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writes:HiNeed advice on how to raise a subject with my girlfriend.We have been together 4 months and all is going really well. While in the grand scheme of things it's not that important, however I really like it when a girl shaves off her pubic hair. My girlfriend doesn't do that and when I've mentioned it to her casually, not wanting to make too much of it, she says she likes her hair down there and it makes her feel like a sexually mature woman.Any advice for conversation strategies that might change her mind on this for me?THanksPaul
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Sorry I just saw this and though i'd add my two cents...
For starters you guys got this all wrong. You don't have to go fully shaven. If shes in need of a trim, she in need of a trim. We all should trim our pubic hair TBQFH. Just let her know but don't be harsh just try and make it seem like a good idea for both sakes - in the end it really is unless you live in the south pole.
If you are talking about fully shaven they may be harder to make stick. Connotations to paedophilia from this activity is understandable but completely unfounded and usually mentioned by idiots. Its sexually pleasant and is only itchy at a certain length - if you liked it keep it shaven and dont let it grow. If shes not into it you'll know and you probably wont be able to change her mind. Ifs she has a sense of adventure go for it and make it into a fun activity or some kind.
Trim away imo...
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reader, danielle_25  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Just let her do what she wants to her body. If you really like her you understand what she really wants!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): The image of a shaved one comes from porn and it gives some people the creeps because of the paedophile angle. What your girlfriend said about it making her feel like a mature woman probably relates to not wanting to look like a little girl. Understandable I think.
I also think of having an operation when I think of it, it is like shaving an old cat before you give it a hysterectomy. Bum in the air, buzz of a shaver, wipe on the green antiseptic and Bob's your uncle. Germ free. How fab.
Can you imagine how uncomfortable it will be when it starts to regrow? Aaarrhh the itchies are very embarrassing especially at work (I know - never again, I had to wear a skirt with a hole in the pocket for two weeks!).
Lots of women feel pressurised to do this because we are being judged more and more against porn dollies. It makes our sense of self worth defined by comparing ourselves to that shallow world and it is a very uncomfortable thing to live with sometimes. Do you see her as a sexual object more than care for her feelings?
If she has said she does not want to that should be enough for you. Would you like to shave yours? Perhaps you would like to pierce it as well? I don't think so! Have some sensitivity and maybe she will try it herself some time but don't force this view her. It is not your right to say what she should do with her body, you don't own it and have to live in it, she does.
Some people write on this site with really big problems, some small. I suppose it does not matter but do you have a concern about poverty and world debt? You are very lucky if your main worry in life is how to get your girlfriend to shave her bits! Seriously though and forgetting the ribbing, be sensitive about this issue and do not press for it.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (21 February 2008):
Seems like you have little or no choice but accept it.Give it a dying horse's kick at the issue and tell her you would like her to shave off.Try to ask while seducing her and she may accept but if she refuses,learn to love it for your own sake.
Good Luck.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (21 February 2008):
 Yep, it's her choice. If she doesn't want to do it...
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reader, pickles +, writes (21 February 2008):
It's her body, if she likes having pubic hair theres no way you can change her mind. Just learn to like it if you really have feelings for her.
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