024: Since there was no penetration it is short of full sex so no it is cosidered half cheating. It is better to forget what happened.... (read in full...)
Is my physician losing respect for me?
Answered by kenny + on 16 May 2024.
Q. For the past 6 months I’ve been seeing a physician for some issues I’ve been having- he came highly recommended by a couple of friends who have been seeing him for several years. He’s an older gentleman and all his reviews are excellent. ...A. 16 May 2024: It is rather odd your the only one he refers to on first name terms, and also a bit random that he should mention you like expensive things, seems strange coming from a mature person in a professional position.
He comes highly recommen... (read in full...)
Was this cheating?
Answered by kenny + on 16 May 2024.
Q. I met a man from a sex site but I am married. I do feel bad for what I have done. This man gave me oral but he did not penetrate me. It is still classed as having sex since he was not inside me and is it still a form of cheating. ...A. 16 May 2024: Putting aside what happened with you and this man sexually, I would say that a married lady meeting a man from a sex site is cheating in itself.
I would also say anything that happened physically be that a kiss, oral sex, is also cheating... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 15 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 15 May 2024: This is not just about family. I have no family whatsoever and am a very independent and busy lady, I own and run a business with a lot of staff, my time is spoken for a week or more in advance. Yet there is also a sexist thing going on here. P... (read in full...)
Why did my neighbour lie to me about her experience at the restaurant where I work?
Answered by anonymous on 15 May 2024.
Q. I work part time at a small family run restaurant. As well as working there I often go there for dinner too. The food is amazing and service is wonderful. My neighbor a while back was asking about the restaurant as she and her sister wante...A. 15 May 2024: Whatever this woman's reasons and motives are, they're not straightforward. They do seem passive-aggressive, though exactly why she wants to engage in passive-aggressive behaviour is ultimately only for her to know and deal with. You say you don't ... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 15 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 15 May 2024: I can relate to this situation - it's similar to mine but also has some marked differences in that I met my partner when I was going through a divorce, had a young child, and marriage was never on the cards as I didn't want it - however, I realised ... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by kenny + on 14 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 14 May 2024: I think you are absolutely totally right in breaking it off and moving back to where you used to live.
Its good you have found out this out now and not once you tied the knot. If you found this out when you were married you would be a bit of a... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 14 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 14 May 2024: My mother used to say you don't marry a person, you marry a family and I agree with this opinion. Therefore I am pleased for you that you have decided not to go ahead and get married to him. It shows you are thinking clearly and not ruled by your ... (read in full...)
Girls preference on guys pubic hair
Answered by mystiquek + on 13 May 2024.
 Q. Hey girls, I was curious of your personal preference when it comes to a guys grooming down below? Also, what are your thoughts on chest hair?...A. 13 May 2024: I think its most attractive to be neat and trimmed. I personally think men with no chest chair is the sexiest. Back hair is just plain yuk. Some women love hairy men that can pass as a bear but I'm not one of them. ... (read in full...)
Girls preference on guys pubic hair
Answered by anonymous on 13 May 2024.
Q. Hey girls, I was curious of your personal preference when it comes to a guys grooming down below? Also, what are your thoughts on chest hair?...A. 13 May 2024: Different men have different body hair, as women do. Their body hair too tends to grow thicker and longer as they grow older, so sooner or later grooming becomes a necessity.
Down bellow should be trimmed and clean.
Chest hair should be trimmed ... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 13 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 13 May 2024: You are NOT the bad guy. You know where this is leading to and how this is going to end.
Calling off the wedding in your situation is a healthy, NORMAL thing to do.
Your fiancé has done a lot of things without asking you first, he's acting i... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by Honeypie + on 13 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 13 May 2024: OK you have a fiancé problem not an in-law problem.
"he is un phased saying it’s how his family are, and he doesn’t mind. "
So he is OK with it. He is also OK with YOU not being OK with it.
I'd hold off on the wedding. This is not goi... (read in full...)
Girls preference on guys pubic hair
Answered by Honeypie + on 13 May 2024.
Q. Hey girls, I was curious of your personal preference when it comes to a guys grooming down below? Also, what are your thoughts on chest hair?...A. 13 May 2024: Keep it neat, clean and trimmed. All shaved looks weird on an adult IMHO.
Chest hairs are nice, just don't like it when they grow up over the collarbones and continue down the back. Back hair is a no-no for me. But generally, DO you.... (read in full...)
Cut ties with my controlling family only to have to deal with fiancés controlling family
Answered by anonymous on 13 May 2024.
Q. I feel like im reliving my past and cannot go through it all again. I have a very toxic family- I’m not going to go in to details however they had zero boundaries and never took accountability for anything. They mentally wore me down. I en...A. 13 May 2024: In order to be painless you have to give as few mixed messages as possible.
So first you tell him to cancel the wedding.
When he asks you why you have to tell him that it's because you are leaving him!
When he asks where you are going you ... (read in full...)
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