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On the Fence about My Relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4291 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - This is an unusual back story which I will try to sum up, and I would appreciate suggestions on how to change my perception. Relationship: Lesbian Couple (both bisexual) Ages: Me (late 20's), her (early 30's) Looks: We are both attractive ...

Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4289 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has ...

My fiancé wants to become a surrogate through artificial insemination for her friend. What do I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4291 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - This is going to be weird but here it goes. My fiance brought up a weird question to me. Her long time friend because of a health condition her window to have a child is closing fast. My fiance came to me and asked me how I would feel if she would ...

Why is she having these fantasies? Is this normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - Hey, I love my girlfriend very dearly and the feeling is mutual. We've known each other for 3 years and have been in a steady long distance relationship for 2 years now. We are getting married next year and I'm really looking forward to spending the ...

How do I tell my girlfriend her house is nasty and I wont eat at hers again until the roaches are exterminated?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Should you tell someone you love they are a slob and should do much better about being clean? I'm lesbian and coincidentally my girlfriend is too. Anyways I've recently just begun visiting her home after 3yrs making arrangements to meet up or visit ...

What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...

Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...

Does this 'ho ho ho' mean a laugh or a prostitute?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi there! I recently went into hospital to have an operation, and my partner who I've been seeing for nearly a year has been looking after me and has been my rock really, well I noticed in his inbox on facebook a message from his mate asking how...

Bestfriend is depressed and I am tired of being the rock.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Me and my best friend Lucy have been best friends for almost 3 years, we do lots of things together, have classes together and hang out all the time. She's always been quite high maintenance, she's very insecure and makes up for this by acting ...

How can we help our daughter get through college when she's being bullied about being masculine?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Our 18-year-old daughter told us she had something to announce yesterday. We waited to hear, and were surprised by what she said; she admitted she felt like she should have a gender reassignment [her words!] and that people bully her in college ...

He won't let us sleep in the same bed! How to get our love back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Been with my husband 25 years! But we have not slept in the sane bed for 11 years and he lost interest in sex-until 2 years ago when a neighbour came on to him - he does have problem with Erectile Dysfunction. The affair is over -but he still wo...

Getting attached too quick... and how do I change my outlook?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4290 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - Hi everyone ok i met this woman about 3 months ago its going ok i really like her mores the point i REALLY like her to where im obsessing over her constantly worried as to where i stand with her she has a very successful career as a solicitor where ...

Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!! She was seeing this guy for a few months, but he ended things with them so suddenly and in ...

Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone? BACKGROUND: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for three years in university then broke up. Before we split up we never fought. We are both down-to-earth and had only dated one...

Any tips to help me get over this and move on? I am about to break up with him. He's happy I'm leaving. His teenage children rule the house. He refuses to back me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I won't make this too long but would really appreciate some of your views. My partner has asked me to move out of his house. We have been together 5 years and i moved in 3 1/2 years ago away from all my family and friends. He has 2 kids tha...

Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...

What to do? He's abusive to me and humiliates me. I've lost confidence in myself, and in him, because he shares everything about us with his friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I just want know what to do with a boyfriend that listens to his friends advices for almost everything. When we planned to buy a house he took all the documents about what was happening.and talked to his friends. He has been abusive to me an...

I do have herpes, but not more than that. But was he being flippant, or weird with his response, "that he'd still like me even if I did have AIDS"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - So I went to high school with this guy a few years ago. I lived in a small town so we all knew each other. I have started "talking" to him and we have grown so close, we have not had sex. Well, this may be TMI but, I have herpes. And I was too sc...

I've been offered treatment for my bi polar disorder...Will it help me and should I sign up for it and postone my career.?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, this question is for anyone who has experience of BPD, and the best available treatments. Please only answer if you have specific experience in this field. Basically, I have recently been offered a place on a three day a week trea...

This ex is stuck in my head and I'm afraid it's going to ruin my new relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4294 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I am in such a mess. I was with a guy for a year and we had a great relationship then things came to an abrupt end, he was moving away with work and we mutually agreed it wouldn't work because of the distance. We agreed to remain friends but he said ...

