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writes:So recently I have been thinking about having a my breasts lifted and possibly made a little bigger. I have spent the past three years getting into shape after years of feeling bad about my body and my body went from a size 18 (uk) to a size 8-10. I feel so much more confident and sexy now I have got myself into good shape. I work out regularly and eat sensibly. The only thing that bothers me is when I take my bra off or wear a swimsuit that my boobs pretty much fall to the fall. I felt rubbish last year when I went on holiday and I couldn't bring myself to wear a bikini as I didn't want people to see my chest. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he is the most sweetest person I have ever met. He really supported me as I got myself into better shape and he has always told me that it isn't my appearance that matters to him but what I'm like as a person.It was him who also suggested that if I felt I needed to do something about my chest, then maybe consider surgery. We booked an appointment to have a free consultation and talk as a couple about the pro's and con's.My issue is that a lot of my family (I'm one of 5 daughters) has said that I would never have thought about surgery if my boyfriend hadn't mention it and they also think that the cost of surgery would be better used to get a mortgage or put in investments. My best friend also agrees that it seems a little far, and that she doesn't understand why I would feel it's a necessary thing to do.I have some money in savings which is just that, savings, not for anything in particular and my boyfriend has said he would loan me the rest, so I could have the surgery in the new year. I'm scared that if I do it I may regret doing such a massive thing, and I understand that they offer services so that everyone understands the risks and to make sure you are 100% certain but I really thought I was until I spoke to my family and friends. My boyfriend says which ever I decided is ok with him, but he believes it would help me feel better. If any ladies on here had the option to change something that you hated about yourself would you do it, even if family and friends were against it?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (25 December 2014):
 I agree with Maverick. Having lost baby weight 2 time (70+ lbs)- I went from 36 DDD to 34 B - but I did a LOT of chest muscle/upper body exercises and they don't sag at all. I have ONE stretch mark on one boob, so I guess that is kind of lucky too with that expansion and subsequent "deflation".
Give your body 6-12 month to SETTLE. Then if you are still unhappy, go for it - but here is my BIG IF - IF you are going to do it, MAKE sure you find a GOOD plastic surgeon DO NOT go for the cheap options, CHEAP is RARELY better or ON PAR with a GOOD boob job. And DO NOT go too big. It will make you feel people pay attention to your tits not you. And I don't think that is what you are looking for. Get a size that fits your frame and YOU and.. that look natural.
Frik, what everyone else thinks. IF after 6-12 months you are still wanting new boobs? Then do it, FOR YOU.
Personally for me, a GOOD bra can make a huge difference, but that is easy for me to say, when at 45 I still have decent boobs.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (25 December 2014):
What I would suggest doing first is waiting 6 months (at the least) to make sure your weight has stabilized and your body has accepted it as the new 'normal'.
When I started losing weight and working out, my chest and bum were the first to shrink. My boobs looked like big teabags when I got my goal weight. After around half a year of being at that weight, my body started to settle into it, so to speak. My cheeks filled up again (I had a bit of a gaunt face) and so did my boobs. I also didn't need to keep such a big eye on my diet anymore because my body wasn't trying to return to the old, heavier 'standard'. My goal weight had become the new standard. I'm not a bombshell, but my boobs look normal and not saggy anymore.
But if even after being at your current weight for half a year doesn't help and you're still not happy with the way your chest looks, start looking into surgery options. But please do your homework. Read, read, read. Be a detective when it comes to picking your surgeon. He or she needs to have a lot of experience, lots of consistent recent experience and unretouched before and after pictures to show for it. Look for opinions of other clients.
Also look into the different options. Some methods cause more scarring than others. Some implants last longer than others. Some implants are prone to ruptures and therefore very dangerous. I'm not against plastic surgery but you have to be very thorough in your research before you take the plunge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2014): Do what you want, it's your body. Thousands of women had boob job and happy with it. I had a fellas tic surgeries but age related: eye lids, facelift, tummy tuck. It all looks very natural on me andi am very happy.
You don't owe your family anything and it would be better if you said nothing to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): Im not a female, but don't take me the wrong way. I believe your boyfriend really would prefer you be happy with yourself, my wife suggests cosmetic surgery alot and i agree with her on the terms that its for her. I honestly don't care one way or the other, what i do care about is her confience and view of herself.
