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writes:My boyfriend's type of porn bothers me. He loves chubby girls with big big boobs and big butts and round faces. I'm not usually too jealous because i know he loves me and how i look too, but lately he's been super stressed with work lately and isn't in the mood for sex. He watches porn once or twice a day though! I know this in part because he tells me and partly because he uses my laptop while I'm at work (I usually go in and delete his porn from the history because I use my laptop for work sometimes so just in case.)Anyway it's been getting me down that I don't look like his type and also because he's been masturbating (he stress wanks!) And not having sex. Any advice on how I should deal with my feelings would be great. Thanks everyone
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reader, screennameblah  +, writes (19 January 2016):
My fiancé watches BBW porn (which consists of obese women) and all his previous ex's and crushes were always very thin women. I, myself, am not a very overweight person and I never once wished I was so that I could fit my fiance's porn "type". He once explained to me that he got off from watching that type of porn because it felt "taboo" and more devious, I Guess. Anyways, my point is that you don't have to feel insecure about not being his porn type because porn is not reality. I like watching lesbian porn, but I am not a lesbian and never want to be. It's just fantasy. What's more concerning is the lack of sex, which is affecting your relationship with him. I personally know that work stress can be a big damper on the sex life, but you definitely need to talk to him about the lack of sex, where it's coming from, and how you guys could improve it. Maybe go on a little get-a-way, or find a way to get his mind off work so that his mind is more on you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2016): He is being extremely selfish. It's hard enough feeling neglected when your partner doesn't want sex but the fact that he is interested in some kind of sexual gratification everyday makes you feel even worse.
It's no good pussy footing around this issue and trying not to feel like a big pain in the ass by telling him how you feel. He needs to be made aware of how much this hurts you.
The only way you can deal with your feelings and this issue is to let him know he's being a jerk.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (18 January 2016):
 It would worry me greatly if my boyfriend was not wanting to have sex yet he was able to masturbate each day. I think its time you talked to him about this. Off course it is upsetting her is looking at other girls who look different to you and he is not willing to have sex with you.
You need to tell him that you feel neglected, be completely honest with him about your feelings. Maybe if he cut down on the porn his sex drive for you would come back.
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