Do I follow my dreams or swallow my pride?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4294 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - I have a problem concerning my education and ex-girlfriend. A few months ago we broke up - knowing that we would see each other at our new school for a half-year semester. 3 weeks have passed at the school and it has been very problematic for...

I was wondering if there was any sort of vitamins or remedies I can take or use, to help boost my ever so low libido.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4293 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - So I'm here for some advice about my sex drive/low libido whatever you want to name it. I'm 20 years old been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I'm a virgin he isn't. So our sex life isn't brilliant but our relationship is great except for the s...

Help! Priorities? My health? What the NHS demands? Attend the 8 year paediatrics programme and lose contact with friends? Find time to do things I enjoy? Which should I choose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4294 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - This is about my life. I gave up teaching English as a foreign language to go to medical school aged 30. I knew it would be tough. No money, starting at the bottom, my peer group all being 10-12 years younger. I went from having classes of mainly ...

Backed away while he's healing; worried he won't want to try again when he's better

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4294 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - I was dating someone for just under 3 months then he developed depression from witnessing a traumatic event. I also identified in the short time of dating he can be paranoid and i suspected trust issues undealt with. He had a girlfriend in past ...

Why has my libido suddenly dropped?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4288 days ago

27 January 2013 (M) - I am 26 yrs old and my libido has suddenly dropped. I had a very good sex life before and now am worried what could be the problem. please help. ...

Everything else is great. So why does he have to masturbate so often? It's the why I can't understand.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - Hello All! I am a woman in my late 40s, in a relationship with a man my age. We're 5 yrs in. Im a widow 6 yrs, 3 grown children, 6 grandchildren -- Pisces. He's a Leo. 2 grown children, diff mothers, always paid child support. But he enjoys lots...

I think my husband has an std, is it safe to have sex using a condom?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

26 January 2013 (?) - hello everybody i have a problem with my husband i think he has some std but refuses to go to doctor, is it safe to have sexual intercourse with him using condoms. and can i take his precum sample or sperm sample to test it in lab. if he not wil...

I think my girlfriend is on the verge of breaking up with me. Help! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4296 days ago

26 January 2013 (M) - help!!!!! My girlfriend and I are on the edge of a breakup... We’ve been dating a little over 2 years I think something happened in her life because her entire personality seems to have changed in the past month She went home for h...

My boyfriend is unemployed and taking it out on me. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4296 days ago

26 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is currently unemployed. He was working, but his contract finished at the end of last year. He was employed on a contract so he knew it was going to end. He has been out of work for a few weeks, and its not the best time to find wor...

I think my wife is cheating on me. We have 3 children together. What's my next step to deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4284 days ago

25 January 2013 (M) - born in 1981 met her 1996 married her in 2004 we have three kids oldest is 11 years old it is now 2013 next month is our meeting each other anniversery. I suspect and i think she's cheating on me. Anyone care to conversate on the matter? i ho...

At 17 how would guys view me if I chose to have an 'open relationship?' or is it just time breakup with my Bf?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - Hi guys. What is the male view of an open relationship? I'm 17 and although I enjoy the company of a 'boyfriend' I'm not ready to become monogamous just to one boy. An open relationship where we have the companionship but freedom sounds perfect t...

Three years together, but last few months he's been depressed and pushing me away. How can I help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4296 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years we had a great relationship but the last four months hes been really withdrawn and not speaking to me . i have since found out he had debt of five grand that he's kept secret from me and his ...

How can I convince my Boyfriend that his smoking weed is a deal breaker for me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. When we first met i didnt know he smoked weed, but as time went on he seemed to smoke more and more to the point where i said it was bothering me. His personality has changed and the smell drives me ...

Why don't any girls pay attention to me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

24 January 2013 (M) - Ever since I hit 15 my teenage hormones kicked in and my personality took a complete 360. Before I hit 15 girls thought I was really cute because of how happy, playful, and funny guy I was, not to mention I had a tough personality. But then I ...

My father is a hoarder and has poor hygiene refusing to bathe or wash his hands!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4265 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - Let me start out by saying I know this is a relationahip forum but this is one of the better sites that gives advice so please answer this question about a family member. This question is more for my mother to ask but the entire family is being ...

