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Why send me the photos

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Question - (27 September 2023) 3 Answers - (Newest, 3 October 2023)
A female age 51-59, *oply writes:

Meet a guy for sex every blue moon. Last time was over a month ago. I think he said, Thanks for letting me use you for sex or I use you for sex. I replied, and me with you too.

He sent me a photo of himself ages a go of himself having a drink. He didn’t put a message with it and I think I sent a message to him asking why he sent it and he said I should be sitting next to him. I said, maybe lol. Then he sent me photos of himself on holiday abroad but no message and he as done the same again but these of him being at a wedding it looks like. I doubt it’s his wedding because he sleeps around and isn’t the type to settle down.

Why does he send me them. I wondered if he is sending them to the wrong number and they should be for another woman. I wouldn’t be surprised if he as got a lot of numbers on his phone of women, me included.

Could it be he wants to get me jealous because he is abroad or just sending me them to show what a nice time he’s having. He is on his early 40s I’m in my early 50s.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2023):

If you were happy to meet for sex now and then - no strings - you would not be wasting time on caring why he sends photos. You are asking the sort of questions girls who have a crush on a guy or who are dating a guy do. Not what someone with no strings does. You agreed to no strings, but most women agree to it but really want more and put out to try to get it. If this is what you are doing it won't happen. As for it cannot be his wedding as he sleeps around. I doubt he is as lucky as he wants to be with women. You are the one and only one who puts out for him. Believe me. Most would not bother, most would insist on a full relationship and dating or nothing.

One day he will be too old or too ill to be able to sleep around, and then nobody will want him because he is old or ill. He will have a very lonely old age.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2023):

Back in the 70s, once I got my own apartment five FWB seemed to come as a bonus. I was always amazed how casual they were.

I was just out of college and they were all older, late 20s to early 40s. I had a cleaning lady and had the same casual conversations with her as I did with the ladies I just had sex with. They'd take a shower then bitch about being late for work or their boss. And off they'd go.

I didn't send them pictures but gave them little gifts, which was met with "thanks, I think. are you sure you should be gifting me?" like response.

I was probably used to coeds making me jump through hoops for sex. I was trying to put out my own hoop to jump through.

Older women handle FWB relationships better than guys of any age. Kiss them goodbye till next time.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (27 September 2023):

kenny agony auntIts difficult to say why he sends them, it is an odd thing to do for sure.

At the end of the day he is just someone you meet for casual sex once in a blue moon, which i'm guessing you are happy to do, and assuming your not looking for anything more meaningful.

As he is someone you hook up with once every now and then you probably don't really know that much about him.

We could delve into a myriad of reasons why he sends the photo's, its impossible to say why.

Maybe next time you hook up, just ask out of interest why he sends these photo's?.

If he keeps sending them and it starts to creep you out then simply delete and block him.

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