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writes: My son and I moved in with my bf and his son about 6 months ago. His son recently had a birthday party and invited his friends and didn't invite my son. When i said how annoyed i was i was told to stop moaning. The two lads don't always get on. I feel like it is a them and us situation in the house. I have spoke to bf about it but he says he doesn't see it like that. How can i make it more an us situation. Also his ex phones twice per week. I feel like they have a bound which we will never have. We are both too old and have been sterilized so we can never have kids of our own. I wish it was different. I feel like we are on the outside looking in. Me and bf are supposed to be getting married next year. I'm not sure after the week we have just had. I don't feel the same way about the whole situation.Has anyone got any advice or tips for me.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (20 November 2006):
When mixing families, it is usually best to move into a brand new house. You and your son have moved in with him, and there are some shared territory issues there. This goes for singles without children moving in together too.
Right now, you and your son are in HIS house. If this marrige is going to work, the territory boundaries are going to have to be shattered.
It sounds like it was a bad move. Defiantely not good if you are serious about getting married.
-Frank B Kermit
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