He knows I've had a tubal ligation. Yes I've put on a little weight. But does he need to keep on asking me if I'm pregnant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4296 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - My SO keeps asking.me.if im pregnant? ive had tubal ligation done 6 years ago after having my one and only daughter who he claim has his ... hes never been married or has had a baby or has never really thought about having a baby until i came alo...

I really don't know what to do about my boyfriend: depression, year abroad etc.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, i'm in a massive dilemma about what to do about my boyfriend. We've been together for just over two years now. We've had ups and downs, had two brief breakups in the past but we're back together and we're as happy as ever. We've alwa...

I regret my transsexual surgery. What to do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4298 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, Im having some troubles now. I went through a transsexual surgery some time ago and turned from a male into a female. However, recently I start to see some identity crisis in myself. The main objective of the surgery was so t...

Is my fiancé acting up? Has she been too spoilt in the past? Not sure what to do.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

23 January 2013 (M) - So here's my story. My fiancé and I are supposed to be getting married in July but we have been having problems. We have been engaged since March 2012. To give some quick background we have dated for 4 years and lived together for 3. We live...

Can I make my breasts perky?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - I'm 16 years old, and I hate, hate, hate my boobs. They're cone-shaped and point downward. I'm 36B, and I'm completely healthy. I'm terrified when boyfriends ask to see them. In the past, I've had guy friends accidentally see them, and all th...

Is spotting normal with the pill?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone About a month ago I had unprotected sex, he didn't actually go inside me anytime but thought it was best to get the morning after pill anyway. After getting the morning after pill I was told to come back 4 weeks later and as I was ...

Nightmares are preventing me from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4301 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - I broke up with an ex over 3 months ago now, but I keep having vivid nightmares about it. I wake up regularly in a cold sweat and can't get back to sleep.I am now actually glad that turd of a relationship is over and I just want to move on and ...

I can't cry. Is this normal after a break up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4301 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - I can't cry. That might not seem like an issue to most people, but before I broke up with my boyfriend last year, I cried about everything. I always have. Every emotion I have used to get so overwhelming i'd cry. If i was really happy, slightly sad, ...

Can anyone help me feel better about this? My heart is broken over our breakup.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4302 days ago

20 January 2013 (F) - My first love and I broke up a month ago. We had been together for 2 years and even lived together. We broke up because we both have issues, but mainly because he wasn't ready to be with one person forever and because he was in denial about be...

How could she give a guy a Bj if our marriage is really great? Twice I've found out she's cheated on me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4204 days ago

20 January 2013 (M) - I don't really know where to begin so I will back up to before we moved to this island. Four years ago my wife wanted a divorce. I could totally understand why at the time. I had gotten fat and lazy, letting her do most of the work while serving ...

How can I stop caring for this guy who obviously doesn't care for

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4303 days ago

20 January 2013 (F) - I started dating this guy 3 years ago. At first he seemed so sweet and trustworthy. After a few months we started to fight over the fact that I was still friends with my ex boyfriend. We would fight a lot because I could tell he didn't trust me...

Should I try to discourage him from wanting to be married to me? Or end the marriage? Could I get transitional housing to leave?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4303 days ago

19 January 2013 (F) - Married for over 11-12 years with passive aggressive husband who constantly diminishes my every move. I have 2 sons who are 8 and 10, and a daughter who just turned 1. Scared that no one will take care of me when I get old. I'm always good at my o...

How long do I need before I can stop taking the mini pill?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4303 days ago

19 January 2013 (F) - Hi, i've been on the mini pill less than a month but its causing very irregular bleeding so I want to come off it and just stick with condoms. Anyway my question is; how long do I need to keep taking it before I come off it, if the last time I had ...

Does anyone have any advise about dermatillomania?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4303 days ago

19 January 2013 (F) - I have picked at my skin for as long as I can remember. I have done some research and it turns out that there is a name for what I have: . I've looked up ways to try to stop it and they are all very wise and helpful but the problem with me is that ...

Her view: Do as I say, not as I do. Is it worth it, at all, to have a big talk with her about her own inconsistencies?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4303 days ago

18 January 2013 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little more than 2 years. We've been living together in a new city since last summer, and I've had to sacrifice things to make it happen. We started out as just friends for 3 years before we decided to mo...