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Archived questions from: July, 2013 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...

Can you get an STD if penis was only 1/2 covered by condom?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - I will like to know if having sex and you found out that the condom is half way on your penis, can u get infected with std,std like that ...

I need some tips on making my first time more pleasurable so I can relax and seem more like I know what I'm doing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4103 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - I'm in a very committed relationship.Im at the point where I want to have sex but I'm nervous because I'm a virgin. I just want some tips on what I can do to make it more pleasurable since they say it hurts your first time. I just need some tips t...

If a guy 'likes' a photo of a woman in a bikini, does that mean he likes the woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - This is likely just me over-thinking things again, but a little input would be lovely anyway :) So, a social media question - I recently put a photo of me in a bikini at the beach on Facebook (which I found tremendously difficult to do. I've had...

Does anal bleaching cost alot of money?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Hi this is for men and women to answer... I know other women have this.. Dark brown round their bum hole. I think mine is a bad case. Can men see this when having sex with a woman, does it put them off? Obviously it would have to be specific p...

My friend is chain smoking and it kills me to know what it is doing to him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Hi one of my male best friends recently started smoking which deeply hurt me, to the point it made me physically agreessive. I'm not an agressive person but its the one thing in th world I hate, more than drugs and all the other awful stuff around ...

How do I pull myself together enough to keep my job and not worry my grandparents?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - please can someone give me advice on a current situation or atleast help me in some way.. my nan died nearly 4 years ago now and very recently I have come to realise my grandad is now very ill and probably won't see christmas. my nan and grandad ...

Stuck in an unhappy marriage. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been married for over 15 years. For the most part it has been a good relationship. I've always been an easy going guy and not a lot rattles me, but over the course of the years I've really felt like I've taken it on the c...

Divorcing, and I feel hurt and anger and extreme regret!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Any tips on coping with feelings of hurt/anger/regret? Husband and I are divorcing-next month we can finally submit paperwork. He feels I'm trying to take every penny I can, I feel he's trying to keep every penny he can. We have a 2 yea...

I've always been there for my family but now that I need them, no one is there for me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - I have a tendency to always be there for people whether it was my family and friends I would go out of my way for them that was my way of showing I care. As expected though I did not realise until after that what you would do for others, others may ...

Are there any natural ways I can make my period any lighter for tonight?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - So my boyfriend and I recently had to move back into our parents' house for a few months until September. We've planned a night away tonight seeing as we haven't been able to get any private time the past few weeks, but I woke up this morning and I ...

I'd like to get married one day but since my stepsister died from HIV I have been terrified of men and dating

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

29 July 2013 (?) - I would like to get married again but I am afraid of all the diseases out there. My stepsister was a nice person with two kids and when she came up to visit she seemed really happy and was going back to school. She stayed not to far from my dad's ...

My girlfriend got angry with me and wants to break up because I didn't accompany her in to Starbucks, I'm considering giving her what she wants

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - Story: We have being dating for just 3 years. We are both each other's first gf and bf. I am 28. She's 27. We are both Asians. I went to my gf's place to pick her and her sister up to attend their parents' event about 1.5 hrs away. They wante...

My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...

How do people cope with being plain looking?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - Has anyone else ever had this? At 21 I was really good looking, then at 23 I noticed my face changing, not aging like wrinkles just started to look like another family member (one I didn't want to look like) I was still fairly good looking the...

How can I get talking to this guy I like or perhaps even ask him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

28 July 2013 (?) - I have been trying to get healthier and since I am not dating and am retired I devote more time to myself. I don't go to the gym or anything but I have been a little upset because I have gained a little weight. Anyway, I went to a health food store ...

My ex left me over a year ago and I'm no closer to moving on. Even though I've met others there is no space in my heart for them. How can I find peace again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - I need help in moving on, but I can’t get to the next stage. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It was fantastic or at least I thought so. We rarely argued and I thought it would last forever. Then unexpectedly he said he needed a ...

Why is my mother mean, judgmental and disrespectful towards me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - I apologize for the long post! This is not a post about me bashing my mother, I would never do that. It is also not meant to be disrespectful. I do love her and respect her and I’m sure she loves me to a degree. My mother and I will prob...

Update on alcoholic partner who can't choose between me and his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Mod's note: this is the original post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-with-an-alcoholic-who-goes-back-and.html This is the person who has the alcoholic mate who goes back and forth between me and his ex. All the answers were very helpful...

