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writes:Im hopeless in the world of dating . Im on a dating site and the guy im chatting with is legit hes very open and hasnt held back with anything hes show me videos of where he works and facebook details , He asked if i was free we could meet for coffee and he gave me his number i couldnt make it and i let him know which he was fine with as it would have been on his break from work . Hes taking his time getting to know me which is fine and its been a month . Before he gave me his number he messaged and it sounded like he was backing off so i asked him if he was interested or not and he said he was . I do sometimes feel im punching above my weight with him and feel like hes not totally in to me as i am him . Would he give his number if he wasnt interested or am i just looking at the negative side of this
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 He wouldn't give his number if he wasn't interested.
Stop psyching yourself out and just get a move on with the situation. The longer you wait, the more paranoid you will become so go for that coffee or whatever the case may be and just see how it goes.
Go with the flow.
Good luck OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): I say trust your instincts. If you feel that he's not that into you then he (probably) isn't. his ways may not be sincere, maybe that's what you feel? Phone No or not!
I was slightly in the same situation as you - funnily enough - and it turned out he just wasn't into me. he did have thousands of other prospects, I was not the object of his affection ;( he stopped chatting abruptly went off and got mean, nasty and then spat fury just because I was having a late one in bed and not chatting away. The cheek. My instincts were right. I knew he was flaky. I just had the feeling and there were clues (do not ignore the clues)!?
You have to be careful chatting online with these guys, you never know who you may be texting with and if you think you do, you could be wrong!?
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 From my where I stand, if I was asked to have a cupa and if I came make it I would suggest another date, and not just let it hang in the air, it is just as much your interest for you to meet him as it is for him to meet you if you don't show him interest he is not going to follow what is only an internet image, I know of some friends that chatted for a long time to someone on the net only to find it was another guy,
this man has shown you a lot of things to show he is real, if you still in contact it is up to you to say let's meet up after work today or give another option to show you not making it too tight,
women's lib came in years ago you will not be treated equally unless you act equally, the ball room of romance is gone,
We are in a new world of finding a mate now, I think I am starting to understand it more, we get women asking is he interested in me we are chatting on a site for a few weeks, but if you look at it from the other point, men pay more on some sites to get to chat to women that they might hope to build something with , so they don't want to waste time, they chat to many women to see which will give them a date but they at the same time keep the lines of communication open just in case that date goes wrong or she does not turn up
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 August 2017):
 Well he's asking you out on dates and you've not met him yet so he probably feels like you're messing him around.
If you like him, meet him. Simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): People don't like drama. Either meet up with him because you want to, or don't. If he says he is interested and wants to meet up, take that at face value without questioning him to make sure. That's a bit of a turn off. When you meet up you can assess the extent of his interest with his actions. You shouldn't have to be chasing a guy down- that means he's not interested, no matter what he says to you in words. And if he's really interested, he would be unequivocal about it, you shouldn't be left to wonder. Be confident and know that at the end of the day, YOU get to decide who's good enough for YOU. Even if you don't feel it, ACT like you can take it or leave it. And of course, relax, take the time you need, and have fun :)
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (2 August 2017):
If you missed your first appointment, you may have been perceived as flaky, and flaky people are not well regarded. Source: I'm a flaky guy from time to time :) And no, if a man gives you his number, it's because there is interest from him. However, by the way you sound, it seems that you are more into him in an unequal proportion. If he doesn't want to keep the relationship with you, then it may be time for you to move on and find someone who is really into you just as much as you are into him.For a relationship to work and move forward, an equal interest and effort on a relationship is generally required.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 August 2017):
 I don't think he would give his number if he wasn't interested.
YOU need to MAKE time and meet him. Stop pussyfooting around or he WILL drop you and move on.
Why should he be totally into you when he hasn't even met you? That's not logical.
Meet up - IF you are as interested as you claim. See how you get on IN person.
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