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Would you feel a bit rejected, even though it was first night sex?

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Question - (30 April 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 30 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Ok guys, if you had amazing sex after a first date after loads of talking.

You sent her lots of messages saying how fantastic it was and you wanted to continue with it.

But, the girl suddenly backed down a bit and said she was unsure and confused and sent you messages like ok lets meet but can we slow things down in the sex department.

Would you think ok well we have already done it now, why should we go back?

How long would you pursue her? Would you feel a bit rejected, even though it was first night sex?

Would you think why go back to being kind of friends when you have already done it?

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (30 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntOh my God you are such a Bunny Boiler!!!!!! How many times have you posted this letter?????? I am getting bored zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (30 April 2008):

oldfool agony auntIt's the same woman. She had a one-night stand and the guy keeps calling for another date but she's been refusing.

She's asked about this situation from a number of different angles. This time she's taking the viewpoint of the man. Best ignore her.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008):

wait i am confused here is she a female having sex with a female or a female having sex with a guy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008):

Dear heavens, it's the obsessed woman, yet again! I think you have about 7-8 versions of the same question, you get really good answers!!! What is it you really want to know??? This guy may like you, he may not. So go out with him, have sex if you want, don't if you don't.

But I have got some bad news for you--- you're going to get hurt because he'll feel your anxiety and run for the hills!! Good shag or not, a neurotic woman is a sure turn off. And you are borderline.

So relax, go enjoy a date but do not buy the wedding dress.

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (30 April 2008):

oldfool agony auntHow come I get the feeling we've already seen this thread three or four times before in different guises?

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (30 April 2008):

oldfool agony auntShe doesn't want your relationship to turn into Friendship with Benefits. She wants to get to know you as a person, and she wants to make sure you're a serious candidate for the LOVE department, and not just the SEX department.

If you really see her as a romantic interest, slow down like she tells you to. If you just want more of that good stuff without strings attached, I'd say back off. She's not interested in that kind of relationship.

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (30 April 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntI would think you are being a bit to keen. Its lovely that you want to see her again and have not just used her for sex. You sound like a really nice guy, so just hold back a little.........well that my advice anyway.

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