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writes: Hey people, I don't know if you can help but here goes.My little sister is so annoying. She is really spoilt and wants me to play with her all the time even though I'm almost 15 and she's 9. She can be really hypocrytical as well, for instance, today, she came into my room without asking and started annoying me. Whenever I go in her room without asking she goes off and tells mum and I get in trouble. She's really sneaky because she tells off me for silly little things and I get in trouble for it, even though she does naughty things as well but I don't tell off her. Please don't tell me to talk to my mum about this problem because I have tried, and she just says that we are both treated equally. We're not though, please help me, talking to my mum doesn't work but talking to you might. Reply to this Question
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reader, Elliekitten +, writes (18 January 2006):
 hi! oh dear so this is what my sis fealt like, i am the youngest and there is a 5 year gap between us, i feel that i behaved just like your sister when i was younger, the reason i did this is because i idolised her and craved her attention i also fealt that she was loved more than me by my mother so i got her into trouble to make them like me more, this is what children do they crave attention from everyone and anyone and are jeallous of anyone in the way of what they want, children are quite selfish because they are not yet ready to put others first, dont worry about this problem too much as it will get better with time and you may end up being her best friend one day like me and my sister..my sister lives abroad now and we miss each other so much so there is hope for you. good luck!!
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (18 January 2006):
 I have two sisters, one who is four years younger and one who is six years younger, and I have found myself in a similar dilemma over the years. All I can say is that she's young and immature, and this behavior can be expected. She will outgrow it soon enough. Things will be a lot different when you're both older. At the moment, your sister loves you a lot and craves your attention, but doesn't understand that there are more appropriate ways to get it. That's why she's acting out like this. Just give it time, and don't react too strongly when she behaves inappropriately in order to receive your attention. (You don't want to feed the problem!) It will get better. I promise.
Based on personal experience, I wouldn't recommend talking to your mom about it. She'll insist that you're treated equally, but will tend to favor your little sister because she is younger and, presumably, more innocent (though we both know that the innocent part isn't very true!).
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 January 2006):
 I would say your little sister is trying to provoke a reaction off of you and this is why she does these things. Whenever she does something like this turn the other cheek. I know it is hard but if you are react you are giving her what she wants. Hopefully she will lose interest rather than escalating her actions. If however she escalates then she may automatically incur your mother's wrath anyway if she doesn't then I suggest that you may have little choice but to approach your mother but try and change the nature of your approach. Catalogue your grivences and present them in a reasonable, cool manner. Don't retaliate at all costs because that is again giving your sister what she wants. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): Maybe this will help you a little.You could start with maybe putting a lock on your door so that she can't bother you. If she keeps pounding on your door try your best to just ignore her. Hopefully she will get annoyed and realize you aren't going to feed into her and she will give up! I know little sisters can be quite annoying!I would also start telling your Mom on everything she is doing. As it seems to be working for her to get you into trouble! Maybe if you could hide a tape recorder somewhere, and record her,this will be the ultimate proof to your Mom of just how she is behaving, and making your life miserable!Good Luck!
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