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writes:I get plenty of attention from girls and even occasionally some even ask me out, which from what I hear in not the usual. My problem is that I am not interested in sex, namely penetration. I would very much enjoy foreplay, cuddling, kissing and everything else and can do it for long times.I am really worried going out with girls as they would probably think I am weird and I am worried they would reject me even after they got me to date them. A young guy who doesn't want pentration doesn't seem normal? And no, I am not gay. In fact I feel very uncomfortable even being touched by another male, whereas a female touch is great. I also don't have ED and to have kids, I would have sex without really liking it.So, do you think I am strange, and a question to (especially young) girls would you ever conteplate such a date?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 As long as you have good oral skills and are willing to provide lots of attention manually and orally most of the time and resort to penetration occasionally, I am sure there are women out there that can cope with your desires.
Personally I would prefer oral sex (giving and getting) and manual stimulation (including fingering internally) to penile penetration MOST of the time. But I have to be honest once in a while I want my man to want to fuck my brains out.
I am wondering if once you meet a girl you really deeply care about you will find that the connection of penetration is more important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): OP again. I am considering trying a few one night stands, by picking up girls in areas where I am not known and see how it goes from there. Although that could also turn into a relationship, and then could be happily ever after lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): OP here. People want to know "Why?" I think it has to do with when I found out about sex, I found it strange doing that and it seems to have remained a phobia. And yes I have tried it. I was in a country where there are licenced brothels, where the girls are regularly checked up etc., and I even lost erection when trying penetration, because it was not much interest for me.Those girls seemed to have a good time foreplaying with me, saying they enjoyed it. But can I be sure when it's business for them. There is no doubt I can do it if I really wanted to, but it's not really something I really want(except when wanting children). And confidence and personality is something I do not lack and seems to be one of the things girls like in me.Hopefully, a girl who is trying her best to get me to ask her out, would be ok with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): I think biologically it is a bit odd. In a serious case this might be a sort of disorder - not in realm of bipolar, narcissistic, anxiety, but in eventual erectile disorder, hypoactive sexual desire disorder, etc... BUT DON'T GET SCARED. You have interest in kissing and foreplay which is still sexual interest, just not the exact act itself. May I ask why you are not interested in penetrative sex? Is it the worry about impregnating girls, STDs, etc? Though of course, you can get STDS through other means...Man, I wish I could meet a guy who wasn't too interested in sex. I'm not and my friends are always telling me my boyfriend (if I had one) wouldn't wait over 6 months for me, blah, blah, blah. So in my book, you're OK!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (23 June 2013):
 Hey manI'll be honest it is weird. It seems u lack confidence. A BIG trait women go for. But at the same time if they sense little or none exists they run away. Its wussy. Why are you on here seeking their approval if its ok or not? Vagina is amazing lol n at ur age ur missing out if u choose to not be involved IN it. Perhaps u just need to take ur time n really trust a girl before u involve ur emotions with sex. Its possible u r scared of getting mixed up with the wrong woman in that regard. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): Honestly, as a young woman, it wouldn't matter to me if we have a good emotional connection, which any couple should anyway. Most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex anway.The only thing that would hold me back is the why? many women may sadly feel that this is a rejection, unfotunately many girls want guys to see them for their brains, yet end up finding guys that only see them for their bodies, thus this whole idea that 'shagging' is everything becomes the norm, but really its not. You haven't given the details as to why you do not want penetrative sex, but When you find a girl you really like, you need to explain to her exactly why so she can understand, communcation is key. Also, maybe not every girl will want that kind of a relationship, accept that now and know that they aren't bad, just looking for something else.
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