A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm writing to ask what I should do in my current situation with my girlfriend. We have been together 3 months now and it's all been pretty much fantastic. Since our first date we have been with each other everyday since and apart from the odd arguement here and there things are great. I'm 18 and its safe to say she's the first girl i've been in love with. SO here comes my predicament. Recently i've started to notice that she always wants her own way and if she doesnt get it she goes in the worst mood possible with me and then doesn't speak to me and acts all cold with me for upto a day. But it's over really stupid things. Last night for instance she wanted to watch some crap on the tv so I let her whilst I watched in agonising boredom. Then she wanted to watch Big Brother so I once again obliged despite hating it. Then after that she wanted to watch another bad show and when I resisted saying we have watched what she wanted for the last 3 hours and I put a film on she went off ina huff and didn't speak to me for an hour. I'm kinda used to this behaviour but at the same time it's really starting to grind on me because I feel like her tool or accessory who she can always have what she wants. Another thing that worries me is that her last boyfriend was exactly that, she walked all over him and he bent over backwards for her to the extent where because he would do everything for her it would anoy her! Anyway this morning things were fine and I was revising then she asked for a lift home. The day before I'd already got kind of anoyed because I'm like her personal taxi always picking her up and dropping her off at the drop of a hat so this morning i protested the lift again then she went off in a hissy and didn't speak to me. I showered then decided just to give her wat she wanted, I drove her home in silence so she knew I was anoyed and that was that.To wrap it up I just want some advice on what to do coz I feel like shes starting to take advantage of me because she knows i'm in love with her. She said one of the reasons she likes me is because I have a backbone unlike her last boyfriend but when I use it it just results in one of her tantrums. I know I could try tell her to grow up etc but she never realises shes doing anything wrong. Other things where she always wants her own way is cinema, restaurant, music in the car. Ok i know it sounds kind of petty but i'd just like some respect and balance!Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 She's a spoiled brat is what she is. Whether she knows it or not, but I personally think she knows exactly what she is doing. Next time she pulls a hissy just ignore her, when she sees that the hissy fits or silent treatments don't affect you, she'll quit. It is just like dealing with a toddler in the throes of the terrible two's. However, toddlers grow up and out of that behavior pattern. If she doesn't change her behavior and start acting like an adult you may have to ditch her, she will make your life miserable.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 You need to stand up for yourself. If she's walking all over you, she's using and disrespecting you. You deserve better. Break up with her and find someone who wants you for you.
DV1
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