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writes:Hi everyone, so my boyfriend and I want to hang out.. The problem is that my parents are really old fashioned and don't approve of me having a boyfriend.. So I have hide it from them and when I hang out I have to add some story to my plans to hang with my boyfriend. My parents think girls my age are not capable of anything. So my bf and I want to meet up on Sunday at a mall to catch a movie and probs go window shopping. The thing is, I want to go to a mall where my parents are unlikely to go to which it decreases our chances of getting caught. But my bf wants to go to another mall which has tons of ppl and my parents would go there too and might even catch a movie too! So I really don't want to get caught.. And I am quite certain that my parents wouldn't follow us into the mall I chose. But the problem is, my bf doesn't want the mall I chose because of traffic and stuff.. But there's only traffic for a short distance before it breaks out into a highway to get back to his house.. And now my bf hung up on me and doesn't want to talk to me. I also told my bf why I chose that certain mall.. But he got all mad and stuff so... Any advise on how to solve this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2015): I posted this question...
Well he is very attentive and really caring. He puts in effort into the relationship and well my parents approve of him as a friend nothing more. But he and I have been together for a year and a half.. We always have to think of ways of how we could see each other. And it's extremely crucial at this point in time because he's leaving to the UK for his studies. So we wanna spend some time together and make the best of it.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (22 July 2015):
 I am very sorry that he hung up on you and will not speak to you. He may be insulted to think your parents don't approve of him, despite him being a good student, like yourself.
The Mall issue sounds like you've thought this through. You don't like keeping things from your parents but you really do want to see your Bf.
Time is a great healer. Have your parents and you discussed an age when they will be more supportive of you dating?
At your age I suspect that they want you to concentrate on your studies.
How would things affect you if he chose to go away to study?
Would your parents be supportive of you writing to him on a regular basis? Or maybe in the future you could get Skype.
What if you went away to study somewhere else? A long Distance relationship can be very hard to maintain inless communication is regular and positive.
Despite all the obstacles this boy seems to be very important to you.
Has he been especially attentive and caring or do you think you have been the one who most wants this relationship to work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2015): I posted this question..
I did let my bf know that my parents don't approve of dating. Also, I did try to talk to my parents about him but they shut me off and just say "you're too young, don't think about love" and so on..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 July 2015):
 If you can't be "adult" enough to tell your parents you are dating, then maybe you are not ready for the responsibility of a relationship.
You want your parent to think you are trustworthy and smart, YET you run around their back and lie to get what you want.. don't you think that actually PROVES (more than disprove) that
"girls your age are not capable of anything" ..
As for your BF, I understand him. He doesn't want to be your dirty secret.. or... he is just really childish and hate not getting his way... both are a good reason not to date him.
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reader, MSA +, writes (21 July 2015):
 Don't worry.. if he really likes you, he will get over it. He will understand that you are trying your best to be with him, even if that means going out of the way.. if he is not able to do that for you, then is he worth you fighting for?
He is angry because he doesn't understand and thinks you should be free and open to date where and whenever you want. You should tell him once, and only once - that your parents do not yet approve of you dating, yet you are doing all you can to be able to hang out with him, even if it means disobeying your parents. You are sacrificing and fighting for your relationship. If he doesn't understand that and doesn't see what you are doing for him.. then unfortunately, he is not the kind of guy you want to be with.
Good Luck!
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