I'm with an alcoholic who goes back and forth between his ex and me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a man who is an alcoholic and drinks liquor and beer everyday.He has for 5yrs. now been going back and forth between his ex-girl friend and me.He'll be at my house one month,then at her house the next month.He ...

Isnt it better to find someone that likes you just as you look rather than getting all buffed for them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

26 July 2013 (M) - I have noticed that after a break up a lot of people say start the gym to boost confidence and better oneself etc. The thing is though that if you do go the gym and get a good body and attract loads of girls/guys are they not just attracted to you ...

I don't want to pay off boyfriends debts. How do I teach him to be more responsible?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - He's 21, and i'm 20. We've been together for 10 months now, and we're serious and in love. However, we're having money issues that are putting a strain on our relationship.. He has ADHD (not taking meds), is very irresponsible, and LOVES to spe...

He's become all clingy and weird due to his depression and I'm wondering if I should suggest we not speak during my holiday to think things through. Thoughts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. Please bear with me for a bit. I know it is long. The situation is very strange. The man in question is a friend of a friend. We met in March and he was not supposed to be anything but a fling, an one night stand even. I was fine w...

Can I get an hpv virus and pass it off to my wife if I have never had sex with anyone else?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

24 July 2013 (M) - we were married in 75, and in 82 my wife had a rapid weight loss issue that prompted her to go to her dr. he found beginning stages of cancer on her cervix and had to remove them. she never mentioned how she got it but now we know about hpv. is ...

My questions are is it normal feeling like that because I just met him once?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - About three days ago I met this guy while I was on the beach. Suddenly I stated to stare at him he was very attractive , and at the same time he caught my eyes and I felt so weak my heart started to beat and I started to shake . we were just staring ...

How do I know when its safe to have sex with hpv?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4117 days ago

24 July 2013 (M) - How do I go about having sex with another women, I have found out I caught hpv from a women little over a year ago, amild case of it. But they say condoms don't help, you can get it from oral sex, they say it goes dorment any where from six months ...

Does my sister fit the "passive-aggressive" label?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

22 July 2013 (F) - Does anyone know someone with passive aggressive personality disorder? I believe my sister has this. She has always caused trouble, not so much now she's moved out. I will describe her behaviour which has started becoming quite obvious to me that ...

I'm worried about her and want to know that she's ok but not sure how to go about contacting her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4120 days ago

22 July 2013 (M) - It's a long story, but I met someone about a year ago through a social group for people with anxiety issues. Due to some commonalities in our lives and situations we bonded and got very close very quickly. She has had bad luck with men. She's in her ...

He broke up with me because he thinks I gave him a STD

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

19 July 2013 (F) - ok ,,, i've been dating a guy for nine years , we were on and off , but recently we have broken up , bec we think i have STD , at least he thinks i caught it and gave it to him ,coming from my country , such is a disgrace , so i can't go to see ...

Low libido due to medication. Is there anything I can do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

19 July 2013 (M) - Hi everyone. I take medication for depression and anxiety. It's not really an option to come off them at the moment. The problem is it more or less completely suppresses my sex drive. I'm still interested in women and sex, and I think if I had a...

Would you date a guy with a background like mine?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

19 July 2013 (M) - Hi, I'm a 26 year old guy and I've never been in a relationship. I'm going to give an explanation as of why. In my teens I was essentially very shy and insecure and so didn't really dare to approach girls that I liked. When I was 19 I started to ...

Girlfriend takes medication for depression and is no longer into sex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

18 July 2013 (F) - just a quick question. my girlfriend is on zoloft for depression and it's really effecting her sex drive. before the medication, our sex was incredible. it was all the time and extremely good! now she's not interested in sex, and when we have it, ...

How do I become better at dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3379 days ago

18 July 2013 (M) - I'm 27, have Asperger's syndrome, do some voluntary work with disabled adults, and voluntary IT work for a living, and live in the United Kingdom. However, my problem is in regard to dating; for me it's hard to get a girlfriend. Maybe it's beca...

My husband just doesn't want to do 'normal' things.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

17 July 2013 (F) - My husband just doesn't want to do 'normal' things. He is very fond of drinking whilst I'm not bothered. All his plans involve drink and drinking buddies as I call them. He won't make plans with me to go out or walk with the dog, take me out a ...

I'm on holiday and my sister is driving me mad! How do I cope with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

17 July 2013 (F) - I am currently on holiday with 4 other people, one of whom is my younger sister. I know sisters often clash more than friends, but she is driving me mad and I need some advice on how to deal with her and get through the last 6 days (we've been here ...

