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writes: I have a problem and don't know what to do I got involved with man who I love so much but he is a drug addict his first wife and left him with twins they are 11 now and his daughter got me and her father together now i had a miscarriage on march 12, 2005 i blame him for that cause he pushed me around but one day i finally put my foot down and put a stop to that now i'm six and 1/2 months pregnant and we broke up again then after three weeks of not bothering with him he calls me and tells me loves me and wants me back when he calls we see eachother and have sex but now he got me confused he wants to be with me but i don't know if i should cause i have a feeling he is back on drugs and i don't want to put my baby through the hard time i went through the thing is i made a promise to his kids never to leave their dad and i never break my promises they want to be in my baby's life and I want that too but i can't have a drug addict around my baby what do i do should i give him a second and final chance or should i disappear with my baby please help me
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (16 January 2006):
This guy sounds really unstable and I completely understand you not wanting him around your child like this. However you do love him and you have said nothing to suggest he poses a direct threat. If you are under direct threat then don't hesitate and leave immediately.
However if that is not the case then I would ask him straight out if he is back on drugs and see what happens. If he is then equally I think you have to make a clean break. If he isn't or is in rehab then your choices are more complex. Be firm with him. You love him but you also have to think of your child. Make that clear to him.
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