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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I apologize in advance if I sound silly and immature.My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years, and everything goes great aside from a few fights here and there. Keep in mind that he's 19, and I'm 18. One thing I've noticed is that his female cousin (who's 17) seems strangely flirty with him. For example, out of random, she'll text him "I'm thinking about you" or ask him if he thinks she's "hot," which strikes me as very weird. I'm close with some of my cousins, but we never act like that. Another example is that if they're sitting next to each other, she'll just lay her head onto his shoulder, even if I'm there. Maybe it's just me being insecure, but that doesn't seem very appropriate to me. Not only that, he completely changes his attitude around her. For example, he suddenly becomes more joking and smiley, and asking her about past boyfriends. Not only that, he chooses to sit besides her rather than me until she's like "you should be next to your girlfriend!" Am I just being paranoid and jealous? Or is there a little attraction between them?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (24 June 2013):
Well off course you are going to feel paranoid and jealous if your boyfriend is showing more attention to another girl. If this girl was not his cousin and just another girl he knew would you put up with the way they are behaving? If the answer is no then I guess you do have something to worry about here.
Yes to you it is strange that they are acting this way because they are family, and lets face it all families act differently towards each other. However if you feel that the both of them are over stepping the mark well then it is time to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Yes he will probably get defensive and tell you not to be silly that she is his cousin but sometimes that doesn't stop two people being attracted to each other.
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