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With friends like this?? After I heard what my friends had said to him I don't feel comfortable continuing to see him. What should I do?

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Question - (3 March 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 3 March 2013)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have a friend who has always been aggressive with guys and it worked out for her.

I have done it as well but I have a lot of issues with trust so I don't do it anymore.

Well, my friend who was tired of seeing me upset decided to help me.

When we were out for a bachelorette party I had planned, this guy was trying to dance with the bride so my friend said to the guy "No! Don't dance with her, she is the bride. Go dance with her,(referring to me), we're playing a game and she will gain 100 points if you get her number."

Now, I have been seeing this guy but I didn't know she said this.

He has been nice to me but after I learned this I feel like I have been pimped. (Don't really know how else to put it.)

I am not sure if I should see this guy. He is younger than me and moving out of town in a couple of months anyway. So, what should I do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013):

Really? You've never had a friend set you up with a guy before?

I don't know any women that haven't OP, in fact where I'm from female friends being matchmakers for other friends is what's done and the sign of a good friend.

OP if this is a pride thing you should let that pride go and enjoy it while it lasts. If you're worried that he only got with you because of that then don't be OP. I've been match-made tonnes of times by women for their friends, I'm not going to date someone based on that alone, I'll only date girls I like and guess what? When a woman makes it known to you that her hot friend likes you then it makes the whole process ten times easier and a lot less hassle.

He's leaving soon so this is only going to be a short term thing, may aswell enjoy it while he's around and be a bit thankful to your friend for setting it up. If you don't like friends doing that, then let her know. But her intentions were honourable, he's his own man and not seeing you because your friend told him to and it's not a dent on your pride OP because quite frankly this is just one in a number of ways that people can get together.

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A female reader, R1 United Kingdom +, writes (3 March 2013):

R1 agony auntYou could either enjoy it for a while till he moves away or end it now if you are worried you will end up getting hurt.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (3 March 2013):

dirtball agony auntEnjoy it. Who cares if he was prompted. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have followed through.

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