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How can I make a move on a married man I really like?

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Question - (15 May 2006) 16 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2006)
A female , *ngel ron writes:

Listen guys hey how are you? Well I have another problem I fancy one of the Dads at my daughter's nursery, he is really nice, good looking, friendly and I really like him. And he is funny too. I would like to make the first move on to him the only thing is I do not know how to. I know he is married but I like him. I would dearly love to kiss him and for him to do the same thing to me and to make love to me in a fanstatic way.

I can't stop thinking about him and I am looking out for him and am disapointed when he is not there.

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A female reader, Angel ron +, writes (12 June 2006):

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Angel ron agony auntthnks guys I know you are right but I still like him howver I fanstaiuse about having him ih bed and having the most fantatsic mindblowing sex which is what iam not getting at the moment that cures the problems As for morlas I dont know what it is anymore as my life is complicated thanks guys very nuch apporeciated.

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A female reader, Angel ron +, writes (12 June 2006):

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Angel ron agony auntthanks guys for the advice.

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A female reader, married mom of 2 +, writes (27 May 2006):

Wow! I feel like I wrote this myself. I am married and have been lusting after a mrried man myself. I ride by his house constantly, go out of my way to be a place I know he goes. He is flirty with me when his wife is not around. One recent night I confessed to him that should anything ever happen to our spouses we should get together. he said that he was thinking the same thing. He is in a band and looks so hot on stage. His wife is yucky and won't let him out of her sight. Can't blame her. I would never leave my husband for him because he fishes for a living and doesn't make half as much money as my man does. My stomach is in knots! Once after a few drinks and I said to him that I would be thinking about him while I was going to be with my husband. Funny thing is he and my husband were childhood friends and he moved back home a few years ago. I think that they are both jealous of each other. I don't know what kind of responses you have gotten but I too need advice.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006):

!!!!NO NO NO!!!!!

Please do not do anything about this man, roughly 2 years ago i felt lonely like you my marriage was falling to bits, then i find out that a single girl who i knew did get what she wanted from my husband. After all this time we are trying to put our marriage back together, our children where devasted when we split up. I don't completely trust him now but i love him too much to let go. Take in what i have said cause that is what will happen to your marriage if you go ahead and try to get this man. Try and rebuild your marriage. Best of luck.

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A female reader, Angel ron +, writes (17 May 2006):

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Angel ron agony auntthanks guys for the advice the man iam interested the married one ignored me today and didn't talk to me . but let me tell you a few things guys at the moment iam feeling lonely at the moment i ahve not managed to amek many friends at college and last week they never asked me to come out with them which really hurts. or where iam livng also iam over eating and putiing on weight. Iam feeling terrible miserable and wat some lov ena fun at the moment.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006):

I know exactly what you are feeling. Like you just want to breathe the same air and stand near enough that you can smell him. I know how strong the desire can be, I feel it every day, with my boss. I hear songs on the radio and daydream about how we could be together. I put in a question last week about it, "I'm in love with my boss, but we both live with our partners..." It isn't real. I've been doing a lot of soulsearching. I love the excitement of being with him. New and sexy, but when that has subsided, because it ALWAYS does, what is left? Broken hearts and alot of baggage and pain. I think that you need to find a new focus, as do I! We are worth more than some bitch that thinks so little of ourselves that we have to not only betray our commitments, but steal another women's man and tear a family apart. Good luck. I know it isn't easy, but if I can resist after seven years of lusting after my boss, you can too!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006):

Er don't hes married kid of breaking a written and unwritten rule there!! Also do you want a man who would cheat on his wife and kids could be you ten years down the line!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2006):

if you're unhappily married you should divorce and go find yourself a "single man" you dont want to screw up that guys marriage. you'll be asking for trouble if you do this. sure you feel lonely and you badly want someone right now, but this isnt right. i know how you feel, exactly know how you you feel, but dont do it!! good luck and God Bless!

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A female reader, cfliberal +, writes (15 May 2006):

Even if you could get him, why would you want someone who would so easily break a commitment to his wife and child(ren)? Being attracted to others regardless of their status is normal; going after them is not. Either learn to appreciate this man as eye candy or find another nursery to use for your daugher.

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A male reader, yoyouyont +, writes (15 May 2006):

here is the thing-you want what you cant have, boo hoo. Everyone does it-its a defense mechanism to hide your insecurity. You want something you cant have or you want someone that cannot be with you in a close way because you are afraid of intimacy. Also it would be a little trophy for your self esteem if you snagged him. This will in the long run leave you feeling shitty. No-one will have much sympathy and you could be left like a side dish only tasted when the staple diet bores his palate. Maybe you long to be married and he represents a template of the partner you want. Either way this is childish bullshit, give it up as the children dont need to have instability placed in their lives. Find someone who is into you not taken and friendly- it's no excuse that you like him.

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A female reader, Angel ron +, writes (15 May 2006):

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Angel ron agony auntthanks guys you are right but let me reveal a little it more the trouble is im in a uhhapopy relationship with a man who loves and hates me. Iam not trying to be spiteful by saying that I like him because he is married iam saying that when enevr I see him he makes me feel happy and I like him and he makes me excape from my unhappy marriae to my present husband

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A female reader, Angel ron +, writes (15 May 2006):

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Angel ron agony auntThanks guys you are right but let me reveal a little bit more. The trouble is I'm in a uhhappy relationship with a man who loves and hates me. I am not trying to be spiteful by saying that I like him because he is married I am saying that whenever I see him he makes me feel happy and I like him and he makes me escape from my unhappy marriage to my present husband.

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A male reader, yoyouyont +, writes (15 May 2006):

here is the thing-you want what you cant have, boo hoo. Everyone does it-its a defense mechanism to hide your insecurity. You want something you cant have or you want someone that cannot be with you in a close way because you are afraid of intimacy. Also it would be a little trophy for your self esteem if you snagged him. This will in the long run leave you feeling shitty. No-one will have much sympathy and you could be left like a side dish only tasted when the staple diet bores his palate. Maybe you long to be married and he represents a template of the partner you want. Either way this is childish bullshit, give it up dear god

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A female reader, bonym United Kingdom +, writes (15 May 2006):

bonym agony auntHi Angel Ron, listen my friend, coming from some one who knows, please do not mess with a married man, its just a really bad idea. It will only lead to trouble and I am sure if you were answering a quesion for someone else you would advise them to stay well clear. And willywombat is spot on, you want to ruin a marriage merely for sex? Thats not good, please my friend, try and stop thinking about him and find a single man. xXx

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (15 May 2006):

willywombat agony auntOk. Do you want a straight answer? If not turn away now. DO NOT DO THIS!

Firstly this is a crush, and yes you can have them when you are a grown up!

Secondly, he is married therefore off limits!

Thirdly, he may not be interested in you!

Why would you wnat to break up another persons marriage for the sake of sex? Go get yourself some morals and a single guy to mess with.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (15 May 2006):

DrPsych agony auntMessing with married men is not a good idea, messing with married men you have to see at the nursery is doubly not a good idea. Firstly if he knocks you back then it would be embarrassing to see him again. Secondly if he consents to a fling it wouldn't make him a very nice person because he is married, has made a commitment with someone else and it is just horrible for kids to be dragged into marital problems. Can't you find someone funny, good looking and not married??? Plenty of men out there...

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