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Worried that my mate and my ex are going to meet up...

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Question - (11 May 2005) 1 Answers - (Newest, 12 May 2005)
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I've recently broke up with my girlfriend. I was very much in love with her but she ended it. The other day, my mate said that she has texted him about meeting up. He said he wouldn't do anything cos he knows how I feel, but I'm feeling very paranoid at the moment and can't help thinking that they will.

Should this cause me to end my friendship with one of my best mates, even though we've known each other far longer than this girl?

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A reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (12 May 2005):

Rebecca Batchelor agony auntI believe that if he is a good mate he will allow time to pass, for you to feel better and for your ex girlfriend to also not immediately jump into another relationship. This is likely to be doomed from the outset, it would be too fast. She also should give herself time to reflect and think about what she really wants. You could look at the situation in that if your mate did go out with her, it probably won't last and as your friendship has lasted so long, it will last longer than their relationship which is more important. However, this doesn't help you right now.

I hope he keeps to his word. Perhaps you should explain to him what you have said here, that you need time and if he does like her, he will still like her, in say, six months time.

In terms of ending your friendship with your mate if he did see her, it would probably be best to let them be and see what happens. It may not last but if it did, then you wouldn't have much choice but to accept it and would you wish to lose your best friend in the process? The choice will be yours.

Keep smiling.

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