A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Does anyone suffer from social anxiety disorder? If so, how does it affect your sex life/sexual performance? Do you suffer from feelings of embarrassment or guilt after having sex with a new partner?
View related questions:
sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I'm only guessing but I would've thought that S.A.D doesn't affect your sex life. The only way it would affect it is by hindering your chances of meeting someone. If you're going to have sex then the sufferer already knows you so there is very little pressure on them.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I have had social anxiety my whole life.'tis horrible.But, I'm a virgin, but if the moment came, where i was to have sex, I dont think I would feel guilty, probably just satisfied.Good luck.xx
...............................
A
female
reader, heatherrrrrrr  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 I've had a bit of social anxiety my whole life, it fluxes sort of randomly. Sometimes I go months without any symptoms at all. Sexually, though, I can't say it has ever effected me. Sometimes I get a little embarrassed when I think about some of the things I might have done in my wilder moments, but that's about it. My ex had SAD really bad, was known in our social group as being the "quiet one" and sometimes would literally shake like a nervous little chihuahua. In the bedroom, it didn't seem to make any difference whatsoever. We were very close, though, he trusted me with everything and he had never had trust like that with someone before.
Like a lot of mental health stuff, I think it just depends upon the person and possibly their chemistry with that particular mate. If you are suffering from this yourself, there are tons of medications available, I personally liked Klonipin because it is milder and lasts 8 hours. You could also talk to your doctor about prescribing Beta blockers to keep your adrenaline at a normal level.
Xanax is evil, stay far away from that stuff. That's the main bit of advice I have for anyone suffering from anxiety. It's highly addictive and should be taken off the market.
...............................
A
female
reader, dizzie +, writes (31 July 2008):
ive only ever heard of the depression which i suffer from which is seasonally defefected disorder thats a tye of depression
...............................
A
female
reader, Midge +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hey, my boyfriend of 10 years who I love dearly suffers terribly with SAD. Sometimes to the point that I actually want to kill him, and I am not joking. I personally never suffered from it so didnt understand the problem, or knew of the consequences of the problem. To be honest, I thought it was all in his mind and that he was just being rediculous.
To answer your question, yes I have noticed that SAD does affect your sex life to a great extent. His libido is vertually non existant and when we do have any sexual contact it seems as though there is no effort made at all.
I have learned to be very patient with him. I did a lot of research on the subject and found out that its not in his head, and that there are SO MANY others out there that are suffering the same.
I love him dearly so I deal with it. I wouldnt contemplate cheating on him because I dont believe in it, but its not a nice situation to be in for the other party. You do tend to feel very unloved and neglected even if they say they are trying hard to be intimate etc.
What may be an idea is if you suffer from SAD and you have a partner, for you to check up on the web and get as much information on the subject as possible. Go to the hospital or doctors surgery and get pamphlets from them on the subject. Let your partner read them and if they love you, they should see it rather differently afterwards. But it is very important for you both to talk abou it openly. Tell each other how you feel. Make sure he/she knows that you love them.
...............................
|
