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writes:Can someone please tell me what is wrong with men? They say they love you, it feels right together, you have so much in common..... you are both having fun and things are great......Then why oh why, do they seem to think they need more than 1 woman? Does there ever come a time in their lives when they have caught their limit? I have heard of some men being committed to just one, but would they still be committed if they were sure there was no way for them to be caught? I think I am a pretty good catch, and have no trouble getting into relationships with men, but then this always seems to resurface...there is some other bitch in the background. It is baffling to me, and I know I am not the only one this happens to. Doesn't it seem like Most men just lie and cover it up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Cheating has never been an option for me. When i am in love with a woman she is my everything there is no need for another. You almost seem to have come up with a theory about men an pick men to proove yourself right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): I have a friend ex colleague who had the same problem and she was in her 50's but looked younger, a good catch and immaculately groomed. She always went for the 'charmer' or someone with slightly weak tendancies. Not all her 'fault' as such but she was an easy target for men who really just wanted a fling or an attractive good hearted woman.
I had a firm talk with her and asked her if she really wanted a good relationship? She said she really did and someone to enjoy life with.
I told her to hold out for it and pray very hard every night, to write a list of all the good qualities she was after and to give it up to God and have full faith.
Also suggested that she stop going out with the type that was a flatterer without better character.
Low and behold she actually took my advice did everything I said, I was her phone buddy for a while giving her support and she met someone who was working accross the road from her that she had never met before and he was everything and I mean everything that she was looking for and she for him!
She still had some little issues to work through with him and had to be quite firm about some things as he had an ex wife who he was not in love with but she was immature. But it has all worked out so well for them!
I hope you find this encouraging.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011):
I am satisfied with just one good woman. I did come close to cheating and the reason was that my wife decided a satisfying sex life was optional. Treat your man right and he won't stray.
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reader, Odds +, writes (1 June 2011):
 It's not most men, not by a fair margin. There's selection bias. Cheating men are more heavily represented in the dating scene.
Think of it this way. Say you have three guys who are faithful to their girlfriends, and one guy who is cheating on his main with two other girls. Even though, in this scenario, only 25% of the men are cheaters, 50% of women experience being two-timed. I'm not sure what the real nubmers are (no one is), probably very different from these, but you get the idea.
Consider also the type of guy you're seeing. Women prefer passionate, driven, confident men. But these are the kind of guys who have lots of options. Some of them are, naturally, going to take those options. What you have to do is be very careful what sort of guy you're dating. Be sure he's the monogamous type before you let yourself fall for him. Maybe change the type of guy you go after to one more likely to be faithful. Avoid anyone with a history of promiscuity.
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (31 May 2011):
If you find a man who is 'content with his lot' send him my way...!! lol You just have to look at the 'celebs' with a gorgeous wife, and even they can't keep it in their pants!!
I think they are just different to women tbh! Most men don't realise what they have got until it's gone...the grass always seems greener...but rarely is...it's full of weeds then they realise...but it's too late! ;-)
I'm sure there are some decent guys out there, but where the hell they hide god only knows!x
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 hey,
I for one, am satisfied with one girl... i may not have found her yet, but i only date ONE at a time... those guys that are cheating, and finding multiple women etc. they are just idiots who are looking for nothing but the wrong things in life, and they are being completely immoral.. those guys will only hurt you.. stay away at the first sign of someone like this.
hope i helped.
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reader, the.hummingbird +, writes (31 May 2011):
greed. that is the awnser however amongst all the rocks are a few glittering crystals.
if a man is not satisfied with his partner then he is no real man at all. real men can conquer their wants andwill learn to treat you right. dont worry there is a crystal out there for you some where.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 May 2011):
It's not all of us. For me, one woman is enough! I can't imagine trying to lie and juggle women around all the time - that would be exhausting and boring.
What I tend to find is that any woman experiencing cheating from many partners is a woman who needs to look at the type of man she likes.
If you've suffered this, it really isn't you. What it may well be is that you are attracted to the same type of man over and over again. So if you're attracted to the overly outgoing guy who can make you laugh and talk to talk and promises you lots of things, you need to check this because they are the more likely to cheat.
And, for what it's worth, research has shown that women are the ones who are better at lying and covering up. Most men get caught out. And both sexes cheat - there are also men who suffer this as well, but for the same reason. Look at the type of guy you're attracted to.
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