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writes: Would you get mad at your BF of three years who is in South Africa right now visiting family if you sent him a sexually explicit message and it took him over a day to reply to it? Not only that but when he does reply it's short?The message detailed everything I want him to do to me when he comes back. And he answered with a string of emoticons then said "ahh and then Thank you with the kiss emoticon. So that tells me he relieved himself to it and thanked me.I dunno but I am sort of pissed at the response. First it took long enough. Thought guys jump at sexual messages. And second he did not write anything back, like what we wants me to do to him etc.In the past when he was away we have sent each other messages and went back and forth with sexual banter.This response makes me feel like crap. Like he is disinterested. Less interested. Did not appreciate my efforts. Believe me it's no easy feat being that creative and imaginative, presenting your ultimate sexual fantasy step by step. Then for all that I get a delayed and barely there response.I just answered him, "I'm glad you liked it." (with a kissy)So does anyone have an opinion or advice?Am I right to feel unappreciated?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2016): Yes I'd be mad, he's well aware of what he's texting and the affect it has on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2016): OP here.Actually Serpico, the other agony aunts did answer my question and were very helpful.Don't like my question? Don't bother answering it. My question was not meaningless and that is why I came here here for help
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (15 January 2016):
The moment I read the title of this thread I was 100% certain it was started by a woman.
You're overthinking us. Stop doing that, we generally dont like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2016): Thank you for all your responses.
I'm the OP.
My bf messsged me back telling me how much he loved what I wrote and how much it turned him on. And he responded with what he'd like to do to me when he comes back home.
Not all guys like this stuff necessarily like Denizen said but my guy always did like it and that is why I was concerned at his lacklustre response.
I was jumping the gun I guess.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 January 2016):
 No, I wouldn't be upset.
I think you did it to get attention and it backfired and now you are a little annoyed over it.
HE is on vacation. IF he didn't ASK for a naughty picture he might even have found it a little odd that you send him one now. Maybe he sat around with his family when the text popped up, did you EXPECT for him to "share" the picture or sit and look at it in a family setting?
RELAX.
CHILL.
He will be back soon enough.
It comes of as clingy and desperate if you don't calm down a little with the "need" for his attention while he is on vacation.
Save the NAUGHTY stuff from when he is home and able to actually PLAY ALONG!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2016):
 He didn't ask you to put the effort you did in to that message you sent him. He is on holiday visiting his family, and although I am sure that he is missing you maybe he is busy catching up with friends and family.
I don't see it being a big deal at all that he said thank you for the text. You shouldn't feel unappreciated. I think you might just be expecting a bit much from him and trying much to hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2016): Yes. I would be as mad as you are. He is not really acknowledging you. Watch and observe how he goes on . X
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (14 January 2016):
 Not everyone is comfortable with this sort of approach. I think you are wrong to assume all men respond to this sort of thing. I would find an explicit message like you describe too OTT. So perhaps you need to accept that his reply was the best he could manage and then temper and tailor your approach in the future to something more suitable.
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