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writes: Went to a friend's wedding a few weeks ago. It was good and a nice small one.I met her boyfriend about 3 years ago at a meal with friends, he seemed like a nice guy. We all got on well with him.He was an American who'd been living here for 10 years at the time.But now I've found out her boyfriend is already married.A source in the public domain in a newspaper from another province shows a picture of the exact same guy with his wife criticizing Canada's stay-at-home COVID orders and politicians. Yes, same name, same guy.His wife's an American who's known for her anti-lockdown and anti-anti-obesity views and pro-fast-food companies, pro-big business stance. She's something of a meme, and because she's a public figure I can mention it here.OK, so not a celebrity like Justin Bieber or Katy Perry are, but well-known enough due to her loud personality and thick accent.I'm facing a moral dilemma of whether to tell her or not.Known her since I was 13 years old.Surely this is bigamy, and he'd be jailed for it.Now I'm worried about her.They'd already been living together for months before the marriage; I'd seen her home, it's a lovely place close to the city.I don't know what to do for the best.This isn't some acquaintance, but someone I thought was a really good friend and someone who helped me in the past, especially during the recession, you know, The Great Recession of 2007-2009, that was on all the news channels, like CTV or CNN.I care for her, and we always used to be socialising closely, apart from during the pandemic.Now I don't know what to do.I don't want to be a bitch but equally I don't want to sound like an interfering woman who's dealing with her wedded life as a newlywed.Please just help me with this moral dilemma.I suppose if I was in the position she's in and found out my husband was already married, I'd be getting emotional help.But I'm stressed about the whole thing.It doesn't help that she's invited me to a party next week at a restaurant which she paid for and it's me, and 13 of our friends eating out. A popular woodfired pizza restaurant.Looking for advice.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (8 June 2022):
I'd give the woodfired pizza a miss... There's bound to be a scene
I expect the husband's other wife will burst in on them and announce the truth.
Something very similar happened to another poster recently when they ate at a woodfired pizza restaurant....
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