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Bf ignores me completely when we visit with his family! What do you think of this?

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Question - (20 November 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 November 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Odd question but am curious for opinions??

My boyfriend always takes me down to see his family, which i think is quite nice as it shows he wants me involved with them, etc... but then when we get there he completely ignores me!! He never talks to me in front of his parents, sometimes just goes in a different room to watch TV and leaves me chatting to them and playing with his neice and nephew. Then when he does talk to his parents its about things that dotn involve me at all - I feel like Im not even there!! His parents talk to me and ask me questions to feel included etc... but as far as he's concerned its like Im invisible! Why do you think he does this? Is he embarrassed?

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A female reader, marie78 +, writes (20 November 2006):

He's still feeling out the situation. And it's true, he might be embarassed to show affection in front of family members. Every family is different. With my ex- I was his first serious gf, so we went through the same thing. I found it weird, but not that I look back on everything, it makes sense.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006):

my boyfriend used to be just like this for about the first 18 months of our relationship. Eventually, after he had a few drinks - when i knew he wouldn't be too embarressed to tell me, i asked him why, and he said it was because he was embarressed to show affection infront of his family, as I washis first serious girlfriend - and I guess he was the 'boyish lad' of his family - even though he used to openly cuddle his mother while i was there which i found strange, thinking if he can be close to her why not me!?

Its quite funny looking back but i hated it at the time, he would let go of my hand and step a meter away from me as soon as we came into view of his house!

I think if you start to show him some affection in front of his family, jst start by mabe placing your hand on his knee when he is sitting, hold his hand, etc he'l get used to it.

hope this helps, talk care

kel xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006):

A man's distancing behavior is often seen so negatively by women because we don't get it. But what is wrong with him standing away from you in a crowd as he may be observing and watching you without you really noticing, thinking about you all the while.

When he is with his family he wants to relax and fit in with them as he always has, he is leaving you alone so that you can find your own way to fit in with his family as well, so they have an opportunity to speak with you and fill in the empty spaces that he is leaving for them to do that....I would not worry so much, an if you start to feel uncomfortable when he is in the other room watching TV, go up and slide in the chair next to him, don't be afraid to show him some affection in front of his family, that is why you are there because he wants to be with you.

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