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writes:How can you re ignite a spark in a relationship. Ladies what would be a nice gesture or action after busy week of work. Can you guys give me ideas? Doesn’t have to be sexual as No point for the whole build up if she can only last 15 minutes in bed, and that’s it for the weekend. We eat out all the time so can’t be that, maybe something else that she might appreciate? Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2020): Thank you THANK YOU Youcannotbeserious for saying:
How about doing all the things she would normally have to do after a full day's work?
Because let's be honest, many nice things people do for others, are also nice things for themselves. Most of the time.
So, if it were me I'd like exactly that, that someone shows awareness and appreciation for what I am doing because I am doing so much on daily bases. The recognition I get is only for huge things (e.g. promotion at work), little, everyday, necessary and boring stuff (cooking, cleaning, paying bills...) is taken for granted.
So whatever it is that is taken for granted in your relationship should be reexamined.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2020): Obviously money is not an issue as you eat out all of the time. A meal at home, home cooked or delivered, might make a change though, and then you can add little touches like soft music, low lighting, flowers, chocolates, maybe a treat of her favourite bottle of perfume and a good movie, one you know she loves, on the tv.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (26 October 2020):
 How about doing all the things she would normally have to do after a full day's work? Or doing things she has to keep asking you to do before she asks? Quite often it's the little things which make a huge difference. If she has to keep asking you to take out the rubbish, or tidy up after yourself, or put your washing in the washing basket, do those things without being asked. Having to keep nagging someone drains your energy.
If you eat out all the time, how about ordering in, laying out the table with nice cutlery and candles, getting a nice bottle of wine (or whatever tipple you both enjoy), putting some soft music on and having a relaxing evening at home for a change?
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (25 October 2020):
 Maybe at the end of a busy week, you could run her a nice bath, with bubbles, insence, and candles for her to relax in.
While she is relaxing in there you could be preparing a nice romantic dinner, with candle light and wine.
Then finish off with chocolate, and a good movie to snuggle up to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2020): I just answered a different question on here in which I suggested a spa break ...that is a nice gesture! Even if she's not a spa person, she will appreciate the little break away.
If money is tight though, go to one of the shops such as Lush or Body Shop and invest in some nights face masks, bath bombs etc and out some candles out ...maybe also rent a movie for after.
Thinking selfishly that's what would be nice for me.
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