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22-25,
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writes:Please could someone please give me some advice on my current situation?For the past 9 months or so, I've played squash with a girl, who I guess I always felt I had a soft spot for. Then about 2 months ago, we spent a few days together at a sporting event (we both went along to watch independently), and for once it was nice to actually talk to her properly. Anyway, I felt there was a slight bond between us (someone even asked me if we were a couple, so it wasn't just me), and asked her out. She said yes, but then the following morning she backed out, saying she wanted time to think etc, but that we should still spend sometime together, and that something could still happen.I took that as an ok sign, but since then we haven't spent anytime together (not even squash), even though I've suggested several things (shes always busy/finds a reason), and I guess I feel things have just kinda faded between us, even as friends...So I guess my question is how do I try and show her that I like her and care for her, and try and get back that mutual feeling towards eachother that I guess must have existed for her to say yes to me, even if for an instant?Asking to do something together just hasn't worked (and maybe has even harmed the situation) so far, and I really don't want to start bringing her flowers and chocolates etc incase thats way too full on and since the fact that we've haven't seen eachother recently might tell me all i need to know.I thought I could give it another month or two and then send her an email/write a letter explaining how i feel, asking her to give me a chance and take things slow, and to try and see if we could get that feeling of an attraction back and take anything from there, but then doing this might just seem like i'm carrying on with her, just as before.Thanks for any views!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Give her some space.
Tell her that when she's ready, your offer is open ended. You can suggest something romantic, like tell her to tie a white handkerchief around the handle of her squash racquet's handle as a signal that she's ready and willing to surrender to a first date.
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