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writes:i have been away for a year in australia and returned, living back with my family. usually its a quiet house but it seemed that everyone was home this weekend. it was like a big family christmas meal. no room. i had planned this weekend to spend some time with my boyfriend but we were surrounded by my family.it seemed to me that they found it fun to make me very consious about myself, putting me down or embarracing me with jokes, which i had to try to defend myself which wasnt pretty. making me look stupid in front of him. it made the weekend i was so looking forward to, feel an absolute cock up! while he slept beside me i couldnt help but cry. i love my family, they mean everything to me, but i have to leave. i am falling in love with my boyfriend but am worried that my reaction to my families coments especially when he is round, will push him away from me.its too soon to find a place to live with my boyfriend. i need my space. what can i do? Where can go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Hi Hunny
I no only to well were you are coming from, I live with my parents and my 3 children and I have a sister and brother who come down on occation..Christmas is a bloody nightmare my sister always puts me down, She doesnt mean to Im little she is a little larger than me and she constantly makes remarks about my weight, I wouldnt dream of saying anything to her about hers at it would be cruel. Ill help but not put her down in front of everyone..My dads deaf bless him so he hears nothing my mum just laughs it off and my sister inlaw loves it all...Its crap!!!!!I love my family thats why Im still here for my mum. You are young hunny and I moved out and had my own place but got divorced and he wouldnt budge!!! Thats what you need.. Save up get a good job and work on moving so your happy. My family are not all here all the time thank goodness I dont mind my brother he is a sweetheart, But I no what you mean about the crying at nights, Im sure they dont mean to upset you, They just dont realise what they say and do can hurt. My fellas laid back so thats a godsend my mother wouldnt speak to him at all when I first met him now he is the best thing that ever happened but if he had been a different person he wouldnt be here now, No one is good enough after all thats happened in my past and thats what all my family go on, Im the only one who has moved on...They love you hunny if you can speak with your mum and just say how you feel, Just make plans to get yourself set up in your own place I no its not easy money wise love and it will take time. Always have faith in you hunny thats what keeps me going and always believe in yourself if you need a chat message me TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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