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writes:i was with a girl for 2 years in a LDR and few months ago she said that she "can;t handle a gd relationship for now" and needed us to take a break and pause our relationship untill she works and fix her life problems, like an addiction to drugs and gramma;s death, add to this alot and alot of other stuff (and trust me she has alot of them)so she says that we will be ok after everything is fixed...but i feel used cz of the things she did to me, i was always there for her in her addiction and everytime she needed me(to cut it short she stopped answering my calls, didn;t explain the real and clear reason why she left... and after i sent her money so she could leave her house cz she was having problems with her parents, she stopped signing in to her messenger... she did that only once to thank me for what i did and tell me that she'll give it back once she;s in the us...and since than (11/2010) we never talkedshe says that her feelings for me will never change, and that she'll always love me and that she did that for our owne good...guys the question is: would you breakup with someone you really love to protect him from being hurt even if he doesn't wanna breakup with you whatever the reason might be?i told her that whatever the reason might be, i'm ready to help her and be there for her and we can fix the problems of her life and get over them together ... she doesn't have to be alone in it...she still says it's for our goodwould you leave someone you love to protect him from being hurt even if he disagrees and says that the only thing that hurts him is being away from you?thank for answering my question! i need your help to figure that out..
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reader, petina1  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 You sound like a very good hearted person. Unfortunately for you because of the distance and the depth of the problems y our friend has you won't be able to give the 24/7 care and support that they need. From what you write it looks like you won't be able to help at all because of this. All you can do is let her carry on with her life and hope that one day she will be in touch and let you know how she got on over there.
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