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writes:Im scared of being alone. Thats my problem. I wake up and wonder when im going to have somebody to wake up to. Im tired of guys coming in and out of my life, messing with my head. I dont know who to trust anymore. It seems like everytime i get close to someone, im being used for all the wrong reason. Ive lost all faith in love, i dont think there's a such thing anymore. And if there is, its not made for me to ever have. Am i ever going to have that special feeling that people get when they wake up in the arms of someone they love? Am i ever gonna feel like i can let my guard down? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): It's when you stop being scared of being on your own that your life will fall into a better place. You need to feel comfortable with you before you can feel good with someone else. People don't need another person to complete them.
Peolpe need to be whole all by themselves. Take care of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): HiYou know, I read somewhere that every woman has the kind of love life she wants and that it is partly her responsibility that her love life is less than satisfactory! Look back and think about the kind of guys you have been dating so far. Did you rush it, or did you simply played along, giving yourself without receiving anything in return? Were you the "Fill IN the BLANK" girl? You know the kind of girl guys like to date until they find someone truly special? Maybe you weren't all that, maybe you were truly special and it is just sheer bad luck so far. The odds of meeting the right kind of guy is so slim! But, yes, I am sure that you will find someone to him you are truly special. I know that I did, and it happened when I wasn't looking for it or even needed it. But I am glad that it did. Now, where are you meeting these guys? See, the ones we meet at certain places (like a bar) tend to be non-consistent ones. How soon do you find yourself falling for such men? It is a good idea to hold back, to take a break, to make them chase after you! Also, are you truly in love with the person or are you in love with the idea of being in love, and the way you feel when you are in love? So, right now, do as Gina says, take a break from guys, look back and analyse your past mistakes, try to fix them. Then when the right guy (or something like him) does come along, make sure that his intentions are serious before you plunge into love. But for now, take a break and think of the fare more interesting things that you can do while you are single. (Often I wish that I was single so I could take off when I wanted, flirt shamelessly and enjoy the attention of all the men without guilt, or just went clubbing everytime!!). SO, you see, have fun and live your life. Don't worry about the special person, when it is time for love, it will happen, in a way that will leave you feeling spectacular!!!! So, cheers :)
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (6 October 2009):
 Yes you will for you maybe your just meeting the wrong kind of guys for you!
Sometimes it helps to have a break from guys when your feeling like this and try to focus on what type of guy you should be meeting, give yourself time to heal and take up some new interests just to take your mind away from some of the negativity that may still be hanging around.
Eventually that goes and when your feeling better and more focused on what you want and who you would like to meet, you will become more choosier where you hang out/who with?
Be choosier in where your seen, nice decent places often attract nice decent people!
So be seen in all the right places, you will meet Mr Right sometimes we have to kiss a lot of frogs though before he comes along, you take care and be good to YOU!
Gina
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