If this makes you unhappy and uncomfortable then do it, your family will still love you and your friends will too. And you'll love yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): This is the thing that doesn't really get talked about in the right way - not so much about having breast implants or cosmetic surgery BUT the way that people feel entitled to judge others about it.I finally had a boob job after years of misery with my boobs - I had a very pronounced chest bone, which meant that as well as having no cleavage I just had a boney chest. When I got pregnant, my 32AA's ballooned beyond all recognition and, after breastfeeding (without, I might add, the right advice and a huge amount of pressure to breastfeed) I had enormous, sticking out nipples and saggy breasts - any existing breast tissue that I'd had became like dough and I had lots of excess skin. It was not a pretty sight at all and I constantly disguised my breasts, and was sick of having to wear padded bras all the time. Because I'm a size 10 and pretty, people seemed to feel free to 'knock' me about having small breasts - honestly, people that were intelligent and well educated and who I thought would be more sensitive - gay men, my best friend, my aunt - it was strange as I'd never judge anyone in that way. I thought: if they're going to judge me without even seeing my breasts naked then what on earth would they say if they saw them in the flesh?So, I had a boob job. My boyfriend was like yours - he didn't mind either way (and I really believe that) but he recognised I was fed up and so he supported me.I had a boob job - and I am NOT one for plastic surgery in the extreme but I couldn't see any other option - and felt a lot better. I wished that they'd somehow been able to naturally grow or even just assume the shape they were before I breast fed, but the reality was that would never happen. So, I was pleased but have only ever seen it as a 'repair' job, never as something that I would have otherwise wanted.The thing is, only my ex (we split, but nothing to do with breasts!) and my daughter know and, because I had become so sensitive to judgement BEFORE my boob job, I am still sensitive now to the possibility of people, especially a new man, judging me without knowing the story behind why I did it. I only have 34A breasts and I think they look about as natural as a boob job on a skinny woman could look - not perfectly natural but not bad. I work in a field of highly intelligent, creative people who I feel would be very much against plastic surgery and my feeling is that, having (surprisingly) mocked me before, they would mock me for this if they knew. There is SUCH a horrendous amount of judgement out there about boob jobs, in a way it's almost become a new form of sexism for some men - you can get very sexist blokes, including on sites like this, who will say that they hate boob jobs - but it's for sexist reasons!So, what I'm saying is that if you go ahead, learn that YOUR opinion of what you've done has to be separate from how you feel about being judged by others. It really does have to be your decision if you are to feel strong enough to cope with being judged - you sound like me, worried about what others will think of you - and for me there's no easy answer to that, I'm just not a massively confident person. But what I would say to everyone out there is for goodness sake stop judging people without knowing the background, or just stop judging people about this issue anyway - unless someone's going to crazy extremes, it's none of our business!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): Your boyfriend loves you and cares about your happiness! It's your body and your family should love you no matter what. You are not doing anything to hurt them and you have worked so do so hard to lose all that weight. I honestly think you deserve it and it will make you into a happier person. It is not your families decision to make and I love my family but if it was me I would go for it.The only thing I would suggest is consider what else you could do with the money. My boyfriend and I are in the process of getting a mortgage together. Are you hoping to do that anytime soon? If you're not even ready for that anyway then you could always get the surgery then save up again. I really think it will make you happier as a person.... but what's most important is what YOU really want :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): If it were me in this situation, I would do it. I might not do it as quickly as that, and I might not put it before a mortgage if I was due to get a mortgage soon, but if I hated my breasts after doing all that hard work, I'd do it. Your body, your decision, as long as you do it for you. Xx
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reader, Ginger fish  +, writes (24 December 2014):
 Remember hun this is YOUR body not any one else's. Never let any ones thoughts or judgments interfere with what you feel is right for you. If you feel it would boost your self esteem then that's your right. I think you should give it some thought weigh the pros and con's and see what work's for you just to make sure that its what you really want. Please look deep in to your self and learn to love your self you should look in the mirror every day and tell your self that you are beautifuland keep telling your self but just make sure you are 100% doing this for you and no on else because if deep down you are doing it to please your boyfriend then your will probably end up regretting it. Remember you are beautiful and you need to keep reminding your self of that fact .Good luck I hope this helps :)
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