Facing a separation and divorce, after just one year of marriage! Help, please!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - This is probably the most I have needed advice of any question I've asked on here. I am facing a separation and ultimately divorce. I'm having a lot of mixed emotions and its been a roller coaster but I'll give the background in as short a story as ...

How do I handle my matron-of-honor duties at my sister's wedding? I'm on bed rest for my pregnancy!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - My sister is getting married this weekend. I am the matron of honor and therefore would have to give a speech. I am on strict bed rest for my pregnancy and can only attend the ceremony as it isn't long. Should I have one of the other bridesmaids ...

Should I stick it out at this school where I'm miserable because my friends say since I've been here for 2 years I may as well stick it out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - I have been going to this college for two years it seems to be a very prestigious college but I am just not happy. It has been effecting my grades and it seems like the harder I try the more unhappy I become. I have stuck it out for two years. My ...

I have guilty feelings from this kiss, I need opinions on the cheating!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - Hi all, I really need opinions and views on this as I find it hard to speak to people as I don't want my friends to judge me. I cheated on my boyfriends of 2 years (still together now) when we had been going out for just 2 months. It was heavil...

Does my boyfriend masturbate to his ex girlfriends facebook pictures?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - Is it possible that my boyfriend masturbates to his ex girlfriends facebook page? He used to watch a bit of porn everyday. I didn't mind this but he said that he did it out of boredom (he works mornings and evenings and has a lot of hours off during ...

Does my mother have Asperger's Syndrome?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4126 days ago

16 July 2013 (F) - My mother has always mystified me. She is very uncomfortable showing her emotions, to the point where she has never said "I love you" to me, and my father sometimes forces her to say it to him. As I got older, I learned that she was different from ...

Previous flame wants to rekindle, but an LDR would be in our future.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4126 days ago

15 July 2013 (F) - A month ago, the guy that I was seeing asked for some time to think through a life-crisis he was having. He said that he had big questions about his career, future, goals in life, and whether he was healthy enough to be in a relationship. He ...

How do I deal with this guy I only want as a friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

15 July 2013 (F) - There is this guy that I have known for 4 years through other friends and he immediately made it clear that he fancied me from the beginning and even though I found this flattering I told him I just wanted to be friends. Everything was fine until ...

My ex boyfriend told me I had bad breath and now I'm paranoid

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4127 days ago

14 July 2013 (F) - Hi everyone my ex boyfriend who i split up with 4 month ago told me i had bad breath i have asked all my friends and family who i can trust to tell me the truth i have had a couple of dates with a new man but im so paranoid about the comment my ex ...

Can't orgasm, sex is painful -- is the problem in my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4128 days ago

12 July 2013 (F) - Im going to get right to the point. Ive never had an orgasm. I cant masturbate. Tried before, and it doesnt feel good at all, and I feel awkward doing it. It has to be pitch dark for me to try, otherwise I feel like someone is watching me even ...

How to be a more positive person, especially after a lifetime of judgement, and being so negative as a result?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

12 July 2013 (F) - I need some tips on being a more positive person? Esp after a life of mostly not being accepted, as am quieter, and being alone, and Im the nice person, being the person usually trying to be friendly and interested in others but... othe...

Do the stains on his underwear mean what they think I mean? Is he taking care of business without me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

11 July 2013 (F) - I would like some insight from the guys on this one. It's been a long time since I was married and did a man's laundry so perhaps I've just forgotten. I am engaged and have been with my guy (living together) for about a year now. Anyway, I notic...

I always cheat on my wife, how can I stop this bad behavior?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

11 July 2013 (M) - dear cupid I am a male aged 35, I am married with 2 kids with my wife, and I has another dougther with my Ex, of which we parted ways 12 years back. I married my wife 9 years back. Here is my problem. I has never be faithful in my marriage, I ...

Is there really such thing as a psychic?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

11 July 2013 (F) - Is there really such thing as a psychic? Ok, strange question, but please read. I'm 26 and a mother of one. I have a degree in genetics and I'm a secondary (high) school science teacher, so I'm slightly skeptical of all the supernatura...

How to help my depressed boyfriend and our sex life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

10 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 8 months has depression and erectile dysfunction. He had problems with erectile dysfunction that was quite mild our whole relationship but we still had a good sex life. But now that hes depressed as well, he never wants to have sex ...