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writes: I am in my 40s and had noticed this guy that I thought I had recognised from years ago but didn't feel I could go up and ask him. I left my number with the local coffee shop for him and he text me that same day and turned out that he used to live in the same area as me 50 miles away and went to the same pub. He ended up moving into the same village that I lived in and his son went to the same nursery as mine and I would occasionally see him in the local pub here but at the time we obviously didn't recognise each other. I asked him what made him move up to where we are now living and he said 'Moved up here for work and woman! Never got away from work!!.I didn't quite know how to respond to that as he must have met someone when he moved up about ten years ago as he has a son who is only 8 yet I only ever see him on his own or him with his son. How would you read that comment from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): I think the same but ask him anyway!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): Well it depends if you really meant to write 'woman' singular or meant 'women' plural, if he said he moved for work and woman then it means he has someone, if he said that he has moved for work and women it means he is single and on the prowl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): Never trust vague comments. That's a sign someone is omitting the facts. There may be a lot of drama behind the curtain. I suggest you keep a safe distance and heed the vagueness as a warning.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 Sounds to me from what you said that he moved up for a job and a woman he met and he's still with her.
I can only go on what you typed, and that's what I think it means x
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 Are you trying to work out whether or not to keep on communicating with him? Is there some reason you can't simply say something like, "Well, it's a small world, someone from our village winds up living so close. Tell me what's been happening with you, are you well? How's your family? Mine is well, mother has been doing XYZ and father is wonderful and has been interested in ABC, my siblings are DEF and GHI! My son is LMN, so proud of him. What was your favorite thing about the village, what do you miss most and what do you miss least?"
Are you single, is that why you are interested in him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2016): I took that to be a typo, I thought he meant women rather than woman. as in he said he moved up there for work and to find women but couldn't get away from work. it seems like he meant, "I couldn't find a woman because I couldn't get away from workbut here you are ready and willing. I hope we have something in common because now I have an in."
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 February 2016):
 I wouldn't spend a lot of time trying to "read in to" whatever he said. Your's (and his) re-meeting is sufficiently a "new" friendship that you should simply be conversing and learning about one-another... and, in the course of that, you can guide the conversation(s) to learn what you would like to learn....
Trying to "read in to" is a good way to get a prospective friendship/relationship to fizzle out quickly....
Good luck...
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reader, nostalgic +, writes (24 February 2016):
I would take this to mean he is single.
Whether he is looking for someone is another matter but he has sent you a text so you must have his number. Why not send him a text and try and arrange a meet up in the local for a quick chat about the old days etc. etc.
What's the worst that can happen - he will say no, but more likely he will say yes.
I am in the same age group as you 40-50, and being back in the dating scene recently, one thing I have found is that older singles are much more receptive to offers / invites and are more relaxed about the whole thing.
If nothing comes of it at least you have had an evening out which is better than sitting at home watching the telly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2016): To be honest it is very difficult to decipher what he meant by that sentence, but under the circumstances I would say take it easy and next time you see him strike some general conversation with him regarding your sons' schooling, the neighborhood, and things like that to make friends and see what are his intentions.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (24 February 2016):
 I would take it on face value. I don't see what you are getting at. Am I being dim? He said he moved for work and a woman. It seems he has got away from the woman one way or another.
Why not have a conversation with him? You might be able to learn more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2016): I would take the women comment as a hint to you that he is single and looking. But there is no way to really know without asking!
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