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writes:Hi I was with a woman who I fell madly in love with we were together a year I idolised her and could see myself spending the rest of my life with her and she also felt the same I finished with her after she had a miscarriage I was a idiot I know I see her around all the time she looks stunning still but she will not speak to me if I see her she turns away from me i would love her back but she has a new son and boyfriend what do I do Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2017):
 You get as far away from her as possible. This poor woman lost a child and then lost you because of it. She must have just hated herself so much. I do not blame her for never wanting to talk to you again. I am glad she has met someone else and they have been gifted a child. You need to learn by your mistake and never allow another woman to feel the way you made this one feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2017): This is what often happens.
People do not think about their actions at the time or about what they are throwing away.
Regrets are a tough pill to swallow in life.
Lesson: Cherish what you HAVE when you have it. Not once you have thrown it away.
You don't know what you have until it's gone.
You could not be the man she needed you to be when she needed you the most. You did not step up. She found a man who was the man you could never be. And she has moved on with her life. Wish her well and move on yourself. But I suggest working on yourself before you end up in another relationship. You seem pretty immature, self centred and selfish. And you have no sense of responsibility or doing the right thing by someone. You just bailed on her. You knocked her up and then ran off when she needed you to help her through something very difficult. What kind of a MAN are you? Can you blame her for not wanting you back in her life? You showed her your true character. Now, she's got a man who treats her well. And she deserves that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2017): You absolutely leave her alone. You hurt her at a terrible time in her life. She's moved on and is happy. Leave her be.
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reader, N91 +, writes (13 February 2017):
 You suck it up and deal with it. You had your chance and you broke up with her.
What about the miscarriage made you finish with her? Surely she would of needed you more than ever at that point?
Be respectful and leave her be, she has another life now and you need to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2017): Can I ask why did you fi sub with her the first time ?
You mention that she looks stunning , but surely you don't just want to get back with her because of her appearance ?
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (13 February 2017):
 I'm very sorry to tell you this, but it sounds like you have no chance whatsoever of getting back together with this woman. Please try to see things from her point of view - the miscarriage was probably terrible enough, but being dumped because of a tragedy she had no control over while likely still reeling from the loss must have been awful beyond belief for her to go through. It doesn't surprise me that she wrote you off after that, and did her best to move on. Now that she has found happiness with a new partner and had a child with him, please respect their little family and do your best to move on gracefully, too.
Good luck and best wishes moving forward.
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