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writes: ok.so i have beem going out with this girl for over 3 years now.but recentley, she made a new friend (a girl), me and her got talking and became good friends.But in the past few dasy i have started to realy hate my gf but dont have the guts to tell her.But the big thing is that i think i am in love with her new friend.It has been about 5 months cinse they met, and i met her.i told her i have lots of feeling for her, and she said that she like to alot to, but she doent want to upset her friend/my gf.i am so confused about what to do :S
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reader, troysyaussie +, writes (31 July 2008):
that's right. don't you ever cheat on her with this girl. always end a relationship fully first. and if you do decide to try and date this other girl you should give it a long time first so it can give your girlfriend a chance to not care about you anymore. but i think you are just having relationship problems and its making you think you have feelings for this other girl. she already told you that she wouldn't hurt her friend for a man so you need to forget about that for now and work on one relationship at a time. and don't make yourself untrustable cause no one will ever trust you in life is you start that crap.
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reader, AnonymousBob +, writes (31 July 2008):
You say you'e started to "hate" your girlfriend in the past few days. It could simply be that you two are going through a bad time, every couple has it's ups and downs, and your feelings for her could return soon.
You have to sit down and think WHY you seem to be feeling like this towards your girlfriend.
On the otherhand, to say you've started to "hate" her, is a very strong thing to say, so it might be simply that you do not love her?
You've been together a ry long time so I don't doubt you both have very strong feelings for each other.
My advice? It's probably just a rough patch. You should sit down and think about why you feel like this, and think of all the reasons you DO have feelings for your girlfriend.
You might just be confused by this rough patch, and with this friend appearing, you might think you;re in love with her, when infact, you;re just kind of... in a way, upset about you and your girlfriend.
I;d give it time, and hopefully you will get through this rough patch.
In the meantime. DO NOT cheat on your girlfriend. Hang tough, and stay faithful to her, and I'm sure things will be fine.
It could be just a crush.
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