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writes:I know that sex for money is prostitution and illegal in most places except Vegas. I recently started having sex with an attractive older woman (like mid-30’s) who works as like the number two person in financial aid at the school I will be attending. It started during a financial aid interview and she was flirting and I got turned on and she made me admit it and she just asked if I wanted to do it and so I went for it. It was consensual so I am not complaining about that. She did not promise me anything for the sex but on one of our time outs she said I did not have anything to worry about. That could mean I will get it on my own or she will make sure I get it regardless. If I do not get the scholarship on my merits and she intervenes and I get one anyway, would that mean I am actually a male prostitute? The scholarships are worth thousands of dollars so that is real money. I do not regret having all the sex with her during my interview or any of the times after because it was epic on its own. But still If I get this scholarship and she has to pull the string I am feeling guilty because someone else loses out. Would it also be a crime? How do I even find out if I earned it legit or because of all the sex we are having? Should I just as an honor move ask her to stay out of the decision on my application or is it smart not to ask questions and keep showing up for sex each time she calls? If I do not get it, it just means putting off school another semester.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2022): I have a son your age and I can tell you if she was using my 17 year old child that way even if she wasn’t in a position of authority I’d have her head on a platter!!! She is a predator!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2022): WiseOwlE is perfectly right, it's not "consensual " ,no matter how enthusiastic you may be, if she is in a position of authority over you. Not to mention that in several States of USA the age for sexual consent is 18 and if this had happened in one of those, it would be statutory rape and she could not even benefit from a "Romeo and Juliet " law. Frankly to me it is hard to believe that any school office would be so stupid to risk losing her current job, her professional future and maybe her freedom too just for a roll in the hay with a schoolkid , but ,assuming this really happened , she deserves being reported and if you won't do it , I am pretty sure that suoner or later someone else will -schools are gossipy places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2022): The reason she should be reported is for using her position of authority to take advantage of high school students. She is exploiting a kid who thinks his scholarship rides on giving her what she wants, which proves you don't have the judgement or experience to deal with this situation; which gives her the advantage. What she is doing is highly unethical. If she is caught she will be fired. If your parents find-out; they have legal grounds file a law suit against the school. If you won't tell, somebody else will!
You think it's cool, but it's not. It's not consensual when the person is using enticements or blackmail to get what they want from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2022): Hi this is the guy who posted the message. I am 17 and not sure why it says 16-17 on there. I do have excellent grades and scores which is why I might get it on my own. So what I am getting from what you said is she does not have the power on her own to decide and if she made me think she does she is faking me out. If that is true, I sort of feel better because it means if I get anything it will be on my grades. I don't know why I would report her. She started it but it was consensual. I guess there was a little pressure when I though my scholarship might depend on it but she never actually said I had to have sex with her. Why do you think I should report her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2022): Typos corrected:
"If what you claim is true, and I'm a little skeptical; I would suggest that you report this person so she won't exploit other people; because no "one person" has the first and last word on whether you qualify for a scholarship."
"If your grades and aptitude don't [meet] the requirements; you're having a good time; but you're not going to get the scholarship. You have to meet certain qualifications, and [then] those qualifications, and your grades, have to be verified to be approved.
I suggest you report this lady immediately! It's a little soon to be discussing financial aid and scholarships at only 16, in the United States. Maybe you entered the wrong age information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2022): Well, you have to meet certain scholastic criteria to qualify for scholarship money. It also has to be processed through several different levels of administration before it reaches approval. You don't just get a check; because the financial-aide officer digs you.
If what you claim is true, and I'm a little skeptical; I would suggest that you report this person so she won't be exploit other people; because no one person has the first and last word on whether you qualify for a scholarship. If your grades and aptitude don't met the requirements; you're having a good time, but you're not going to get the scholarship. You have to meet certain qualifications, and it those qualifications have to be verified to be approved.
She's taking advantage of your innocence and naivete; but that doesn't make you a prostitute. It makes her an criminal and unethical person.
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