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writes:I was contacted on fb by a fake account which I am 99% certain that it was my fb boyfriend bc he has done this in the past in order to reveal things about himself and to try to "test me"( I know how he talks and he always said things to me verbatim that I had said to him about what I like/want etc...Through this recent account he told me he has been sleeping with a woman for the past 3 months and that it's just sex because he needs "to unload himself" and wants nothing serious with her and has no feelings for her..Let's say that's all true and ignore the fact he's just using her.......does anyone think it's possible for a woman to want the same thing?.....just to be with him when they "feel the need to feel good" and not have any feelings for him or demand more eventually?I told him he's fooling himself if he thinks he has no feelings for her( they 've been sleeping together consistently for 3 months and keeps going back to her) and that even if he doesn't want more he's naïve or selfish if he thinks SHE doesn't or won't want more from him and that I was done and removing myself from the equation!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 July 2021):
 Yikes!
I think a lot of (women especially) lie to themselves and think an FWB means no emotional connection but for most, I don't think that is true.
Just block the dummy. YOU can do better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2021): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie....I think he was testing the waters to see if am the kind of woman that would accept and "understand" that a man has needs that need to be "taken care of" if his partner is not willing or nearby! Between us I would have maybe been more ok with him having one night stands bc they are more "transactional" but if he's been intimate with the same woman for 3 months already I view that as an emotional relationship as well and I am NOT ok with it and am hurt:(
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2021):
Can a woman be in an FWB and not develop feelings?
Sure. Some can. Especially (I would presume) in the beginning. There is no commitment, less pressure, and a sense of "freedom" (I put that in "" because it's not the exact right word but the best one I could think of at the moment).
Would most mature women want an FWB? Probably not. Because we all know an FWB is a HALF ASSES attempt at a relationship. But one a person doesn't have to really invest in. Something they can easily drop if they find greener grass.
To me, that just shows a shallow person who thinks with their genitals. Same as a One night stand.
My question to you is this, WHY are you wasting your time with this "maybe ex-bf"? Block the loser and move on.
If it IS your ex-bf then he is trying to make you jealous? What a loser!
Block and live your life.
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