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writes:Hi I'm thinking about telling my crush how I feel about him but I'm not sure how to do it and I've been going over it so much that I think I'm confusing myself.My friend offered to tell him for me but I'm not sure if this will put him off if I don't tell him myself,but it would be easier for both of us as we always joke around together and it would be difficult in a serious situation,basically do you think it would put him off if my friend told him I like him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): Hey, J.black. Yeah, you should tell him yourself. Now, what to say: just keep it casual, just say something like, "do you fancy some lunch?" or ask him if he wants to go and see a movie. When you're watching the movie or eating lunch, just throw hints that you haven't before. Touch his leg, bite your lip. Or, you don't have to ask him out face to face. Give him a note, or just text him. You could just say, "do you want to go out with me?" make sure he knows that you don't mind his answer even if it is no, and even if you do mind. Tell him that if he says no, you still want to remain friends. So yeah. ask him out, let him know you want to remain friends! hope this helped, and sorry i'm not an experienced male, i am female and i'm 13, so i don't have much experience, but i'm kinda in to this stuff so'''
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 March 2014):
 No no, no friends. You are not in kindergarten anymore. Do it yourself. Own your feelings and own your actions. If you want something, YOU go and get it. In future you won't be able to send a friend to a job interview for a job that you want yourself, or send her to school for the degree that you want, or to get her pregnant for the baby that you decided to have. So might as well starting now to get the hang of being proactive :)
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reader, J.black +, writes (23 March 2014):
J.black is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much I am also glad there was an answer from a male, I have decided that I will tell him myself no matter what the response i,however do you have any ideas on what I could say as we have been friends for around 3years and I don't want to tell him straight up cuz I don't wanna ruin what we already have?
Thank you
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 March 2014):
 Good for you! You are at such a profound and exciting point in your life. Find a mirror and look at yourself in it, and instead of seeing all the physical imperfections and criticizing what you see, look into your own eyes, and know that you would never ever trust something like your feelings to a friend.
Tell yourself that you are worth taking the risk of telling someone how you feel. Tell yourself that even if those feelings aren't returned, that you took the risk that so many people even older than you don't have the guts to. Courage is not the absence of fear - courage is staring that fear in the face and acting in spite of it.
You must never fear rejection. You must never fear that you're not good enough, because if you have the strength and the courage to look a guy in the eyes and tell him exactly what you think, then by God you will conquer the world.
Let the little girls find friends because they're too scared. You are stronger than they are. You don't need a guy's feelings to let you know that you're worthy of declaring yours. And if he likes you too, never lose the ability to tell him what you want and need. Always hold your head up high, because self-confidence and strength as well as kindness and goodness are very attractive to others. If he's too stupid to see it, a better guy won't be.
So you can do it! You are stronger than your nervousness, and you do not need any friend to speak for you, because you find your own voice in this world. Never forget it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 March 2014):
If you think he likes you then it doesn't really matter how he finds out. The tricky part will be who makes the first move? Kids at your age are pretty timid when it comes to asking someone out.
Be bold and ask him yourself. It takes guts, but it's a good skill to develop!
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