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Will it hurt me if he puts his fingers inside me?

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Question - (30 June 2007) 13 Answers - (Newest, 21 September 2010)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I am 14 and have a 14 year old boyfriend. Alot of my friends have finger banged or gave hand jobs. My boyfriend has finger banged before, but i havent done either. I want to do both with him and i feel ready and i know he is too. We talk about it alot and i feel like im ready and i want to. All i'm worried about is how to do both properly and if it will hurt if he fingerbangs me cause it will be my first? What if i bleed ? I havent had my period yet so will it hurt more ?

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A female reader, shelja India +, writes (21 September 2010):

well i would suggest u ...not to try so early as u haven't had periods even ...so bettr just hav relationship in spite of going physically intimate.....'coz if got sm bad news u r gonna regret later!!!hope u think wisely...young girl!!:)

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A female reader, bovvalicious United Kingdom +, writes (5 July 2007):

bovvalicious agony auntok well my bf fingered me for the first time a couple of days ago. it hurt for the first time. But what you need to consider is how big his finger are and if you have fingered yourself before are they bigger than yours because the bigger they are the more it will hurt. For me it also hurt for a couple of days like if i sat down realli fast or something like that but it stops hurting im not sure if this will happen to you but it might.

if you want to talk more you can message me

hope i helped!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007):

This is to the male who posted the reply 30th june..... YOU PEOPLE MAKE ME SICK!!!!!!! 1..If we were all the same age it wouldnt really help now would it!!!!..2.. Its a fact of life these days that younger people are going to experiment with sex.. 3.. To give the protective advise is all one can do to help with the young ladys question .. 4..The answers she was given may have given her a different perspective after reading some of the answers as most of them said they felt she was to young... And 5.. DONT JUDGE AND TRY AND EXCUSE YOUR BEHAVIOR AS PERFECT ALL THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE ARE TRYING TO HELP OTHERS AND THE ONLY WAY TO DO THAT IS TO ANSWER A QUESTION AS HONESTLY AS POSSIBLE....

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):

READ THIS!!!!!

And please ignore the reply from "Vane"!!!

If you're going to do it nomatter what, then at least

make sure he loves you and isn't out for a good time.

Here's one way to tell:

Tell him you want to wait 2 years. If he says he'll

wait with you, then he's allright, but odds are he

won't.

I'm a sixteen year old boy who recently changes his ways.

I know what I'm talking about, so please trust me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):

girl if you haven't had your personal period yet, you shoulndn be doing anything with a boy. it's likely gonna be bad news.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007):

it will most likey hurt..and you really should wait till you are older...most of my friends didnt wait and now at 18 they are having babies instead of enjoying life and going to parties...please save ur self..atleast for a couple more years.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

You people make me sick. I can't believe you're antagonizing this behavior from a 14 year old girl. What is this world coming to. I am 22 and have sex quite a bit....but I have been with the girl almost three years. How can any of you say it's ok unless you're the same age and think that you have to do this to be cool. Sometimes I wonder if our society is going to turn into a society of(I don't know if I can say it) but people that give it up too easily and too often. Think back a few decades when people would wait till they were married. Hollyood is ruining us.

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A female reader, MyBrutalRomance-x United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2007):

MyBrutalRomance-x agony auntHey.

You are a bit young to be doing that but if you feel ready and are sure you want to then go ahead, its your choice.

It may hurt a bit if its your first time and i would recommend he put some water or ky jelly on it and slowly insert his finger in to see how you like it first. You may bleed but i wouldn't worry just go to the bathroom and wipe it away. I hope i helped! Feel free to message me if you like. (=

xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

NO,NO,NO,NO,NO

I've done that before and i totally regret it! dont do it because after u do and ur boyfriend breaks up wit u and then u try to go out wit somebody else and ur ex tells ur boyfriend its horrible a total nightmare im 19 and so far its ruined all of my relationships dont do it please save ur body !!!!! :[

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

HIYA SWEETHEART,

I think you are a little to young to be doing this thats my advise, you will have plenty of time later in life to explore the sexual side of life, But if you are going to then please be carefull and protect yourself, i no young girls are having sex much sooner these days.( Makes me sound to old than i like to sound!!!) Yes it may be uncomfortable at first... All i can say to you is think very carefully before you try anything and i say this as i got pregnant at 16 and lost my baby all in 1 year.... So i wish id waited untill i really was ready as that was very upsetting at such a young age.... Make sure if you are thinking of having a sex that you go to your doc and talk about the right contraception for you plus some people dont realise but just by fingering your boyfriend should be clean and gentle as you can get a yeast infection called thrush, so just be safe and think if its really what you want IF YOU NEED TO CHAT MESSAGE ME IM ONLY TO HAPPY TO TALK WITH YOU, YOU TAKE CARE HUNNY LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (30 June 2007):

If your bf puts his fingers inside you it may feel a bit umcomfortable and could hurt. But how much it hurts really depends on how relaxed you are. The more relaxed and less tense you are, the less painful it will be. So if you do decide to let your bf finger you, make sure you feel ok about it, try to stay as relaxed as you can and remmeber if it does hurt you have the right to tell him stop.

If your bf has done this stuff before let him teach you how to give him a hand job, he will be able to tell you what feels good and what doesnt. Also if he fingers you then tell him when it feels good and doesnt so he can know what he is doing right/wrong.

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A female reader, chrissy32789 United States +, writes (30 June 2007):

chrissy32789 agony auntHey hun, you are still young to be doing this but i am not her to judge you and what you do. But yes it will hurt even if you have got your period. When you are ready to get fingered have him get his finger wet or with ky jelly which makes it go eaiser...When he is ready to finger you just be relaxed and sit in a postion that you are comfortable in and let him put one finger slowly in, You may or may not bleed when he does this, if you do bleed dont worrie, just go to the bathroom and wipe it all off that means he has taking your virginaty. Then when you are ready to give him a hand job its not that hard and is not painful to him just rub him up and down. If you have anymore questions just contact me...Good luck and think about this hard and long befor you do it.

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A female reader, Vane United States +, writes (30 June 2007):

Vane agony auntno it won't hurt. the only time it will hurt is when he uses too many fingers or he scratches you be mistake. so enjoy.

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