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writes: Ok I made a mistake, had an affair and fell in love. I realised my mistake and made a final decision to end all contact for the sake of my partner and daughter whom I love deeply. The thing is I keep dreaming about the ex dreams where I am constantly searching for him, I awake feeling lost and broken. I find myself thinking of all the good times we shared and get very angry at myself for allowing these thoughts in, I try so hard not to let these thoughts in but its like they hit me like a truck when I'm not ready for them. I know I broke his heart by ending the relationship and I feel terrible guilt for allowing him into my life and heart. I neat myself up all the time for our relationship but I can't seem to let it go. I'm positive that I have made the right decision as I know I couldn't bare to hurt my daughter and partner by leaving them for him, but why does my mind entertain these thoughts that I'm trying to block out. Yes I still care for him, but care for my family more, I know you will thong I am a terrible person but I made a mistake, we all do, please help me with any advice on how to put this behind me, I am in so much pain with guilt for those I have hurt will it ever ease up and stop hurting and will those people ever forgive me, including the person o had an affair with cause I cam show my partner and daughter I love them cause I am here loving them but will he ever forgive me for breaking his heart.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Honey, guilt is a powerful emotion that consumes energy you could otherwise be directing towards positive things in your life.
Guilt makes you ask questions like "will he ever forgive me for breaking his heart?" How does this question help you get on with rebuilding a life that you threw away for a few years?
I notice an "o woe is me" tone to your post. Again, you are wasting energy feeling sorry for yourself when you should be pouring all that emotional energy into fixing relationships with your daughter and your partner.
If you are serious about rebuilding your life with your family then the only question that you need to ask yourself is "what am I going to do today to move forward with my family"? Good luck and take care.
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reader, Adaeze treasure  +, writes (12 May 2011):
No he wont forgive u my dear.
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