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writes:Do gay guys, have fwb,with guys who, have girlfriends, do they like having guys like that. Cause am thinking about asking a gay guy I know, if he would like taking my virginity, I have fantasies, about having sex with him, all the time, when I do myself it's always, him am thinking about, I want to know if I would enjoy it, when I do myself I get so hard, but when I have sex with my girlfriend, I don't. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2018): Sorry my mother tungue is not English but does 'on the down low' mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2018): Do all straight-men fantasize about having gay-sex?
Are you serious?!!
I'm gay, and I'll give you an honest answer.
Being on the "down-low" doesn't make you anymore appealing than any other man who wants to have "gay-sex." FWB are chosen based on the same criteria as with a straight-male or female. Mutual-attraction and similar motives, with no strings attached. We're no different than anybody else in that respect.
Guys on the DL aren't the holy grail of sex-partners, if that's what you're driving at!
There's a stereotypical-myth that gay-men are drawn to men they perceive to be straight or bisexual; over exclusively-gay-men, who are out and proud. Like straight-guys are irresistible, no matter what they look like. One stereotype we don't mind living up to, is being picky about looks!!! Even if you're straight and hot; don't flatter yourself, if we're prettier!
Most of those myths you've heard are a crock of shit! A total bunch of bunk! We are more attracted to the ready, willing, and able...preferably attractive gay-male! Someone who knows himself and what he wants. Considering the fact that a straight-man is heterosexual, because he doesn't desire to have sex with a man!!! So any attempt is pointless, stupid, and dangerous!
We are not sex-toys or blow-up dolls waiting to be objectified by gay-curious "supposedly" straight-men!!!
No sir, we're not specifically searching to be used by guys on the "DL" for the purpose of experimentation; like gay-guys are guinea pigs or lab-rats! We're game, if you're game! If that's your shtick! Whether you're out, or in the closet! We can be controlling and possessive like our straight-male counterparts. So watch-out! We're still men!
We have feelings and we are equally as much of a man as you are! We are not mindless promiscuous sex-fiends or pedophiles like the homophobic-ignorant part of society (and gay-sex videos) attempts to portray us to be. So correct your mindset, and adjust your fantasy-created typecast.
We prefer to enjoy guys who are sure of who they are and what the hell they want. We like to be in relationships. Like anybody else, we prefer guys who are unattached and available; having neither girlfriends nor boyfriends! Especially not married!!! With the usual exceptions in any case! You'll find someone to fit any stereotype; but don't go around thinking we all fit into that slot.
Of course you'll find the low-life variety searching for narcissistic-supply; because they think "turning" a straight-guy or bringing someone out of the closet is some great accomplishment. Likened to their straight-equivalent; the virgin-hunter or cherry-buster!
What would you do if he threatens to tell your girlfriend?
I think you should keep your fantasies in your head until you're a single-man. I think you owe your girlfriend better than cheating on her; and risking infection from HIV or some other sexually-transmitted disease. Which you could catch messing around with any gender; having sex with people outside your committed-relationship. Condoms cover your penis, but won't block herpes infection, or hepatitis A,B, or C! You could infect your partner. Even with a one-night-stand with a female!
In simpler terms. Control your dick and respect your girlfriend. Gay-men will always be here to satisfy your curiosities; and having a girlfriend and peeking out of the closet, doesn't make you anymore appealing to gay-fellows than any other man.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (29 March 2018):
 OP, act your age and be a decent human being. Leave your girlfriend. You're gay and now is the time to accept it, rather than look for a way to cheat on an innocent woman who trusts you.
No, most people (women, men, gay, straight, bi, etc.) do NOT like being the side piece to someone who is a jerk and in a relationship.
OP, gay guys are just like everyone else, not a fetish. They, just like everyone else, like being treated with respect and not used as an accessory in an affair.
Buck up and do the right thing. LEave your girlfriend, then look for a gay guy who is happy to be your guinea pig, but you need to be upfront about experimenting only.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 March 2018):
 Maybe you should ask your GF first? If SHE is OK with a guy who wants the screw guys on the down low?
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