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writes:Hello,My name is Chelsea and I am 18 years old. I've recently become involved with one of my good friends named Matt. Matt is 9 years older than me, so he is 27. We've been friends since I was 17 and now we're dating.Matt and I are really good together...we have common interests and goals and we have a great time when we're around each other. I feel like he's one of my best friends and I can tell him anything.I realise that there is a HUGE age difference with us, and that is starting to bother me. I'm not at all worried about being forced to "grow up" before my time. He's completely understanding and supportive of my going to Uni (I attend Strathclyde in Scotland), and he's also said a few times that he isn't ready to get married for another couple of years, so he isn't rushing me in that aspect either. He provides me with guidance every now and again because he's been through Uni already, but besides that, he's never acted superior to me because of his age.The only thing I'm really truly worried over is that other people think it's really sick and twisted. They say "How can a MAN who is nearly 30 possibly see anything romantic in a child who has barely just become an adult?" So now those words have started to stay with me and I've begun questioning it myself. Although we have a great relationship with lots of communication, trust, understanding, etc...I find myself asking "Yeah, why does he like someone so much younger?"Is this sick and wrong??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): no. absolutely not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): Why worry about the age gap??
It's a perfectly acceptable one.
AC
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reader, cd206  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Don't worry what other people say. If you're happy in your relationship then carry on as you are. Age gaps get less significant as you get older. If you'd told me three years ago that you were a fifteen year old dating a 24 year old I'd have a little more to say but once you hit 18 age gaps are okay really. Don't worry about it bothering other people. If it doesn't bother you then it's noone elses business.
CD
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reader, willywombat +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Sweetie, you two are obviously happy together. What you are worrying about is only a POTENTIAL problem, it is not even a problem yet! This is not to make it seem trivial, because it obviously matters to you. But if you are happy and you are not hurting anybody then STUFF OTHER PEOPLE! and what they MIGHT say.
Please just enjoy this man who is supportive of you and your ambitions.
I wish you huge joy and luck hunny!
xx
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