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*ruce lee
writes:I have a friend who is disgusted that I have been with prostitutes before. She cried when i told her about it. And said that if I ever met a nice lady, and I told her, she would run.Is this true? Are most women disgusted with the idea of a guy having been with a prostitute at some point?Will it scare her off? My specific question is...Will it destroy a relationship if I tell a future girlfriend that I have been with a prostitute?Why does society look dimly on prostitution and people who sleep with them?Is it really such a bad thing?I need you all to put my mind at ease. I need to hear you all say that it's not the end of the world. But if you believe it is the end of the world, you can say it. In Australia, we live in a democracy. People have freedom of speech.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): There is nothing wrong with it if you enjoyed it. But the public perception still frowns on the activity and I think to a degree will always frown on it. So long as you have aquired nothing from visiting prostitutes that would hinder future relationships with other women (ie STDs), I think it would be best to not mention it AT ALL!
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reader, bruce lee +, writes (6 July 2010):
bruce lee is verified as being by the original poster of the question I might have said too much already. But the woman who cried when I told her is married. And she is older than me. And so, I would like to thank you all for your answers. I will go away and think about all this for a while. It is a more serious subject than what I first thought. Looks like I've got myself in a really bad situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): Not the end of the world but I wouldn't go about advertising it....
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 There is just really no good reason to bring it up in conversation. No lover or potential lover is going to be thrilled. Best left unsaid.
There are a lot of misconceptions about prostitution. The sex for money business covers a vast spectrum and one end of that spectrum is genuinely sordid and deeply unpleasant. There are drug addict street walkers and traffic'd women paying off "debts" that never existed, women with very low self esteem controlled by very unpleasant men and there are children that have been sold to brothels by their parents and girls having sex with 8 or more men a day. That is what most people think about when you mention prostitution. So even if you have had a different kind of experience it is best to keep quiet
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2010):
I'm afraid that it probably would send most woman away. The reasons?
1 - STD's - they'll be worried you've got one and don't know about it.
2 - Prostitutes get used. Women will be wary of men who have used other women. They'll be worried about how you perceive other women, and what you want from them.
Bottom line is one woman you know has already taken it badly. So will most others. This is something you need to keep to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): In America, having sex with a prostitute is still very much frowned upon. I would not like knowing that my boyfriend did this. It would make me scared that I could catch a disease from him, I would wonder what his opinions of women are and I would worry that he'll do it again....that's just the tip of the iceberg, moral integrity is a whole nother issue...but maybe Aussie women are different?
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