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Will my boyfriend's feelings towards me change if he knew I liked lesbian porn?

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Question - (30 July 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am a female in my early twenties and I like to watch lesbian porn sometimes. I'd say I watch it about 50/50 compared to hetero porn.

I'm worried that my (serious)boyfriend will think of me differently if I tell him I do. He likes girl on girl, and girl/girl/guy porn, and has asked to do a threesome before, but I pretended like I wasn't interested because Im afraid of the repercussions to our relationship. Truthfully I dont think I could do either of the acts in real life.

Im thinking yes, he'll think it's attractive, but won't feel attached to me emotionally anymore if I tell him I like that kind of stuff. Almost as if I'm a different person.

Guys, would your emotion's change towards your girl if you knew she liked watching women have have sex?

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntyeah he'll change..he'll want you even more.

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (31 July 2010):

If you do like lesbian porn I would come clean ( as it were ) about it to him.

After all it's the truth and it's hardly an offence these days for people to be turned on by same-sex sex. Plus he's into it from what you say.

If I were in his situation I would be really turned on to learn that my gf liked this kind of stuff. True I would also want to progress to doing it in real life ( are you aware of any girls who would be up to joining you both for a FFM threesome ? ) But doing it in real life wouldn't threaten my feelings for my GF - it would be just 'sex' with the other girl, more 'making love' with the GF.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

Miamine agony auntHe won't look at you badly.. however he may think you want to make your fantasy reality.. You must remain strong, your woman-on-woman porn time is special and private, it's when you daydream, and everything is perfect...

Fantasy in real life... NO WAY.. DOSEN'T WORK... real life women smell, fart, go too hard or soft, they cry, they have issue, their fat or their fake.. dreams are one thing, anything can happen in dreams... but to turn it into reality often causes tears, heartache and psychological damage...

JUST SAY NO.. and keep your fantasy, secret garden pure... :D

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A male reader, TimmD United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

TimmD agony auntI wouldn't have a problem with a girlfriend of mine being turned on my lesbian porn. However, I also wouldn't automatically assume because she is into lesbian porn that she wants to have a lesbian relationship. Different things turn people on in different ways.

On the flip side, I'd be more disturbed by a serious girlfriend of mine wanting to have a threesome with another girl. Yes, it's more or less every guy's fantasy to be in a threesome (including mine).... but not with their serious girlfriend. That would just complicate things. In my opinion, I wouldn't want me partner having sex with another girl let alone another guy.

I don't see anything wrong with telling him what porn you are into. It may even spice things up a bit for the two of you sexually. However, I'd just make it clear to him that you are not interested in a threesome. Tell him you want him and only him. If he continues to pursue it from there, then I'd question why he wants one so bad.

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A female reader, Logicgirl Turkey +, writes (30 July 2010):

Logicgirl agony auntWell, if he likes porn and you like porn theres no problem at all. You might find your own genders having sex attractive. Thats normal. As long as there wont be a third person in your relationship, even if its only a video I dont think it'll be a problem.

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A female reader, InLoveW/Love United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

Don't think you are alone. I am in your exact situation! I'm in my twenties and i also like to watch lesbian porn. I personally think its because its focused more on the woman being pleased and the sensual side of sex.

Even after my boyfriend has asked me for a threesome I have hinted that i fantasized about other women and to be honest, it makes him uncomfortable. I think he's afraid I'll turn gay and leave him.

This is something that depends on the person you're dating. Telling him you like to look at woman may make him feel insecure so I would suggest keeping this one as your dirty little secret :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

hi if he wanted you to have a 3sum before then he will be happy to know you like watching girls at it tell him u are bisexual it will make your sex life more interesting a change every now and then . hope this helps. xxx

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntYes I'd be even more interested or turned on

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